A new 'tougher' thread... and so it continues

grandma247

I have been out all day and may not actually be able to catch up properly till Monday.
I just wanted to say Pah your hubbys behaviour sounds very familiar. Do you think he may be on the Autism spectrum?

My Aussie friend has two boys with Autism and one who is borderline with ADHD too. The oldest boy has Aspergers and he is very black and white too. He asked a lady why she was so fat when he was a little boy and his mother nearly died of embarrassment, he is like that all the time, although he has learned to temper it a bit. They are just matter of fact about everything and it does not occur to them that what they say can hurt.

SpikyHedgehog

kezlou wrote: »

PAH ((hugs)))

To all those in Durham your not to far from me, i was planning on getting the train to Darlington, and thought not a chance.

After hearing the rain and thunder whack again against the house since 3am. Thought no way, my eldest son had to leave to go for the school bus, just as was about to leave the thunder was right over our house. I made him wait a few minutes before letting him go, it was quite scary.

DS2 was up all night with his aching joints, he's suffers form growing pains and has hyper-mobility. I ended up taking him to school at 9:30am, luckily i phoned them up at 8:30 and said he's just got up and explained what happened. Said it's fine just bring him in at 10am.

Well that's it the statement for extra funding has gone in for ds2, find out a few weeks time whats happening.
It was crazy here yesterday, one minute its boiling, then its freexing, sunny again, then torrential stormy rain, then freezing fog! Whats going on

But i was giving a dressmakers dummy, so going to attempt to make some clothes with it. It hasn't got a stand so going make a bodge up one. So chuffed

the schools my boys too are all like that, always wanting money for something. Today there's a school fayre, so need money for ds2. told him though, were staying long, just once on the games and then were off.

Popperwell i have a single hob little camping stove and it as well as 6 gas cannisters for £10 out of b&m. Its ideal especially when we had all the power cuts over winter.

DS2's sports' day was cancelled from the rain - well, yes the infants' sports this morning would have been rainy, but we've had more sunshine this afternoon again. The summer fair runs after sports' day, they make a whole day of it & that was still on. I gave him £1 for games, bought 3 pieces of cake & brought home for pudding & got some raffle tickets for a booze barrow - a folding wheelbarrow full of booze. Imagine the Xmas presents I could get out of that if I got it! Then we came home & got a lift on the way from a mum I was chatting to the other day.

Evie74 wrote: »

Just about caught up now. (((Huge hugs))) to you PAH - I haven't read your diary yet but you are obviously going through a tough time at home

I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets annoyed with schools issuing demands for random things at short notice! My DD's school seem to want money for this, that and the other nearly every week, and then they ask them to come in silly hats/costumes/specific colours (never what you have in the wardrobe). It's like they have no appreciation or understanding of the work/cost involved at all!

Evie xx

The thing is, there are several parents who just go & spend silly money on these things. DS2's school had a charity day where the kids were supposed to wear something 'bright', & I heard 1 mum claiming to have spend £50 (!!!) on an outfit for her DD which she wouldn't wear again!

smileyt wrote: »

Mrs Chip - how about watercress?

Had a phone call earlier just as I was about to take the dogs out for a paddle. I have a job interview on Thursday :j:j! It's for a healthcare assistant, 20 hours a week, mornings, and the postholder will be trained to give health advice, take blood and,erm, deal with other samples ... It sounds really interesting and the postholder will also be supported to get an NVQ3. It would be absolutely perfect for me as I could combine it with a bit of notetaking in the afternoons to make up the shortfall. I'd be able to give the dogs a little walk before work and walk them properly at lunchtime. And I'd be dealing with different people every day so I wouldn't get bored. I was the first shortlisted person they phoned so I was given the pick of the interview slots, so I chose the last one so that I would be fresh in their minds. So fingers crossed. I am going to search the web for possible interview questions.

No doubt on Wednesday evening I will be a gibbering wreck and posting on here for a kick up the backside!

Congratulations! You'll wow them with your brilliance & nail the job.

DS2 wet the bed again last night. He'd been doing really well in moving from someone who wets the bed to someone who occasionally has an accident, & I know it's because he's got a cold so his body just hasn't got the spare energy for waking up for a wee/holding onto the wee. But it's jolly frustrating when the washing machine's not working! So I've got his white school shirts soaking in soda crystals in a nappy bucket & his sheets soaking in washing powder in the bath.

Frustrated with DS1 - over the week, he's done staying in for the boiler check chap. And half heartedly ran the vacuum over some of the downstairs floors today (the sitting room, some of the kitchen floor & alledegdly the hallway which is only 2 inches square anyway.

Not the downstairs loo where the cat's food & litter tray live, nothing upstairs, no mopping, no dusting, no meeting any friends in person, no going to college for induction (not too fussed as his first choice is somewhere else & if he doesn't get that, his results will be too bad for college but it would have been a day out), only puts the dry washing up I've done in the morning away when nagged.... I've had a stressful [STRIKE]week [/STRIKE] month at work & it's going to keep stressful, which he knows, so I really do not need extra stress at home.

Possession

Mrs_Chip wrote: »

I'm thinking I might go in for growing rice

I lived next door to a rice field in Japan. Had to cycle through it (there was a path!) on the way home from the station.

ginnyknit

I tried watercress... the slugs loved it...oh for a tiny machine gun :mad:

Mrs chip, builders buckets are great just remember in an emergency ...you will have put drainage holes in the bottom...ask me how I know...go on...:rotfl:

Smileyt good luck my dear, Im sure you will do well, just remember to breathe slowly and relax while you wait - yeh and thats easy. Seriously though a bit of meditation works wonders, I do it in stressful situations and actually fell asleep while I was having my tattoo done.

Shegar, glad you are getting some help from the doctors, I know exactly what you mean. hugs to you and Hubby x

Mrs_Chip

Woohoo Thread - congratulations on making it to 10,000 posts!

Mrs_Chip

I mentioned the Nella Last book earlier. From reading what she wrote about him, I think her husband was on the autism spectrum. He 'suffered with his nerves', a common description of an inability to cope with life in those days. He could not cope with change, down to the smallest things in the house. He was a bit 'odd', not recognising how his behaviour affected others. he was distracted and distant, yet needy. She seems to have come to realise his neediness had been there from the start, but had got worse over the years.

How may others live with someone for a long time and only come to the realisation that something is wrong after many years? And are there far more people who are never diagnosed?

Popperwell

fuddle wrote: »

I had no idea. What an absolutely ridiculous policy for livin to adopt. SBH were many things but at least they didn't behave in that manor. There's far too much red taping going on at the moment, fuelled by saving money, but what it's actually doing is prejudicing people.

Poor Barnard Castle. I saw on the news that £9 million worth of damaged was caused last week with the flooding, and that was just in Newcastle.

Don't know if you're on Twitter pops and everyone else on here in Durham but Northern Echo reporters are tweeting their updates on #echoweather

Fuddle, I'll take a look...I preferred SBH and yes I'll admit Livin' are my landlord...no wonder I haven't asked for help if he can't get it what chance have others...the local freeshet today has had four or five people come forward offering to help including an unemployed man and 15 year old a school girl and that was before feature I linked to but from some stories that appeared a week ago. Stupid name for a compamy too...

I disappeared...I went out to get some crates to try and finish tidying up my food store and its still raining heavily out there. I put a black plastic refuse sack over myself to stay dry...

kezlou

:j:j:j:j Congratulations Smileyt!!!!!!!!!!!! :j:j:j

thanks pops my boys will be fine, just keeping fingers and toes crossed that my youngest is granted his statement.

I ended up spending about £4 or £5 at the school fayre just on games, tombola, ds2 got 2 new toys and i got a geranium and a tomato plant. DS2 bought us some home made cakes so had them with ds1 when he came back from school. We ended up having drinks as it started tanking it down again. DS2 sometimes can't handle the rain rain so thoguht best to sit and wait it out.

ds1 already has sports day, but ds2 is on this Friday, can't see it happening myself, unless they do it in the sports hall.

Well i've finished a blanket fpr one of my nieces, just started on another one so that will keep me out of trouble for now lol.

kidcat

PAH- hugs, I live with an OH that is difficult too. Like Mrs C and grandma say ASd is possible, its certainly the case with my OH and if I ever get schools under control I am going to push for help with him

Fuddle - how old is your DD? my DD has a pair of yellow leggings that she inherited from DD17 but refuses to wear, I can have a look at sizing if you like?

Had awful day again, besides the relentless rain, DS was excluded from school. My parents had to collect him as I was on a course. They then took him shopping (something I would never do, and wouldnt normally allow them to take him shopping in case he ran) and apparently he was really good!
Kind of proves its only school - he appears traumatised when he goes and this is flooding out. So have asked for an urgent referral back to CAMHS which my GP did this evening. Just hope they can help him

Garden is looking in serious trouble, we have several inches of water rising - am just thankful we have a tall step.

kidcat

Smiley - exciting news well done