Anyone else hate the school run?

pinkmami

Blimey a bottle of Moet?!?!?! They're lucky to get something from the 3 for 2 offer @ Boots from me (or Home Bargains even!)

onlyroz

bestpud wrote: »

I know someone who will put make up on after swimming because they are going to stop for a take-away on the way home!

That's definitely a need in my book!

Talking about swimming - what about those women who get into the pool wearing perfect hair and make-up, and do a very slow breast-stroke whilst keeping their head well out of the water? :rotfl:

Nicki

Gillyx wrote: »

last year one parent alone got her a bottle of Moet and a massive bunch of flowers from the local florists, I'd say that's going one more than a genuine nice effort of thanks, wouldn't you?

I'd say it might depend on the context. Yes way OTT for a reception class teacher who had done nothing out of the ordinary. Maybe less OTT for a teacher who had picked up on a child with potential who wasnt doing well, and seen them through GCSEs with good grades perhaps?

I had a teacher who picked me up in the corridor as a disaffected 16 year old with average to below average GCSE's and a ropey family background, boosted my self esteem and supported me with A levels and encouraged me to apply to Oxbridge, thus lifting me from a mediocre future with a very limited earning capacity to a successful career and very different life path. My parents couldn't have afforded to buy him a bottle of champagne then, and he died a few years later before I graduated, but if we'd had the money at the time, a decent bottle of champagne and a bunch of flowers would have been the very least he deserved. 25 years later, and I can still look back on that man as one of the most important people in my life outside of my husband and kids.

ETA and if I HAD had a chance to buy him a bottle of champagne and some flowers as a Christmas gift, it would have gone nowhere near expressing how grateful I was to him, and would have had naff all to do with impressing anyone in the playground who would not have got to hear of it from me.

poet123

onlyroz wrote: »

It is a "need" if you physically cannot leave the house, even for a few minutes, without wearing any.

Of course I can physically leave the house I don't want to, I like wearing make up, so I wear it, just as I always wear heels, I can physically wear flats, but I don't want to. Are getting this?

poet123

Nicki wrote: »

I'd say it might depend on the context. Yes way OTT for a reception class teacher who had done nothing out of the ordinary. Maybe less OTT for a teacher who had picked up on a child with potential who wasnt doing well, and seen them through GCSEs with good grades perhaps?

I had a teacher who picked me up in the corridor as a disaffected 16 year old with average to below average GCSE's and a ropey family background, boosted my self esteem and supported me with A levels and encouraged me to apply to Oxbridge, thus lifting me from a mediocre future with a very limited earning capacity to a successful career and very different life path. My parents couldn't have afforded to buy him a bottle of champagne then, and he died a few years later before I graduated, but if we'd had the money at the time, a decent bottle of champagne and a bunch of flowers would have been the very least he deserved. 25 years later, and I can still look back on that man as one of the most important people in my life outside of my husband and kids.

ETA and if I HAD had a chance to buy him a bottle of champagne and some flowers as a Christmas gift, it would have gone nowhere near expressing how grateful I was to him, and would have had naff all to do with impressing anyone in the playground who would not have got to hear of it from me.

What a lovely post.

I agree that some teachers make such a mark that you never forget them. One of my sons had a teacher who really helped him, he went the extra mile. When he retired I sourced a copy of a fishing book that I knew he would love (he was an avid fisherman) and it gave me so much pleasure to try to express our appreciation in that way, with something I knew would be treasured. I wanted to do it, and it was not done with any other intent other than to thank him. I didn't tell anyone, but I suspect if I had the mums I had the good fortune to meet on the school run would have been happy for him and congratulated me for having an original idea, and would not have imbued the gesture with any other intent.

Person_one

Nicki wrote: »

No, it is a ritual which is something completely different. The posters who wear it all the time feel more comfortable having applied it before leaving the house, or even if planning in being at home all day. I feel the same way about brushing my teeth and hair. I would not feel comfortable even nipping to the local shop first thing for a pint of milk without brushing my teeth first even though no one would know or care whether I had or hadn't. Most, if not all, of us have something similar. It doesn't make us needy, insecure, OCD or any other pathology you care to name, just a normal human reaction.

Bit different really. Brushing your teeth daily (twice) is pretty essential if you want a healthy mouth, hair brushing is less important but if you don't do it you end with mats and tangles that are painful if not impossible to get out. If you don't put makeup on...you just aren't wearing makeup, no other consequences! Surely it can't be great for your skin to wear it day in day out?

Person_one

poet123 wrote: »

Of course I can physically leave the house I don't want to, I like wearing make up, so I wear it, just as I always wear heels, I can physically wear flats, but I don't want to. Are getting this?

Heels are awful for your feet and back if they're higher than about an inch and a half. Won't do you any harm if its a couple of times a week for a few hours, but always? Not a great idea.

Gillyx

Nicki wrote: »

I'd say it might depend on the context. Yes way OTT for a reception class teacher who had done nothing out of the ordinary. Maybe less OTT for a teacher who had picked up on a child with potential who wasnt doing well, and seen them through GCSEs with good grades perhaps?

I had a teacher who picked me up in the corridor as a disaffected 16 year old with average to below average GCSE's and a ropey family background, boosted my self esteem and supported me with A levels and encouraged me to apply to Oxbridge, thus lifting me from a mediocre future with a very limited earning capacity to a successful career and very different life path. My parents couldn't have afforded to buy him a bottle of champagne then, and he died a few years later before I graduated, but if we'd had the money at the time, a decent bottle of champagne and a bunch of flowers would have been the very least he deserved. 25 years later, and I can still look back on that man as one of the most important people in my life outside of my husband and kids.

ETA and if I HAD had a chance to buy him a bottle of champagne and some flowers as a Christmas gift, it would have gone nowhere near expressing how grateful I was to him, and would have had naff all to do with impressing anyone in the playground who would not have got to hear of it from me.

Oh I'd agree, whilst in school, after our important exams in 2 of my classes we as teenagers all clubbed together to get a really nice gift for our teachers. My friend teaches 5 year olds, not saying she doesn't have a large impact on their lives because she probably does, but I think a small minding to let her know she's appreciated is more than enough. Not saying she didn't enjoy that bottle of Moet though

Gillyx

pinkmami wrote: »

Blimey a bottle of Moet?!?!?! They're lucky to get something from the 3 for 2 offer @ Boots from me (or Home Bargains even!)

This is the same parent who wouldn't bring back a book her child had been given the year previously and was bawling and shouting in the playground at my friend calling her a stupid little girl.

I think she probably likes to cause a scene no matter where she goes.

lallysmum

My son's teacher will be getting something special (hand knitted for her baby I think) only because she has been absolutely brilliant with him since he started in Sept. He has ASD and is extremely bright but very socially behind and his language isn't really understandable to anyone but me, yet she goes out of her way to make challenging work for him to do, she really, really tries to understand him and is teaching him special phrases to use when he wants stuff, she has created the most amazing IEP for him and quite honestly, I couldn't repay her enough. So she gets something special for Christmas.

Re the playground. I may be quite outgoing in my online persona, facebook, on here etc, but in real life I am painfully shy. I just find it impossible to start conversations with people I don't know, so I would have loved someone to come up to me to ask if I wanted to go for a coffee. Even if they were being snide.
I think I've smiled at most people in the playground, but haven't yet managed to actually talk to anyone. In 3 months, lol. I have had plenty of imaginary conversations with them though, they get quite interesting. I now take my kindle and read until he comes out. Everyone probably thinks I am standoffish, but I literally can't bring myself to start chatting.
Oh and I occasionally wear make up for the pick up, but am usually stinky and unwashed in the morning as I prefer to stay in bed a little longer and shower when I get home from dropping him off. Peace and quiet! I always mean to wear a bit of makeup as I usually have massive black bags under my eyes, but when I weigh up the putting of it on against 4 mins more sleep, sleep always wins!