Wedding hell?

Agutka

None of the groom's family turned up. Too far, too ill, too busy, afraid of flying, afraid of driving.
So we had bride or friends instead of bride or groom. It also meant we had to invite some people really last minute and they were happy to join us, nice refreshing change to the attitude of his family.

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Artytarty wrote: »

^^^ how rude of them!
Is it common policy for guests who cannot attend to "pass on " the invitation?

Its not like a ticket to a football match is it?

19lottie82

I was at my friends wedding a month or two ago. The groom is one of the nicest guys you could ever meet, but due to their religious beliefs his parents hadn't spoken to him since his now bride, gave birth to their son, out of wedlock, six months previously. They have never seen the baby, but despite this he tried to offer them an olive branch by sending them a wedding invite. They ripped it in half and sent it back Needless to say they weren't at the wedding, which is a shame as they missed a great day.

I understand that people have their beliefs but I could never imagine taking them that far.

Moominmamma

Awwww, Janninew, I thought mine was bad 'til I read yours, lol!

I had a bit of a wedding day dilemma in that my parents split when I was a kid and I've always got on well with my dad's partner but despised my mum's...Obviously I wanted my dad's OH at the wedding, and so, against my better judgement, I thought it was only fair to invite my mum's too.

Half way through the reception he and my mum had a drunken row, my mum was really upset and people were telling him to go just go home and not cause a scene, but no, he just wouldn't leave it, and long story short, ended up punching my brother and subsequently various other guests had to forcibly prevent my DH (who is incredibly cool, calm and collected as a rule!!) from pummelling his head into the ground! He (the t***er, not DH!) was ultimately escorted from the premises, where, incidentally, he happened to be a professor by the boys in blue :eek:

We were staying the night at the same venue and some of our mates had sabotaged our room, but the wedding organiser made them go and sort it all out 'cuz I was upset about all the drama!!

Other than that though I wouldn't have changed a thing

Jo.1981

My wedding went fine but it could of ended in disaster. We ordered 2 buses to take our guests home, only 1 showed up, the other bus apparently showed up at the wrong hotel . Thankfully everyone fit on the 1 bus! The venue we got married at was a complete mobile phone dead spot, there was young children and elderly, the venue staff disappeared as soon as everyone headed to the car park. My stomach still turns at the thought of 40 people stranded in the middle of nowhere!

Oh my mum managed to lose 1 of shoes when getting ready for the wedding, turns out I had been walking round the house with it caught under my dress!

jess1974

sashadesade wrote: »

Perhaps I'm just a big meany, but I really can't understand why distant relatives seem to get so uptight about not being invited to weddings. I'd be pretty relieved not to be invited to the wedding of someone I didn't know very well, it saves me spending money on travel/a gift/new clothes or shoes, which could add up to over a hundred pounds.

I agree with this completely, we were invited to a wedding earlier this year, we are a family of 5 so by the time outfits, petrol, drinks, prezzy etc had been bought, attending had cost us £300. i will politely decline any other wedding invites unless its really close family......

Idiophreak

jess1974 wrote: »

I agree with this completely, we were invited to a wedding earlier this year, we are a family of 5 so by the time outfits, petrol, drinks, prezzy etc had been bought, attending had cost us £300. i will politely decline any other wedding invites unless its really close family......

You don't *need* to buy a new outfit for every wedding you go to, though...Most weddings, logically, will be fairly close to you, so won't cost too much in petrol and nearly all weddings give you at least some drink for free (and there's always tap water...)

If you're invited to someone's wedding, I think it's nice to make the effort to go - and it's very rare it results three digit costs...

pukkamum

Where do i start?
I invited my dad who lives in America who i hadn't seen for 15 yrs never thinking he would come, he did and stayed for 7 WEEKS in the run to the wedding in my tiny two up two down.
My sister hates him so told me i had to keep him away from her at all costs.

He is a big weed smoker and my dH sometimes indulges but specifically told my dad NOT to mention this at the wedding as his parents do not agree with it, he proceeded to shout across the dance floor at my DH in front of his whole family 'COMING FOR A SPLIFF?'.

We had had a big fall out with DH's mum the year before the wedding which had never properly been resolved, she had also split from his dad and was upset that all FIL's family made an effort to come but none of hers so she sat in a corner by herself all night and left without saying a word.

My mum completely patronised DH's nan by going on about she worked with 'old people' like her, nan was a very strong, young at heart woman who i could see was biting her tongue so i hurried mum away and told her to stop patronising nan. This led to a huge row between me and mum with her threatening to leave.

At the wedding were my mum, her ex husband (my dad) her second ex husband (sisters dad) and her current partner (who were all great friends many moons ago but all despised each other now) when she danced with my dad you could have cut the atmosphere with a knife.

My bridesmaid and her other best friend had a huge row in the loos and never spoke again.

In the private bar room next to the reception room some rugby lads were playing strip poker as we discovered when all the kids were crowded round the window to it.

BUT i loved every minute of it and would never change a thing!!!!!

dontone

Myself and my DH had a Vegas wedding, just me, him, the minister and the ministers wife who acted as witness and photographer. We got a good luck toast from a tramp who was holding a bottle of Jim Beam that was partically covered by a paper bag, and walked it to and from the chapel. Even got a McDonalds congratulations toast from a family who walked past us as we came out of the chapel, it was great.

My folks, who are divorced, agreed that it was the best thing for us to do, and wished us well. And our families live 30 miles away from each other so a venue, etc would have been difficult where it pleased everybody.
DH's mother wasn't and still isn't impressed that we did our own thing, and just to spite us, she didn't tell any of their relatives on DH's side, not even his grandmother, they all found out at his aunties 50th birthday do 6 months later when an uncle asked us if we enjoyed the USA (she told them we went on holiday, but not that we got married) and I just said "it was great and our wedding was perfect"
Cue them all telling her off that it wasn't nice and they all felt bad that they didn't send us a card. It wasn't their fault they didn't know, but the MIL sat with her back to me all night in a huff.
She still hasn't forgiven us 10 years later, and she still has a dig occassionally but tough no regrets at all

Icey77

My uncle "decided" that he would give me away since my Dad had died over 5 years ago. I haven't seen him in years and had planned for a family friend (whom I see regularly and has always been there when I needed them) to give me me away instead.

My uncle then decided he would bring his latest GF also and asked where he would stay - he wanted to come over from the US for a 2 week holiday at the same time. My Mum wasn't going to offer as she had my Gran staying.

My sister offered reluctantly (my Uncle is a demanding house guest at the best of times) but this was greeted with a grumpy "that will have to do then and will they be about to take us around?" I said, no as they would be going back to work on the Monday after the wedding.

In the end my Uncle decided that March was too cold and why couldn't I move the wedding to warmer month so he could come along!!! :eek:

So, he didn't come and hasn't responded to any of my emails since showing him the scan photos of our little baby that I am currently pregant with. Ho hum.