Wedding hell?

keeley1973

All my issues were with guests. Firstly, our best man's wife decided to straight out ask me why I was not inviting his (the best man's) sister and family "because he (OH) has known her a long time" - lol, well he would being as he had been mates with him a while! I was so shocked I did not know what to say so I just said "oh, we're still sorting out the evening stuff". Then she had the cheek to reply "oh I wasn't thinking of the evening as the kids are too young - I meant the main do"!!! We no longer speak .... Also, even though we were having a late wedding with no sit down meal and everyone striaght to the buffet, we were still capped on numbers with limited table space so we were secific about names on invites (i.e some children not included) and we fixed table plans so that all seats were accounted for and no-one would be standing around while tables were half empty. We got a number of responses back saying x and x plus child & child accept when the names were not included and in some cases where we did not get responses, people turned up with others who weren't invited. To top it all, I had done goody bags for the children that were invited or that we knew were coming so I had upset children who didn't understand they didn't have one. My biggest annoyance was that a whole table of OH family did not turn up (even though they said they were coming) so we had a random empty table of 8 in the centre of the room. They never apologised nor did they even bother to drop a card to the house or anything. 10 years on and I have only just spoken to them again (and that is under protest - not that I bear a grudge you understand - lol)

Gloomendoom

None. It was all perfect... including the weather.

sashadesade

Perhaps I'm just a big meany, but I really can't understand why distant relatives seem to get so uptight about not being invited to weddings. I'd be pretty relieved not to be invited to the wedding of someone I didn't know very well, it saves me spending money on travel/a gift/new clothes or shoes, which could add up to over a hundred pounds.

Idiophreak

The closest we had to drama was the weekend before the wedding - we were tidying the house to make sure it was neat and tidy for when everyone arrived. My Mrs was cleaning her dressing table whilst I was sorting some things for the loft. Without thinking, I grabbed the chair from her dressing table to use as a boost - assuming she'd notice I'd done so. Wrong. She sat down, anyway, and in the absence of a chair to sit on, crashed backward into the bed, causing a huge bruise right down her forearm.

For a moment, I was afraid she'd go completely bridezilla, but she remained remarkably calm. We used plenty of ice and with a little smear of makeup on the day you'd never have known. Phew.

lollyb84

I managed to have to univite someone who hadn't been invited! My auntie couldn't make it, so she passed teh invite to my cousin and her husband, who said they'd love to come, but had to bring one of their kids too. Um, no, sorry. We didn't invite any other cousins, and we've never really got on, so I had to 'uninvite' them. My dad even had the cheek to tell me to be careful they didn't feel snubbed. They've invited themselves to my wedding, at my expense and I had to be careful. Grr. (sorry, still a bit of a sore point!) They obviously did feel snubbed, because none of them have spoken to me since.

Artytarty

^^^ how rude of them!
Is it common policy for guests who cannot attend to "pass on " the invitation?

pulliptears

OH and I had planned a registry office wedding and a meal for close family....then 'the mothers' got involved...

It ended up being a full on party in the local community hall (they paid). All OH and I seemed to do all night was ask each other "who's that?" and neither of us actually knew lol. OH's best friend bought along his then girlfriend who was seemingly about 16 and ratarsed by 9pm. The sight of her sat in a puddle on the car park throwing up will stay with me forever (hilariously funny though) and we never did see her again. My then 4 year old DS ate so much he was sick all over the Mother In Law (I had warned her, she didn't take heed).

Our 'honeymoon' was a week off at home as we'd just put all our money into our first home and moved in 3 weeks before the wedding. We had the worst snowfall ever on the Monday, couldn't get out of the street. The boiler broke so no heating, all the electricity in the area went off for the day and in the end we were sat in the kitchen on the floor in sleeping bags for warmth around the oven. Oh, and the phone lines went down too. LMAO. We called it our 'adventure holiday'.

We've been married for 15 years next month though so it didn't end too badly.

narabanekeater

Never give £1000 cash and your brand new wedding certificate to your best man brother who likes a drink. Stupid man put £1000 yes £1000 down somewhere and weve never seen it since. As happily married that I am ive never seen my wedding certificate. The £1000 was very generous gifts from people.
Id also reccomend double checking your bridesmaid isn't pregnant 9yeap I found out 3 weeks before after she had let me buy her a size 10 dress) and finally no matter what your bound to upset someone but its your day do as you wish so tuff on them LOL

bargainbetty

I discovered while doing the seating plan that my maternal and paternal aunts could not be put on the same table, because of the fight they had at my parents wedding in 1960.

My dress, supposedly a beautiful burgundy colour, was made in the wrong fabric and six weeks before the big day the shop had the cheek to ask me if the brick-red with gold thread (I looked like a party-going privvy) dress would 'do'. I politely declined and asked for a refund, and ended up having to scare off every potential customer for 20 minutes before I got the despoit back too. I got married in a cocktail dress from Selfridges.

My brother's MIL got drunk and ripped the lace on my dress. There is a still a picture of me telling her to 'Go forth and multiply' in full bridal rig.

I loved every second of it. My marriage didn't last, but the day was an absolute riot of fun!

nlw_2

I had a very uninterested chief bridesmaid, she also hated my hairdresser ( a personal issue between the two of them) So on the hair trial evening I had arranged for one of my other bridesmaids who is a hairdresser to do the chief bridesmaids hair. My bridesmaid let me down, so my hairdresser friend had to do the chief bridesmaids hair. I'm sure there may have been a few tugs of the hair lol!! Also my hen night was a complete disaster. Nothing was organised until the week of the hen night, the chief bridesmaid assured me it was under control. Only 1 of the 4 bridesmaids came to my hen night, 2 of them were working and the other went to the stag do! My OH went on his stag do abroard, all of his friends paid for his flights and accommodation! I was told by my bridesmaid I had to pay myself fo my £15 meal and they weren't splitting it between them, even though a few people had offered to split my bill.
On the wedding day my husband nearly had a car crash with my mum in the car when they were transporting the cake to the venue. My mum said if you don't want to marry her just say!
The manager running our reception announced us into the room under a totally different surname, so we are now known by this surname which amuses a lot of OH friends.
My sister brought her own alcohol into the venue and got caught, she caused a big fuss and came up to me asking to borrow money for drinks!
Also an evening guest stole one of my candle decorations from the venue, had to hunt this person down and ask for it back several times. I know some people take things, but surely they should ask first?!
I just found from experience that bridesmaids stressed me out so much that looking back I wouldn't of had them. And if you want something done properly do it yourself.
Apart from the above we had a brilliant day!