Kids and dating?

gingin_2

I went to an all girl's school, so please forgive me for my ignorance but when did you or your children start dating?

I was talking to a friend yesterday who told me that year 7's (mostly 11 years old) my son's age, are going out on dates. Proper dates, i.e cinema, out for food. I thought maybe 14-16 was the age for young romance, but 11?

She felt with her son that it was because of peer pressure but I am wondering if I have been living under a rock the past 33 years?

victory

11:eek: I remember many years ago we went on the date with my eldest:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: he was about 9/10 at the time and they went to Macdonalds we sat elsewhere and they had a milkshake and some food and it was so sweet but not really dating, they never went out again:rotfl: no. not because we were there but because son said he could not afford a girlfriend:rotfl:

11 does seem a bit young, if they go in a group to the cinema then that is not so much a date but going out together in a gang then yes guess so but not one to one...

gingin_2

victory wrote: »

11:eek: I remember many years ago we went on the date with my eldest:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: he was about 9/10 at the time and they went to Macdonalds we sat elsewhere and they had a milkshake and some food and it was so sweet but not really dating, they never went out again:rotfl: no. not because we were there but because son said he could not afford a girlfriend:rotfl:

11 does seem a bit young, if they go in a group to the cinema then that is not so much a date but going out together in a gang then yes guess so but not one to one...

Well, she was implying it was a one to one thing. My 11 son goes out in a group but I'm certain it's not a date. Love that you went to MacDonalds with your son, my son still thinks all girls are yuck, romance wise (or so he says).

Alikay

DD had a "boyfriend" when she was 12. It was a very close friendship, with a lot of long phone calls, some hand-holding but no kissing. She dumped him primarily because he kept talking about snogging and she didn't fancy it!:D. At 14 there were proper boyfriends and at 15 the trouble really started with the 16 year old latino who spent hours smouldering at her across our lounge, waiting for us to go out so he could pounce! (we didn't, so he couldn't!:rotfl:)

Our sons left it much later to have girlfriends: DS2 was 17, and DS1 (gorgeous, but likes to spend his cash on himself) waiting until he was about 19.

Hermia

I remember 11-12 year olds going out for dates in my school and that was the 80s/90s. It was never anything more sophisticated than the cinema and a McDonalds though!

VestanPance

Going back to my youth it was pretty common for people of 10/11 to have boyfriends/girlfriends. Mostly involved meeting up for a snog or kiss, and almost without fail lasted no longer than about three days. None of it was actually dating though. Unless standing around a corner kissing a girl while you could hear your mates sniggering constitutes a date!

I think if you lasted a week it was seem as some sort of unofficial engagement. :rotfl:

newcook

I had my first date when I was 11 - we went the the cinema with my best friend at the time and her boyfriend!

rachbc

My 13 yo son is just not interested at all - he did complain tat 11 or so that some of his mates were boring because they had grls friends - niether the GF nor the mate lasted long!

Gingham_R

It's just practising for the real thing, like trying on mum's high heels when they're 6.

I had a 'boyfriend' at that age. There was nothing untoward in it.

VestanPance

I had my first kiss at 6 or 7. In truth it was more of an attack, as the girl across the street just wanted to kiss a boy and I was picked as the one for the job.

I tried to fend her off for fear of being gay for kissing a girl! Being 6/7 was a confusing age!

neverdespairgirl

gingin wrote: »

I went to an all girl's school, so please forgive me for my ignorance but when did you or your children start dating?

I was talking to a friend yesterday who told me that year 7's (mostly 11 years old) my son's age, are going out on dates.

I was 17! Now 33 (-: