Boyfriend Possessed by Ghost?

Ames

meritaten wrote: »

The OP wasnt asking for us to diagnose whether his/her friends new boyfriend had a mental problem - and we arent allowed to anyway. Rules of the Forum.
The OP wants to support a friend - and how do you do that by walking away?
so, I would take a sneaky look around...........which to be honest..........most of us do anyway! but, as this new boyfriend sounds - er - a bit freaky, I wouldnt go in there alone! and an impromptu party is nothing new is it? or are you po-faced lot only used to gilt-edged invitations?
If it was MY friend then I would meet the new boyf in the pub, making sure some friends were there too - then suggest we go back to his and have a takeaway, some more drinks - an impromptu party! they are common in my part of the world and no-one would think twice about it! and THEN I would have a look around - for any signs of abnormality! normal, mental or paranormal!
the one thing I wouldnt do is to walk away when my friend COULD be in danger!

Seriously? People just turning up for a party is common? Wow. Makes me kinda glad no-one ever visits me.

meritaten wrote: »

ok - I cant help it if you all feel constrained by 'miss manners book of ettiquette'. but, if my friend was determined to 'see' this guy, then I wouldnt give a !!!!! about 'sneaking' around!
and - impromptu parties ARE common where I live. we often go back to friends houses for a takeaway - I dont see whats strange about that?
and if any female on here says that she doesnt take a look around while she is at a friends house - (I dont mean look in drawers or anything, but bathroom cabinets are fair game) then they are lying! we ALL do it!

Again, I'm glad no-one visits, I'd dread to think what they'd make of my meds. I can honestly say I never do that.

Silk wrote: »

A week ago ...would make it Halloween :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

10/10 for effort for this troll!

Anyway, just to play along... maybe he was suddenly possessed by the realisation that his wife was due home any time?

Due to my MI I do sometimes have dreams where I think I'm screaming (I think I actually do scream because ex woke me up once when I did it). I'd rather admit to my mental illness though than make up a load of crap about being possessed by a ghost.

System

Hope nobody snoops around my house-if they do they'll find anti-psychotics and anti-depressents, and my secret as a nutter will be out...

Hectors_House

cardboard_chewer wrote: »

A few days later he phoned her, not to apologise, but to explain what happened. He said he was possessed by a ghost and that was what caused him to become aggressive and throw her out of the house.

I've spent more then a decade looking into hauntings and have read a lot of literature in that time and true possessions are extremely rare and he would have had to be into some seriously nasty stuff to become possessed by a spirit (ghosts don't possess people).

If you pay to go on a ghost hunt and the medium suddenly gets possessed they are doing it for effect.

I'd go along with your friend to meet this man and then make sure she keeps her phone close to hand when she's next with this man late at night.

cavework

Hectors_House wrote: »

I've spent more then a decade looking into hauntings and have read a lot of literature in that time and true possessions are extremely rare and he would have had to be into some seriously nasty stuff to become possessed by a spirit (ghosts don't possess people).

If you pay to go on a ghost hunt and the medium suddenly gets possessed they are doing it for effect.

I'd go along with your friend to meet this man and then make sure she keeps her phone close to hand when she's next with this man late at night.

NO WAY .. BAD ADVICE .. Run away and don't look back!
Tell your friend to mark this one up as experience, one hopefully never to be had again and to move on rapidly.
:eek:

meritaten

I cant believe how many upright moralistic people are on here! wow, you resist the temptation to look in your friends bathroom cabinets! I can believe that, just. But, you CANNOT say unequivically that YOUR friends or relatives wouldnt do it! or do you have a nannycam in the bathroom?

as for not having impromptu dinner parties - where I live its quite common for friends to meet up in the pub, and having decided on whether we want American, Chinese, Indian or otherwise, to then all repair to the friends house NEAREST the takeaway (so the food doesnt get cold).
YOU dont do this? dont diss me because we do! obviously I live in a different culture - Welsh!

RichGold

Hectors_House wrote: »

I've spent more then a decade looking into hauntings and have read a lot of literature in that time and true possessions are extremely rare and he would have had to be into some seriously nasty stuff to become possessed by a spirit (ghosts don't possess people).

If you pay to go on a ghost hunt and the medium suddenly gets possessed they are doing it for effect.

I'd go along with your friend to meet this man and then make sure she keeps her phone close to hand when she's next with this man late at night.

I'm glad you don't make any decisions that could ever effect me. You should refrain from serving up your crazy advice in case someone actually acts upon it as you are bonkers.

GeeBee38

Firstly, i don't snoop around peoples houses.

Something similar once happened to me, (not the ghost bit)

I was seeing a man and he just flipped out in the middle of the night telling me to f*** off etc
Turned out he was just a right b*****d.

It wasn't very nice at the time, but i'm glad it happened sooner rather than later.

Your friend needs to be very careful.

coolcait

meritaten wrote: »

I cant believe how many upright moralistic people are on here! wow, you resist the temptation to look in your friends bathroom cabinets! I can believe that, just. But, you CANNOT say unequivically that YOUR friends or relatives wouldnt do it! or do you have a nannycam in the bathroom?

as for not having impromptu dinner parties - where I live its quite common for friends to meet up in the pub, and having decided on whether we want American, Chinese, Indian or otherwise, to then all repair to the friends house NEAREST the takeaway (so the food doesnt get cold).
YOU dont do this? dont diss me because we do! obviously I live in a different culture - Welsh!

Why ask not to be dissed, when you are so happily dissing everyone else (and their families and friends) who have a different take on things? You come across as a troll with a high post count when you do things like that!

As for buying a takeaway with friends after the pub, and going to one of the friend's house to eat it, I've done that a few times. Never dressed it up as an 'impromptu dinner party', though. Just called it "got a takeaway, and went round to x's to eat it".

As for the whole scenario set out in the OP, I'd go along with these three strands of advice:

- ask the friend why she wants to be with an abusive guy
- ask the friend why she wants to be with a supposedly nice guy, who will be abusive to her every time his ghost takes over
- work with the friend to help her realise that she deserves better.

suki1964

meritaten wrote: »

I cant believe how many upright moralistic people are on here! wow, you resist the temptation to look in your friends bathroom cabinets! I can believe that, just. But, you CANNOT say unequivically that YOUR friends or relatives wouldnt do it! or do you have a nannycam in the bathroom?

as for not having impromptu dinner parties - where I live its quite common for friends to meet up in the pub, and having decided on whether we want American, Chinese, Indian or otherwise, to then all repair to the friends house NEAREST the takeaway (so the food doesnt get cold).
YOU dont do this? dont diss me because we do! obviously I live in a different culture - Welsh!

But its ok for you to "diss" those of us who say hand on heart we dont feel we need to snoop?

Tell me because Im really intrigued, what is it about bathroom cabinets that you cant resist? What tempts you so much you cant resist snooping?

As for grabbing a takeaway and stopping of at a friends house (who you are already with ) is a bit different to suggesting that complete strangers (as the op and his friends would be) turn up at a house and give it the once over under the guise of having a party


Im pretty sure that the Welsh wont be too happy to be tarred with the same brush as you as Im sure they arent all snoopers

BitterAndTwisted

Blimey, I thought we'd established several pages ago that meritaten is alone in being the only avowed bathroom-cabinet-snooper on here. It's really not what decent and respectful people do in other people's homes. This may be a revelation but it's true. Honest.