Real Life MMD: What gift should I buy for my nephew's wedding?

JC83

Get a pair of champagne flutes engraved. My sister and I have done this for several friends, its personal and can be quite cheap depending on the glassware bought. I think we did it for £30 once on plain supermarket flutes, engraving costs anything from £10 depending on what words, images you want engraving. And we lined a box with silk from a haberdashers, for a nice presentation box. If youve got money to buy quality branded flutes all the better.

little_sweetie

Thanks for your replies wanchai & purple.sarah. No, I didn't get a thank you. I'd put the cheque into the congratulations card so I casually asked her mum if the card had arrived. It had. As my niece lived some distance away she was unlikely to have been aware of our financial status (redundancy) so I just had the feeling that the cheque hadn't been big enough to bother with....

BTW there are some brilliant gift ideas on this thread :-)

wanchai_2

little_sweetie wrote: »

Thanks for your replies wanchai & purple.sarah. No, I didn't get a thank you. I'd put the cheque into the congratulations card so I casually asked her mum if the card had arrived. It had. As my niece lived some distance away she was unlikely to have been aware of our financial status (redundancy) so I just had the feeling that the cheque hadn't been big enough to bother with....

BTW there are some brilliant gift ideas on this thread :-)

Well, I hope you enjoy spending the £20 if your niece didn't want it, but what a shame that she never even thanked you xx

TBagpuss

I agree with those posters saying that if you are not ableto go, you aren't oliged to send a gift at all. If you want to send a gift, it is the thought which counts, not the cost. You give what you can afford and feels reasonable.

Unless you know their tastes VERY well, i would steer clear of anything which is meant to be displayed (pictures, vases, scultpure) and, unless you know they would like ti, would also avoid engraved / personalised things - if they don't happen to be to the couple's taste they are a total waste.

Something small and thoughtful is ideal.

Some specifics, based on gifts I've given which were well received:

1. A handwritten, framed poem about marriage (I knew the bride well enoguh to be confident it would be appreciated) with a nice bottle of wine, and a card inviting them to enjoy a it on a quiet night in together.

2. (For a couple who were my neighbours - I was feeding their fish while they were away for a few days before and after their wedding) a bottle of champagne, 2 photos, one of them, one of them with their blended family, taken at the wedding and put in plain frames, and a miniature rose. I left the gift for them when they got home after the wedding and their 3-day honeymoon. They later said it was lovely to have something as a nice surprise, after the excitement of the wedding itself when everything else was returning to normal, and they had not yet seen any pictures at that point.

3. A box with a small selection of high quality, luxury food items (e.g. fancy tinned pate & oatcakes, nice bottle of wine, ameretti biscuits, chutney) - It gives them little treats to enjoy, desn't take up a lot of space or cause clutter and if they don't like it there's no embarrassment because they don't have anything they are supposed to keep or display! If you like, you can also add into it small items such as a cheese knife/board or servicing dish which can be used.

If the couple have a gift-list you may be able to buy something within your pricerange, or, if not, look at what they have picked to get an idea as to the kinds of style, colours etc they like, and then buy something which will fit in.

gizmo111

Talk to your family instead of the internet is my advice. xx