Boyfriend Possessed by Ghost?

ceridwen

I think - as a friend - that O.P. really does need to meet this guy. If she didnt - then she wouldnt be looking out for her friend - and I think thats something that she's honour bound to do (assuming a decent level of friendship is there between them).

It DOES make sense though to make sure it's somewhere public - eg all three of you going out for a coffee somewhere together.

cavework

Tell her to have a night in with him and rent 'Paranormal Activity'.
Wear garlic and if that doesn't work eat garlic. Turn down the lights and shout BOO at every suitable moment then pour him a large glass of Chianti and offer him some Fava beans
This bloke is a complete TWONK
x

j.e.j.

cardboard_chewer wrote: »

My female friend met a man about 2 weeks ago. They were getting on fine, he was generous, funny, charming etc.
A week ago he invited her round to his house. They went out to the pub for a drink and then went back to his house.
What happened next is shocking, in the early hours of the morning he told her to **** off and get out of his house (the actual language was worse than this but I'm sure you know what I mean).
At first she thought he was joking but then realised he was deadly serious. She grabbed her bag and ran out of the house in fright to her car. She drove home to her house which is about 1 hour away.
I know there are some bad people around but I was appalled he could behave like that and I thought she had a lucky escape.
A few days later he phoned her, not to apologise, but to explain what happened. He said he was possessed by a ghost and that was what caused him to become aggressive and throw her out of the house.
It gets worse... she believed him! She went round to his house again last weekend. I told her that was not a very intelligent course of action.
I've told her that he is either mentally unstable and needs help that she cannot provide or he is playing some kind of game like testing what he can get away with.
She says she really likes him and wants to introduce him to me... I diplomatically said I was busy but I think I'm going to be asked again.
Any advice? Do I stonewall refuse to meet him and risk making myself look like the bad guy in not giving him a chance? Or do I make a token effort and meet him?

I'd be a bit concerned, tbh. He sounds a bit of an oddball. Also, if you were to meet him, conversation's going to be slightly awkward, - does he know that you know about the 'ghost'? I take it he didn't get 'possessed' again the second weekend she was there?:rotfl:

SailorSam

If you do go to meet this guy be careful, knock on the door and ask 'is there anybody there'

*max*

SailorSam wrote: »

If you do go to meet this guy be careful, knock on his forehead and ask 'is there anybody there'

Here, I corrected that for ya.

Beetlemama

cardboard_chewer wrote: »

.....he told her to **** off and get out of his house....A few days later he phoned her....to explain what happened.

Well, it took him a long time to think that up, didn't want to tell her he's mentally ill right off the bat in a new relationship I guess. I would absolutely not go to meet him, and I would keep on telling her what a bad idea this is.

As my old friend once said about a patient at the secure hospital for the criminally insane "...in a way though, he isn't a bad person, I know he cut a womans head off, but he genuinely believed she was the devil and he was saving the world".......it's all in the perception I guess.

thorsoak

cardboard_chewer wrote: »

My female friend met a man about 2 weeks ago. They were getting on fine, he was generous, funny, charming etc.
A week ago he invited her round to his house. They went out to the pub for a drink and then went back to his house.
What happened next is shocking, in the early hours of the morning he told her to **** off and get out of his house (the actual language was worse than this but I'm sure you know what I mean).
At first she thought he was joking but then realised he was deadly serious. She grabbed her bag and ran out of the house in fright to her car. She drove home to her house which is about 1 hour away.
I know there are some bad people around but I was appalled he could behave like that and I thought she had a lucky escape.
A few days later he phoned her, not to apologise, but to explain what happened. He said he was possessed by a ghost and that was what caused him to become aggressive and throw her out of the house.

So why didn't he warn her beforehand that this could happen??
It gets worse... she believed him! She went round to his house again last weekend. I told her that was not a very intelligent course of action.
I've told her that he is either mentally unstable and needs help that she cannot provide or he is playing some kind of game like testing what he can get away with.
She says she really likes him and wants to introduce him to me... I diplomatically said I was busy but I think I'm going to be asked again.
Any advice? Do I stonewall refuse to meet him and risk making myself look like the bad guy in not giving him a chance? Or do I make a token effort and meet him?

OK - so you could make a token effort and meet him - but not at his house - and I would strongly advise you to keep telling your friend to leave him where he is! She may well like him - but does she like his ghost????

claire16c

I think you need to take your friend on a night out or something and get her confidence up and introduce her to some normal guys.

This guy is clearly a nutcase and the fact she likes him, when she could potentially date any other of the several tens of millions living in this country instead, is rather worrying!! And the fact she chose to believe him!

cavework

What time does his wife finish her night shift?

shegirl

It's really bad but I can't help but laugh at this!!:o

Either the guy is mentally ill or he said it as a joke rather than being deadly serious.