Real Life MMD: Should I pay extra tenner for hotel blunder?

up4thecup

Similar thing just happened with my Mrs and a hen do, they sent original email about 3 months ago outlining what they were planning (hen do not until May '12)... but only last week sent a 2nd email saying that they need £150 by the 16th December - that is just over three weeks notice for £150 which comes out of the last pay day before Christmas! Now my OH is panicking as she doesn't want to miss out on her mates hen do but also doesn't want to have to cut back on Christmas, especially when we have so many nice things planned throughout December!

suisidevw

It's £10?!?!? jeeeeeeeeeeez!

JayD

I know a tenner is a lot to you but we do pull the stops out for friends' weddings. It is sad that the cost has had to be increased but even sadder that others have let them down and caused that rise.

This is not your friends' fault, so please don't mar the event by adding to the numbers dropping out. So in my opinion I think you should be a true friend, bite the bullet and cough up.

Solomon_Broad

If it's "just £10" then the bride and groom can pay it. It's the worst time of year to e finding extra cash, and it's not even the OP's fault. I say don't pay.

anjak-j

If I couldn't afford the extra £10, I'd probably question spending all that cash on an expensive hotel too - which it seems many of their friends have already done. Also, there are bound to be a load of other costs involved - drinks, meals, etc.

TBH, I think it's a cheek to ask other people to foot the bill when the mistake is the couple's own, as is the case here.

silverswan

Yes I'd pay the tenner but don't give them a Christmas pressie. If you weren't going to anyway, then cut down on cards or other pressies.

joehoover

Everyone could stretch to a tenner surely, you can cut out a tenner easily whether you snoke, drink do the lottery, buy newspapers for a week.

It's annoying but I'm sure you'll make it up at the wedding with free food and possibly a free bar for a bit.

Depends how much you think of your friends, if you don't think they are worth a tenner than I wouldn't have bothered going to the wedding at all. If they are, pay it and have a great time.

It may still be a good deal anyway, if they block booked rooms they should have negotiated a better rate.

Bella56

I'd be adding myself to the non-attendees I'm afraid. It's not just the £10, although that must rankle, it is the fact that he is already paying for his room at the expensive motel and can't afford it. Good friends wouldn't expect everyone to cough up for somewhere really posh; they clearly are only thinking of themselves.

bigperk

Well you've gone for the main expense, so I would still go for it - BUT, it may go up even more if others are also having your second thoughts, so I'd be inclined to make it clear to the happy couple that you really couldn't afford a second hike at the mo. BTW have you paid a sizeable deposit already that you would lose anyway? that could complicate the decision a bit.

Main thing is, if you do decide to stick with it, put it behind you and concentrate on enjoying the occasion anyway - you won't save a penny if you don't!

elvis86

If ever I book anything and pay a deposit, I either get the deposits from people before booking, or pay it myself if I trust the people in question to cough up (I'm now wary of doing this except with close friends as I have been stung before).

IMO the bride and groom should be pursuing the people who have dropped out for the shortfall, if they said they were coming in the knowledge that the bride and groom were paying a deposit and subsequently dropped out. If I were the OP and had been asked to pay the extra £10, I would probably point this out and query why the bride and groom weren't doing this.

I'm in agreement that it's not worth losing friends over a tenner, but equally if I were the bride and groom I would look to those who dropped out to pay their shares of the deposit. And if I was unsuccessful in this, I would count it as a lesson learned that you don't pay deposits on behalf of those people again. I certainly wouldn't be expecting those of my friends who were making the effort to attend, to pick up the extra cost.