Real Life MMD: What gift should I buy for my nephew's wedding?

Mr_Max

Make sure it's a thoughtful gift, that shows you put a LOT of consideration into it. If you do that, then it shouldn't matter whether you spend £1 or £1m.

DAnnymagic13

I got married earlier this year and we were not concerned about the monetary value of the gifts (don't get me wrong we are not rich by any stretch but money is not everything to us), we were more touched by the personal gifts. Some people were in a position to help us (financially) enjoy some extremely memorable moments on our honeymoon, but other people provided us with real personal presents, that meant as much to them as it did to us.

harryferguson

A nice solid silver picture frame off eBay usually does the trick!

purpleweasel

Pawan wrote: »

One of presents we thought was nice for our wedding (but not especially expensive) was six bottles of wine, each with a personalized lable tied on - including:

"for your first year anniversary"
"for a quiet evening in at home"
"for a special occasion"

(I can't recall all the others) But I thought it was a nice idea, and cost depends entirely on which wines you choose.

What a lovely idea!

How close are you to your nephew? A personalised gift, perhaps something hand-made for their home might be nice, if you know what their taste is and what they have already. Otherwise have a word with his parents to see if you can contribute to a fund or larger gift if you feel you must give something.

We are getting married in a couple of weeks and as we have lived together for a very long time weren't going to ask for presents at all but my Mum said that some people would want to get us something & otherwise we'd end up with 5 toast racks etc! So we said that if people felt they had to give we'd appreciate a contribution to a wood burner.

We invited several people who we didn't think would be able to attend but we wanted them to know we would have liked them to be there, and one of them sent us £20 in her "regrets" card. We thought this was more than generous of her, i think it was because we were very close when i was a kid even though she lives a long way away now. Another auntie who couldn't come sent a lovely letter expressing regret and wishing us happiness for the future - not as nice as her being there (though we hope to skype her on the day so she can see us all ready to go) but it means a lot to me as i can keep it and read it over & over. It's the personal thoughts that matter & last

Newly_retired

Whatever you decide, I just hope you get a "Thank you". I gave my nephew a generous cheque and it was months before I got a thank you ( printed card). I never knew what they bought with it, but that was less important to me. I was especially disappointed not to get a thank you as I knew the bride had time over the summer. They got married in July, had a week at home, then a week away, then she was at home for another month before going back to work. But my Thank you did not arrive till October. Grr.

gloriouslyhappy

Lots of lovely ideas already sent in, here's another - I got a cloth shopping bag printed at vista print very cheaply, chose a design with a heart shape and put their names above and the wedding date below, all done on-line, (select the 21day cheapest delivery option if you've got time). I filled it with home-grown veggies and fruit from my allotment, and hand-delivered it the week before. They were very touched and two years on, still use the shopping bag. If you're not going to see your nephew before the wedding, you could get a bottle of bubbly on offer to put in the bag, wrap it in bubble wrap and post with a nice card, and when the bubbly's long gone, they've still got the bag as a memento. Can't post links, but just google vistaprint.

Augustus_the_Strong

Never mind what other people are giving, and don't feel pressured into giving something you can't afford. I think the best thing to give is something household/kitchen item you've found useful yourself (eg good stainless steel non-stick frying pan, or good quality roasting tin, pair of bath towels) that everybody needs (if they cook - a good idea in itself) and needn't be expensive (get good quality though, otherwise it's not worth having), and will still be useful if they've already got one. This may sound a bit practical but for a wedding present I think that's more suitable than some fancy thing they may not like but have to keep.

AML_Norfolk

How about a gift that lasts a whole year? I suggest giving a Cinema Membership if the couple have Picture House cinema nearby. Cost of membership for two is around £60 and includes free tickets; money off tickets purchased; discount in restaurant; local discounts; free film viewings and more! This is what we got as a gift and we have renewed our membership we love it so much. These are smaller, friendlier cinemas that go for comfort. You can even buy a drink in the bar (discount!) and take it into the movie with you. Ours does popcorn free showings - yippee!
Google 'Picture House Cinemas' and then search for the cinema nearest to the bride and groom. You can then buy membership of their website. Hope this helps?

PS this year we have been offered a 15 month renewal if we pay by direct debit - bargain!

bennett2kuk

Some people who came to our wedding gave nice bottles of wine or champagne. Generally people were giving us between £10 and £50 depending on how well we knew them. Some people really surprised us with their generosity but don't give for givings sake. £50 or a bottle of champagne would be fine.

wanchai_2

Some really lovely ideas here.

I always give a gift if I can't attend a wedding, usuall no more than about £25-£30 worth, which as we all know goes a long way if you are MSE!! In fact, I once got a couple a wedding gift that cost me £10 and was worth £100 (thanks, Grabbit board ). They were so shocked and thanked me profusely for giving such a generous gift even though I couldn't make it to the wedding. I told them the truth, and we all laughed about it!

I particularly loved the bottles of wine with labels, and the hamper of local specialities - lovely and touching.

Even £20 in an envelope will go towards something nice - as someone who is newly engaged, I know that weddings are expensive even when you are keeping costs down and they will really appreciate it.

Whatever you give, OP, and I can tell that you want to give something, it will be the thought and not the cost that matters.