Real life MMD: Should my friend keep the cash for my dress?

pennypinchUK

Yes, of course. You can ask nicely, surely? She's not much of a friend if she doesn't give you the cash. If that's the case, get the money and find a new friend.

kaylee*

No wonder some people have lots of money. They turn a deaf ear, when they owe people money!

If I owe money, it prays on my mind and I give it back asap! I hate owing money, so I rarely borrow it.

Your friend is hoping you forget or give up!

I don't think she has forgot or it too busy. You know you owe money and when t needs paying

Like others have said, go in the shop when it's busy and say it out loud, that she owes you money, but smile and be friendly, but don't leave till she gives it to you.

Tell her you want to buy something you have seen in a sale or something and you are on your way to put a deposit, so you need it NOW!

Good luck! Cheeky woman knows what she is doing, so don't let her get away with it.

cwilso

I can relate to this and whilst I wouldn't jump to any conclusions because when you see your friend she might not have the cash. If not then I would keep pressing the matter and arrange to collect it, stating clearly that you need the money.
I certainly wouldn't be going into her shop or demanding the money as after all surely she was the one who did you a favour by selling the dress, if you made it a big deal she could always take commission as she used her shop to sell it.
Stay friends and just arrange a time to collect it.

Chris

Gillsx

Get your money back and consider if she is a friend worth keeping. If it's a simple case of she's forgetful, then pop to her store when she is there and ask for it - she can't say no then. She should be considerate of your position and pay you for what was your property. If she wants commission that's different, but more than 10% would be unfair.

tabret2004

I would say, if you didn't donate it, then you should get something for it. Not necessarily the full amount as she took her time to sell it. Like a commission sort of deal.

bogwart

Why is this a dilemma? Of course she should pay you, and it would seem she's never queried the fact that she owes you the money. The only query I would have is why you still consider her a friend, because friends don't treat friends in this way. I wouldn't be too sure that she has such a very good income, either.

Gresp

Of course you should. How is this a dilemma?

But seeing as the "I forgot" excuse has worn thin, you need to try a different approach. No need to be too demanding - just ask her in a way that will eliminate possible excuses.

For example, pop into her shop, let her know in advance when you're coming (or, better still, ask when suits), offer different payment methods (bank transfer, cash, etc), and point out why you need the money.

Basically, be firm, reasonable, and don't give her room to manoeuvre. If she's a proper friend, she won't find this a problem. But if she still tries to wriggle out of it, you'll know her real intentions.

She's the one who should feel guilty, not you.

newcook

A big WOW to all the people saying she’s not a friend! I would agree if she wasn’t returning calls or avoiding you but I think she’s just a scatterbrain!

My housemate is very similar – we have been mates for 18 years but she always has about a million and one things going on, forgets little and big things (forgot my birthday card and present – still not had it!), but is even more forgetful when it comes to money mainly because she rarely has cash on her! She more often than not pays for stuff by card and when she goes out her boyfriend or brothers pay for her drinks as she is the one driving so is on the pop.

OP if I were you, I would go and see her at the shop

Littleweedj

Yes and keep on asking until she pays up. The words "she sold it on your behalf" answers your question.

You have no dilema - just keep repeating the request until you have the money.

Doesn't sound like the actions of a good friend, "forgetting?????" so many times is not acceptable, sounds as if she is basically trying it on.

barrenelly

Ask her to lend you £60, then when you pay her back, remind her she still owes you £30.
And keep it!