Real Life MMD: Should I pay extra tenner for hotel blunder?

littlejaffa

Re the point it's 'only' £10 for some people that's a family xmas pressie or a new outfit, it can make a huge difference. Is it possible they've already absorbed the lions share of the extra cost and are just passing a little on?

It's whether you want to make a point strongly enough that you want to risk a friendship for £10. Saying you found the original request a bit much but if it's getting more expensive you might have to drop out - should do the trick.

The middle ground to pay the extra in january either by 'accidentally' trasfering the wrong amount to them, or bluntly saying so.

KatieJ205

It is only £10 but could have been so much more and it's a bit rich to expect friends to pick up the tab for this mistake. If the wedding venue turned out to cost more, would all the guests be expected to contribute their share of the difference? I recall a situation when a friend insisted on driving us to a restaurant in London despite us all agreeing to go by train and us having bought the train tickets in advance. As we weren't local, we took their advice that this would be the more sensible option. We were dropped off at the restaurant only to subsequently find out that they'd parked illegally and incurred a large fine. We were all then expected to contribute our 'share'... This isn't that different a situation and on principle alone, I'd say don't pay the £10.

nczm

Just a quick question, did people agree to come then drop out or did the people arranging simply overbook? If the first instance then really the dropouts should really have to pay - if they'd booked themselves they wouldn't get their money back. How much notice does the hotel need to cancel the booking, it seems a bit unusual that they're completely unwilling to amend the booking - I rearrange these types of things for business all the time.
Worst case and you have no luck its worth paying the tenner for the friendship is worth much more, just see if you can keep the money together - I stick all my loose change in a pot (mainly to stop spending it unnessesarily) and can easily rack up £40+ in a month.

elvis86

littlejaffa wrote: »

Re the point it's 'only' £10 for some people that's a family xmas pressie or a new outfit, it can make a huge difference. Is it possible they've already absorbed the lions share of the extra cost and are just passing a little on?

I disagree with this. £10 isn't that much in the context of a failry pricey weekend away that the OP has agreed to attend and thought they could afford. I still don't think they should pay though, those who have dropped out should be pursued for the money, or the bride and groom should count this as a lesson learnt re those friends.

TimBear wrote: »

I am in a similar situation. We have booked a holiday between friends for next year, we've all paid deposits and now two can't go which has meant the holiday provider has had to change the whole booking for some reason.

Anyway, now we are each having to pay around £80 more which I am FUMING about! It's the principle to me - they said they'd go now they've decided they're not, why is that my fault? I agreed to go on this (already expensive!) holiday when it was x amount and now it's more through no fault of my own.

If I for whatever reason could no longer go, there is no way I would expect the others to cover my share!

My partner says there's nothing we can do and just to pay up because it's 'nothing compared to what the holiday cost'. I want to speak to the friend who's not going any more but my partner says he just definitely won't pay it and it'll cause problems.

So, it's a tricky one because if I don't pay then I don't go, and I really want to go there. But I think it's cheeky for this person to expect us to carry the burden because they have pulled out!

To be honest, I think I will just pay it and budget accordingly

This is a scenario that's very difficult. In this instance I assume that we're talking about a cottage or something, which you had booked as it sleeps 12 (for example), but then as some people have dropped out, you are now being accomodated in a smaller one which costs more per person?

Obviously with hotel rooms, the people that had dropped out would've lost their deposit and their rooms would've been cancelled. But with something like this it's potentially more complicated. I'm not sure how I would deal with this (though it goes without saying that I would be mad with those who had dropped out!).

VoucherMan

It may only be £10 now but what if someone else decides not to pay the extra £10 and cancels. How much more will it go up by then?

I'd be the first to cancel not the last.

TimBear

elvis86 wrote: »

I disagree with this. £10 isn't that much in the context of a failry pricey weekend away that the OP has agreed to attend and thought they could afford. I still don't think they should pay though, those who have dropped out should be pursued for the money, or the bride and groom should count this as a lesson learnt re those friends.



This is a scenario that's very difficult. In this instance I assume that we're talking about a cottage or something, which you had booked as it sleeps 12 (for example), but then as some people have dropped out, you are now being accomodated in a smaller one which costs more per person?

Obviously with hotel rooms, the people that had dropped out would've lost their deposit and their rooms would've been cancelled. But with something like this it's potentially more complicated. I'm not sure how I would deal with this (though it goes without saying that I would be mad with those who had dropped out!).

That's it, we've booked a villa and are now having to have a smaller one. I'm so cross about it! But as one of the people is one of my partner's close friends I feel I can't make a fuss.

I have spoken to another of the girls who's going and she's p*ssed off too about having to fork out extra for the holiday but then what can we do?

auntie_sal

I really can't help but think that things like stag and hen does are getting totally out of control. I have lost count of how many times someone has said to me its much too expensive but I don't like to say no, hence the bride or groom doesn't always get their very bestest friends there, just the ones who can afford it, how ridiculous is that? I know I am taking the opportunity to lecture but maybe now a big deposit has to be saved to get a mortgage, it is time to cut down on the whole wedding thing and save some money. Back in the sixties the deposit was also high (100% mortgages are quite recent) and that is why stag nights were up the local pub and receptions in the village hall. Anyway no, I wouldn't pay more than you had agreed to even if it meant I couldn't go.

LauraCV21

OK as far as I can see, you've been asked to stump up extra cash because other people have dropped out. There are two ways to look at this:
1. Why didn't the organiser say at the start 'pick from dates x, y, z', then say 'this is the date chosen, we can go to a, b or c', then say 'we're going to 'b' so confirm you want to go now, it will cost you £q deposit, which is non-refundable.Final prices will be sent to you when we've booked everything.' If things change after that because of hotel/transport issues then the organiser has a good reason to refuse to pay exta cos it's out of their control but if people then drop out cos they changed their minds they should cough up their share as it's their fault and they've had plenty of notice (emergencies excluded of course).
2. Why is the hotel charging cancellation fees for an event that's at least one month away ("I'm going to a stag and hen do next year ..." - most give up to a week before for cancellations, with percentages of room price for cancellations a week or less before - are the hotel trying it on to get more money - if they have at least a month's notice they should be able to re-book the room(s) out!?

LauraCV21

Sorry - forgot to finish previous message. Depending of whether option 1 or 2 applies you have these choices:
1. If others are inconsiderate can you afford to cover their costs (will there be more costs to cover?)
2. If the organiser isso disorganised why are you paying for their mistakes
3. Why is the hotel trying to rip you off - this needs fighting
4. is the hassle worth it

debbiesmum

I agree that hen/stag do's are getting out of hand. I chose not to go to one organised by a friend as it wasn't something I wanted to spend £100 on (spa treatments). I also have to say that I think people have lost sight about what is REALLY important about weddings. It's the time spent in front of the registrar, minister, priest or celebrant. So many weddings seem to have become a competition to see who can spend the most money.