Will - excluding a child

princessdreamer

DUTR wrote: »

What about in the case where the Mother never contributed to any of the Father's estate?

Ok I'll bite. CSA does not in the majority of cases cover anywhere near 50% of the cost of raising children, so by paying the majority of the childs costs she has contributed to his wealth.:)

katerinasol

lol @ all the bitter single mothers in here, way to be objective

Person_one

molliejo wrote: »

None of this stuff is straightforward. Children can get details of the nrp but who knows what they've been told by the PWC, they may not want to because of what they have been told.

My husband seems to get nowhere however hard he tries. His first son to an ex is 12 and he's never had contact as she's never allowed it. We've tried contact via facebook just asking for details of how he's doing and photo's etc. She just ignores him. It upsets him even though he's never had a relationship with him.

His second son, to a different ex is another story! He left when he was 3 and has had contact regularly. At first he probably had his son more than the PWC as he wasn't working and she couldn't be bothered. When she found herself another partner it went down to every other weekend. She was always planning things for his weekend and sometimes he went months without seeing him. He decided recently that he would see him one night a week, she wasn't happy but said ok. The first time he went to collect him on a week night she wasn't in!! When he caontacted her she just gave him loads of abuse. His son is 8 now and already has major issues that are due to the constant messing around. My husband doesn't know when he will see him again and he doesn't know what to do anymore.

Has he tried going through the courts?

princessdreamer

katerinasol wrote: »

lol @ all the bitter single mothers in here, way to be objective

lol at the saddo who has to make jokes at others

jtr2803

I'm the estranged child!!!.....

Ok not literally but my father provided maintenance until I was 18 and I haven't seen him since I was 15. He and my mum had a relationship and he left when she fell pregnant. I have no doubt I will not be mentioned in his will, nor do I expect to be. He has other children which I understand were wanted and I am sure will be provided for very handsomely due to my fathers accumulated wealth but that won't be me.

Am I emotionally scarred by this....err NO

Would I ever dream of contesting it....errr NO

Do I think I should be left something...errr NO

His money, he earnt it, he can do what he likes with it. If he wanted to 'exclude' me from his will (which I would think he has tried to do if such a thing is/was possible) then that's up to him and not really any skin off my nose, we don't have any contact and there will never be any contact. My mum made the decision to have and raise me and I think she did a pretty good job. To be honest I find too much emphasis can be put on inheritance and what is 'due' to people. The only money you are ever due is that which you have earnt youself.

DUTR

princessdreamer wrote: »

Ok I'll bite. CSA does not in the majority of cases cover anywhere near 50% of the cost of raising children, so by paying the majority of the childs costs she has contributed to his wealth.:)

Every case is different, pro rata, some get over £30k net equivalent for only working 16hrs per week in a shop , so in the background we do contribute a lot lot more than csa contributions. But back to the spirit of the thread, once past dependancy they do not have to be included for a share of any estate

euronorris

katerinasol wrote: »

lol @ all the bitter single mothers in here, way to be objective

I am neither a single mother, nor bitter. But there are certain things I disagree with.

Was this comment the only thing you had to add to the discussion? If so, I wonder why you even bothered?

djdido2

DUTR wrote: »

I still don't see how the kid suffers. Where is the law to say when on passes on then the deceased must have some kind of estate to pass on?
The man wants to leave his estate to his family and he is entitled to do that .

The said child IS FAMILY!!!!!!! And if he chooses to leave his OWN FLESH AND BLOOD OUT OF THE EQUATION, he does not deserve the title of PARENT!

djdido2

princessdreamer wrote: »

In a lot of new relationships the new woman pushes the old family out through jealousy or insecurity. Especially with older children who have their own opinions.

This is exactly what has happened to my DD from being a toddler, she is nearly 16 now. DD is very balanced and has high self esteem and a Mother that would walk to the end of the earth for her. Still does not make up for all the confusion she suffered as a younger child that did not understand.

Reassured her to the hilt but it has still caused her many confusing issues:mad:

DUTR

djdido2 wrote: »

The said child IS FAMILY!!!!!!! And if he chooses to leave his OWN FLESH AND BLOOD OUT OF THE EQUATION, he does not deserve the title of PARENT!

Title of parent is not status, and if the parent cannot make accomodation then she should not have the title of parent either, basically what I am saying is grow up! If someone is only around to put money on the table when they are alive then you can quickly see why they will be discluded from there new family .
Whether you like what I have written or not is a moot point, the law says he does not have to make provision for non dependant children, and if they are estranged then why should they be?