Wedding hell?

doodoot

fannyanna wrote: »

Hubbies family (particularly his Nan) kept bugging me before the wedding about his daughter being my bridesmaid. I wasn't having bridesmaids and as mean as it sounds even if I had wanted bridesmaids she'd be the last person I'd want. She was sent to the wedding wearing a white bridesmaid dress. Plenty of our guests understandably presumed she was my bridesmaid. I was (and still am - yes I know I'm a bitter old cow :rotfl:) furious.

That's awful...the girl being sent in the dress, not you still being furious lol.:)

On a slightly different note, my DH just told me that his cousin is getting married next year and she's having an engagement party this weekend...she's the type who has to jump in and organise other people's weddings and we had to be firm with her and refuse copious amounts of 'I'll do this...I'll do that because I think I'm more organised than you'

Guess who out of the whole family hasn't been given a party invite...yep, you've guessed it. :rotfl:

LianeB

Ours was really a story of 2 halves:

The Good

• Booked a hotel in Scotland for us and all our guests from the Friday night to the Sunday morning. Which was sheer bliss!
• Had all our friends and close family with us (apart from MIL who was in hospital)
• Paid for the whole thing ourselves (took 3 years and a lot of overtime)
• Made me open my eyes to our debt and allowed us to start sorting our life out
• Ate amazing food and drank lovely wine
• No fights or arguments on the day
• Married my gorgeous hubby.

The Bad

• Hubby went out to the local town the night before with his mates without going through last minute checks + leaving me with all the other guests
• As a consequence along with his nerves he had a hangover
• So we didn't see each other the morning of the wedding I left early with my bridesmaids to the hairdressers so only got toast instead of a full scottish breakfast
• The guest who was taping the wedding for MIL forgot the camera so had to come back to the hotel for it as I was about to leave
• Had a phone call from the photographer the am of the wedding asking me to bring a cheque for the deposit( hadn't mentioned this when I booked 6mths earlier!)
• When I got to the church there was no photographer in sight and no else noticed apart from me - The kind man from the car company had the photogs number and turns out he went to a different church! I had to stand outside out church in rain waiting for him to arrive!
• When the DJ arrived it wasn't the one we booked and he started debating our first song choice (Have I told you Lately) he thought we should have Van Morrison we wanted Rod Stewart.
• The DJ called us in for our dance and played a different song so we had to walk out and back in again to the right song. Then he isisted on not playing any songs on our list and played every Rod Stewart song going with very little else inbetween!

It was aweekend I'll never forget!!!:rotfl::rotfl:

Mrs.W_2

The horror stories on this thread are shocking! Most of them seem to involve big families and funds coming from more than one source.

Neither my OH nor I could be doing with wedding hype, so we planned a ceremony and 'do' for immediate family (parents, siblings, grandparents) and close friends only.

A friend with a talent for photography took the photos. That was her gift to us.

Another friend, a car salesman, borrowed a Bentley for the afternoon so we had a wedding car.

My sister's gift to us was the wedding cake; a lovely one tier fruit, one tier coconut royal-iced cake decorated with fresh flowers.

After the ceremony, we all drove to a local pub famed for it's food. To control drink costs, we supplied the wines. The pub charged £1. per bottle corkage.

Our entire wedding, including clothes, rings, do, etal, cost us less than £1600.

We were stern from the get go, letting everyone know we were getting married with the least amount of fuss!

The most memorable parts of the day were supplied by my late grandmother. Profoundly deaf, and too proud to use her hearing aid, she loudly complained about everything not being to her taste. All day.
And knowing her, we all agreed she wouldn't have been comfortable without a quibble!

minerva_windsong

Taadaa wrote: »

I will tell you what went wrong at our wedding.

My new husband made a speech. I wasn't bothered whether he did or not, but he insisted. I didn't give any thought to the content of the speech until he started it. He said lovely things about his family, and a couple of nice things about my family. So of course I wondered what he would say about me. Then he sat down without saying a word about me, us, or how we met. He turned to me and said 'I didn't say anything about you...I forgot!!'

How, in God's name, do you forget the bird in the big white dress sitting next to you?

Not quite that bad, but you've reminded me that my boyfriend's brother-in-law forgot to thank the bridesmaids in his speech, and was only notified of this through frantic poking from boyfriend's sister after he'd sat down and had to rush back to the microphone. The best man of course then got a huge laugh by opening with "I'd like to thank the bridesmaids"

Taadaa

:rotfl:I should have made him get up and say something about me

FatVonD

Mrs.W wrote: »

A friend with a talent for photography took the photos. That was her gift to us.

That's just reminded me, I had asked SIL to do our photos but (due to their lack of interest in any aspect of the wedding) I felt uneasy about it and booked a photographer I knew through work to do the wedding shots and asked SIL to do the evening/informal shots.

I have still not seen the pictures SIL took despite asking 3 times and I have been married 3 years now.

Sagaris

Well....

We nearly didn't get married at all, as I found out a month before the wedding that the register office we'd booked would be closed for 5 months for extensive refurbishments! I rang up and queried this and was told it wasn't a problem as there were no weddings booked beyond the end of September. I asked them to check, and heard the woman say in a panic stricken voince 'That's no problem, we can work around you......' asbestos stripping? I don't think so! There were 3 weddings booked that were affected, slip up on their part (we had booked a year in advance!) so they had to put the work back by a month.

The next Monday I went into work and took the messages off the answerphone - one was for me, from M&S, saying that if they hadn't heard from me by 5.30 that day (the previous Friday) they would cancel my wedding cake order as there had been a problem with the credit card! I rang and was told although my Mum had paid in August, when they had gone to take payment the card had expired (M&S Credit card!!) so that was it! I went racing into the branch and was told that was correct, they needed 4 weeks notice for the chocolate wedding cake but 'not to worry, you can pick up a fruit one from here any time'. If I'd wanted a fruit one I'd have done that in the first place!!! DH got me the email address of the then MD, and the next day I had a lovely email back, full of apologies and promising to look into it for me. They managed to sort it and we got our chocolate wedding cake. :rotfl:

The honeymoon? Booked for all inclusive, Sharm el Shaikh - with XL Holidays, who went bust before the wedding - luckily we'd paid on our credit card, but it took a while to get the money back!

Of course we had the aggro from relatives - SIL (well her husband actually) was continually messaging me via MSN to invite their son's GF (who we had never met and never made any attempt to meet us) to the whole thing - they wanted them there to babysit their other kids, so they could get bladdered - I stood my ground (DH is far too nice!) and explained that the registry office would only hold a certain number and we were up to the limit - the reply was I was to let them know as soon as anyone dropped out so they could invite son and GF! I was so annoyed at the constant nagging I stood my ground - they only came to the evening do!

Apart from that, a brilliant day, and I would do it all again tomorrow!

Taadaa

FatVonD wrote: »

That's just reminded me, I had asked SIL to do our photos but (due to their lack of interest in any aspect of the wedding) I felt uneasy about it and booked a photographer I knew through work to do the wedding shots and asked SIL to do the evening/informal shots.

I have still not seen the pictures SIL took despite asking 3 times and I have been married 3 years now.

Yeah we got a wedding video that we never wanted courtesy of the new in laws....excpet we've only seen it the once, they haven't given it to us despite saying several times they would.

wannabehermit

The only 'hiccup' was having to change the date as DH couldn't get the day off work!!!

Mrs.W_2

Sagaris wrote: »

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Of course we had the aggro from relatives - SIL (well her husband actually) was continually messaging me via MSN to invite their son's GF (who we had never met and never made any attempt to meet us) to the whole thing - they wanted them there to babysit their other kids, so they could get bladdered - I stood my ground (DH is far too nice!) and explained that the registry office would only hold a certain number and we were up to the limit - the reply was I was to let them know as soon as anyone dropped out so they could invite son and GF! I was so annoyed at the constant nagging I stood my ground - they only came to the evening do!

Apart from that, a brilliant day, and I would do it all again tomorrow!

Oh, that would have irritated me into a very truthful reponse.

After all that, you really deserved a marvellous day!