Real Life MMD: What gift should I buy for my nephew's wedding?

JayD

Many have suggested a personalised gift and I think this is an excellent idea.

Have you any photographs of them both? You can get excellent photobooks made up through one of the online photograph printing companies, or even a lovely photo of them together reprinted onto stretched canvas.

There are also many personalised wedding items for sale on auction sites, like ebay, that can be customised to your exact requirements, celebrating their wedding - many in highly polished silver or silver plate.

I was given a beautiful silver plated picture frame with our names and date of our wedding on that had several integrated frames to put photos of us, our bridesmaids, best man, family and friends in.

These items can be of exceptionally high quality at very reasonable prices and are very pleasing to receive.

I hope this helps.

zipzap2

The best 'surprise' wedding gift we got when we got married was a picnic rucksack with plates, glasses, cutlery etc for 4 people on one side and a cool bag on the other. Attached to the side was a separate insulated bottle holder and on the other was a matching picnic rug. The bottle holder and rug both had straps on so they could be used individually or strapped to the main rucksack, I'm pretty sure they would have been sold as a set.

This would have been a great present on its own, something we would never have thought of asking for but a lovely thing to have and something that has been used quite a bit over the years, always bringing back happy memories of the people that gave it to us.

However when we came to look at it more closely, the bottle carrier had a bottle of champagne in, ready for our first picnic :-) which was an extra thoughtful touch, and a lovely surprise. Even if you didn't want to splash out on champagne on top of a picnic kit, a bottle of wine or another drink you know they like could be added relatively cheaply. However you would want to send it down with somebody as it would probably be quite expensive to post!

this is the sort of thing I mean - this one is almost half price at the moment and would have the advantage you could get it shipped directly to them, albeit without the champers (or whatever!)

oops, have just tried to post a link here from amazon - wouldn't let me as I had to create a new user name as I'd forgotten the old one. But... do a search on picnic rucsack and lots come up, first one on my list was the half price one.

purple.sarah

Find out if they have registered for gifts. We did and included a range of reasonably priced items we really needed but some people have decided to ignore it which risks them wasting money on things we don't need or already have. They should really have registered for items in a range of prices to give their guests a choice but if there is nothing in your price range there will probably be other guests in the same boat and you could go in with them.

Or donate to a charity in the couples names that is relevant to their interests, i.e: an animal charity if they are animal lovers. It's the thought that counts, you don't have to say how much you donated but it will be a personal gift because it is a cause that's close to their hearts. Many charities do a nice little card for you to give to them.

You're not obligated to give a gift, only give what you can afford. Also consider priceless gestures like writing a lovely personalised message or poem in the wedding card.

wanchai_2

redzhell wrote: »

I agree that a personalised gift would be best.

How about doing a caricature of them in wedding outfits like the one below?

Can I be honest and say that, while I would be touched by the thought behind this caricature, I would not hang it on the wall? It's just too 'loud'. Sorry...

zipzap2 wrote: »

The best 'surprise' wedding gift we got when we got married was a picnic rucksack with plates, glasses, cutlery etc for 4 people on one side and a cool bag on the other. Attached to the side was a separate insulated bottle holder and on the other was a matching picnic rug. The bottle holder and rug both had straps on so they could be used individually or strapped to the main rucksack, I'm pretty sure they would have been sold as a set.

This would have been a great present on its own, something we would never have thought of asking for but a lovely thing to have and something that has been used quite a bit over the years, always bringing back happy memories of the people that gave it to us.

However when we came to look at it more closely, the bottle carrier had a bottle of champagne in, ready for our first picnic :-) which was an extra thoughtful touch, and a lovely surprise. Even if you didn't want to splash out on champagne on top of a picnic kit, a bottle of wine or another drink you know they like could be added relatively cheaply. However you would want to send it down with somebody as it would probably be quite expensive to post!

this is the sort of thing I mean - this one is almost half price at the moment and would have the advantage you could get it shipped directly to them, albeit without the champers (or whatever!)

oops, have just tried to post a link here from amazon - wouldn't let me as I had to create a new user name as I'd forgotten the old one. But... do a search on picnic rucsack and lots come up, first one on my list was the half price one.

Oooh, we got a fab wicker picnic basket (with red gingham lining) from TK Maxx a while back, only £15 and we love it! It's very vintage/shabby chic looking. We use it often in summer and get a great deal of pleasure out of it. :):):) Would make a fab gift imho!!

But, OP, you know the couple better than any of us - they may hate the picnic basket and love the caricature!

wanchai_2

purple.sarah wrote: »

Find out if they have registered for gifts. We did and included a range of reasonably priced items we really needed but some people have decided to ignore it which risks them wasting money on things we don't need or already have. They should really have registered for items in a range of prices to give their guests a choice but if there is nothing in your price range there will probably be other guests in the same boat and you could go in with them.

Or donate to a charity in the couples names that is relevant to their interests, i.e: an animal charity if they are animal lovers. It's the thought that counts, you don't have to say how much you donated but it will be a personal gift because it is a cause that's close to their hearts. Many charities do a nice little card for you to give to them.

You're not obligated to give a gift, only give what you can afford. Also consider priceless gestures like writing a lovely personalised message or poem in the wedding card.

These are also good suggestions.

Let us know what you decide to go for!

milvusvestal

It's the thought that counts, rather than the amount; besides, your sister is your nephew's mother, and the £200 she is giving reflects the closer relationship.

Your nephew and fiancee, by the sound of it, probably have everything they need already, so forget about the cost and get them something you know YOU can afford. I suggest a maximum outlay of £50.

Foolish_spendthrift

In the past I've given a rose or other plant that matched the bride's name. Only works if they have a garden, though! It's not expensive, but shows some thought and can last for years - longer than the marriage in one case...

little_sweetie

gizzie121 wrote: »

As I reminded my nephew a few weeks ago when he got engaged and was opening envelopes with cheques for £200, £100, ect... Somebody who can only afford £10, might actually have had to make more of a sacrifice to afford that, as a percentage of their earnings, than the person who can easily afford £200, and not to think it's a lesser gift.

Another option is not to give anything. It would be very rude of them to mention it! After all, you're not even going to the wedding!

I once sent a cheque for £20 to a niece as a wedding gift as the couple had requested gifts of money towards a honeymoon. We couldn't attend the wedding and were quite hard up at the time so I was quite hurt when the cheque was never cashed...

wanchai_2

little_sweetie wrote: »

I once sent a cheque for £20 to a niece as a wedding gift as the couple had requested gifts of money towards a honeymoon. We couldn't attend the wedding and were quite hard up at the time so I was quite hurt when the cheque was never cashed...

Oh, that is hurtful xx

I take it you didn't get a thank you card either? Not sending a thank you card is the height of rudeness imho.

(hope the £20 came in handy for you xxx)

purple.sarah

little_sweetie wrote: »

I once sent a cheque for £20 to a niece as a wedding gift as the couple had requested gifts of money towards a honeymoon. We couldn't attend the wedding and were quite hard up at the time so I was quite hurt when the cheque was never cashed...

Maybe they lost the cheque? Or didn't want to take the money when they knew you needed it? It seems strange that they'd turn down a contribution of whatever size to spite you, that would be cutting off their nose to spite their face as it's them that lost money and you that got to keep it! If they didn't thank you that's rude though but if that's the case at least you didn't waste your money!