Real life MMD: Should my friend keep the cash for my dress?

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Money Moral Dilemma: Should my friend keep the cash for my dress?

My friend sold a dress on my behalf in her store for £30. When I asked her for the money (which I felt awful having to do), she said she would give it to me next time she saw me. On four occasions I asked and each time she forgot. I was made redundant recently, while she has a very good income. Should I ask for the money back again?

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euterpe13

The dress was your property, she sold it on your behalf acting as your agent. You need the money. Go into the store and ask her for the money from the sale.

Shain

She's being very unfair, especially as she has more money than you anyway and can presumably afford to give you it! If you ask for the money, you might get it, but lose the friend, so which is worth more?

I have to say that I think it's worth risking losing a friend who isn't acting much like a friend, so I would ask again, clearly, unambiguously and politely. And if she doesn't give you what is clearly your money, then I guess it was worth £30 to find out what kind of friend she was... after all, would you trust her again? I don't think I would!

Greenfly_3

I totally agree with Shain. Some friends are not what they seem to be. In this case paying you could be quite low on her priorites, but you do have to stress that you do need the money, but thank her for her help.

auntie_sal

If you don't get the money you will always have it on your mind and it will not be easy to stay friends. You could ask her if she has forgotten to pay you (as she has more money this may be the case). I don't really see why you should explain why you need the money, a friend would understand and not need to be told. Don't let her get away with 'next time she sees you'. Give her a date such as 'I will be in next Friday'. Then at the end of the day if she refuses to pay up I'm afraid I would have to tell her why she is no longer considered to be my friend.

FelinePrincess

Yes, it's a bit naughty of her not to have paid you despite several requested. Ask her again very firmly, preferably at a time when you know she has money on her so there will be no excuses.

I would question how good a friend she is, I know everyone forgets now and then but when you have asked her several times she really should have paid you back by now.

Hope you get it back ok

eilbrohob

Hi, wait till this so called "friend" is at her busiest in her shop and then ask her out loud in front of everyone if she would mind giving you the money she received from the sale of your dress a while ago and I'll bet any money she wont know how quick to pay you. She will not want customers thinking that she cannot be trusted, after all her business is at stake. The point I am making is that a "FRIEND" would not have done this in the first place and she has no excuse.

lovemystudentloan

She's no longer your friend hon and the relationship was only worth £30 to her. Perhaps she feels you owe her for selling the dress but she's gone the wrong way about it so go to her shop, smile and say 'The £30 you owe me - I'd like it now". Don't take no for an answer - you already tried that 4 times and it didn't work.

19lottie82

of course!

call or text to say you are really skint due to redundancy and need the cash, tell her you will pop in to her shop, and ask her when suits?

Marco12452

Get £25 off her, leave her with a fiver commission. All are happy then ???
Tell her you need it now !

Badger_Lady

I have to confess that I often find myself in the same position as your friend... it's not maliciousness, stinginess or lack of caring, I'm just that scatty! Every time I remember to get the cash out, the cash machine is out of order. Every time I see the friend I haven't got cash on me. I prefer when the friend chases me for it (knowing they shouldn't have to!) because I hate owing anything.

The easiest way to chase me for money is to give me your PayPal email address. I will sit down and send the money via computer without blinking - no need for cash, paper or banking passwords. Is that a possibility for you?