Wedding hell?

lollyb84

Artytarty wrote: »

^^^ how rude of them!
Is it common policy for guests who cannot attend to "pass on " the invitation?

Well, I would never dream of doing it. I probably should've said that we went to my cousins wedding a couple of years before and their argument was that therefore they should be invited to mine. What they failed to take into account, was that they had almost 100 people, and we had 36. There were other aunts and uncles I didn't invite, because we wanted a small wedding, and we certainly didn't invite any other cousins because of that.

We basically decided to s0d what anyone else thought, and invited the people who have contributed to our lives together in some way (and I don't mean in a monetary way). But why should we invite a cousin my husband has met maybe 3 times in our 5 years together? It really did make me mad. :mad:

KateBob

My cousin decided to get married on the same day as me inspite of the fact that our weeding invites had been out for months before :mad:

His mum had a dicky fit and nearly refused to attend his wedding :eek:

Turns out he was having a quick registry office do and then attending our wedding and reception where most of his family would be (my family still discuss the cheek of getting such a cheap wedding reception), shame his marriage didn't last

Idiophreak

nlw wrote: »

Also my hen night was a complete disaster. Nothing was organised until the week of the hen night, the chief bridesmaid assured me it was under control. Only 1 of the 4 bridesmaids came to my hen night, 2 of them were working and the other went to the stag do! My OH went on his stag do abroard, all of his friends paid for his flights and accommodation! I was told by my bridesmaid I had to pay myself fo my £15 meal and they weren't splitting it between them, even though a few people had offered to split my bill.

Feel really bad for you. It's sad when people are given the honour of being a bridesmaid and don't take the responsibility at all seriously. Fair enough, they may be skint etc - but they should *always* cover the cost to the bride. The more damning issue here, however, is that they clearly didn't give a **** about organising the thing. At least it sounds like your OH has some better friends than you do.

danlojo

I punched the usher full in the face and knocked him down a set of stairs because he got very drunk and started annoying everyone and ruining the wedding. All whilst I was still in my flowing white gown

...and the moral of the story is...don't p*ss the bride off.:T

Idiophreak

Kate/Bob wrote: »

Turns out he was having a quick registry office do and then attending our wedding and reception where most of his family would be (my family still discuss the cheek of getting such a cheap wedding reception), shame his marriage didn't last

LMAO!! That is EPIC moneysaving prowess!!!

janninew

My wedding day was a disaster!

It involved the pen to sign the register leaking on my dress, the park where we were having pics taken being closed off do to a gun man running loose (I kid you not!!) the wedding car breaking down taking me and hubby to the reception venue (old classic car!!) my grandad breaking his leg tripping over a chair leg at the reception venue, a fight between 2 drunk family members at the evening do and finally a small fire in the toilets and the hotel had to be evacuated at 12.30am!

Reading back I can laugh about it now and we both had a good day, but sometimes I think I should write in to a women's weekly magazine to share my story!! :rotfl:

neneromanova

Kate/Bob wrote: »

My cousin decided to get married on the same day as me inspite of the fact that our weeding invites had been out for months before :mad:

His mum had a dicky fit and nearly refused to attend his wedding :eek:

Turns out he was having a quick registry office do and then attending our wedding and reception where most of his family would be (my family still discuss the cheek of getting such a cheap wedding reception), shame his marriage didn't last

Please tell me his bride didn't turn up wearing her dress aswell!

Artytarty

aw you're so right there!
thinking about it now, I know someone whos father died the evening of her reeption ( heart attack) and it's true, he never liked the groom!
Worst thing happened to me was my bridesmaid stood on my dress and I walked...rip. I was pretty fuming but it was late in the day and didnt really matter.

Desperado99

Kate/Bob wrote: »

My cousin decided to get married on the same day as me inspite of the fact that our weeding invites had been out for months before :mad:

His mum had a dicky fit and nearly refused to attend his wedding :eek:

Turns out he was having a quick registry office do and then attending our wedding and reception where most of his family would be (my family still discuss the cheek of getting such a cheap wedding reception), shame his marriage didn't last

Definitely need more details on this one!!!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

What did his bride think?

minerva_windsong

Not me, but my boyfriend's sister's MIL was really insistent that the wedding party wear purple somehow (she is obsessed with purple) and of course only decided this really close to the wedding. Boyfriend's sister had really not wanted any kind of 'theme' or specific colour scheme for the wedding but her MIL was determined to get her way, to the extent that boyfriend's sister ended up crying a few weeks before as the only thing she could change was the groomsmen's cravats but couldn't find purple ones for love nor money. In the end they ended up being closer to bright pink than purple, but it was still a headache she didn't need despite seeming like a relatively silly small thing.

The other thing I'd say is don't pick people who you know are flaky or unreliable for the wedding party just because of the history of your relationship. This backfired spectacularly on my boyfriend's brother who picked a friend who he'd known for a large part of his life and had been best man for, and who then proceeded to get absolutely ratted and delivered a speech that was incredibly slurry and littered with blue jokes (and this was after being vetted by the groom's mum so god knows what it was like before that!). If I was getting married I'd ask my best mate to be my bridesmaid in a heartbeat, but if I knew she was likely to be forgetful or I couldn't rely on her to do as asked and be where she needed to be when she needed to be there, the fact she's my closest friend wouldn't count for anything. I appreciate that sounds harsh but you don't want a bridesmaid or best mate you can't rely on to meet their duties.

That said though one of my main fears about me and my boyfriend ever getting married - that his parents wouldn't be able to be in the same room as each other, much less on the same table (they got divorced almost ten years but it wasn't an amiable split by any means) - but his siblings' weddings have left me with nothing to worry about on that front, so I'm hoping that if it ever happens there's won't be too much drama - famous last words and all that...