Newborn not taking to the moses basket well

POPPYOSCAR

Another vote for swaddling here.

My Oh half would do it and would wrap them so tight I thought they would hate it.

It was like someone had switched an off button!! worked like magic!

patchwork_cat

dantheman2010 wrote: »

But this is the bit we are struggling to understand, do we pick her up and let her settle on us. Or just leave her?

We have a mobile but thats on the cot, so wouldnt work on the moses basket.

The cuddles during the day, should be when she is awake I guess? If she is asleep then it is more time of her being held when asleep?

We had also been leaving the landing light on with the door open a bit, but I know a lot of people say there should be no light, so I think we will try that too.

I am concerned that you are asking when you should cuddle your baby! You're expecting your baby to fit into your life, I think. Believe me that is not the way it happens, it is vice versa!

Cuddle your baby, play with your baby, enjoy your baby. This time passes all too quickly - you should be holding her and marvelling in that newborn smell and how amazing she is.

moomoomama27

Do people really schedule when they pick their baby up!

To me it's absurd to think a 9 day old baby should be in any routine, other than they need to be fed, changed and cuddled regularly!

When mine were little I cuddled them all to sleep, swaddled them and put them in the moses basket/cot, never did the CIO, they all slept well, and none of them require me to rock them to sleep now, nor did they past the age of x months! IMHO you cannot spoil a baby. I would just go with the flow, be relaxed and don't have too many expectations of a good sleep routine until baby is alot older.

MarilynMonroe_2

what temperature is the room ? i wonder if she is too warm. my dd is a hotty and needs a colder temp to sleep well.

QuackQuackOops

Newborns trick parents into believing they are easy to look after. They are for the first 2/3 weeks. They eat, sleep, eat, sleep and eat some more. Wake and sleep like clockwork without much bother. They really are quite boring in those first 2 weeks as they are so easy to care for.
Then they change into demon babies. They suddenly find an annoying cry from somewhere and practise it frequently. They toss and turn as though someone has added itching powder to their beds and generally never stop demanding one thing or another which means Mum and Dad don't get any rest. Lack of rest makes the demanding seem 10 times worse than it is.

Hopefully she will sleep all the way through by 8 weeks and until that time, you just do your best settling her down and enjoy her. She is getting used to you as much as you are getting used to her. It doesnt matter for the first few weeks if you take her in with you to settle.

dorisday

After bringing my DS home from hospital at the age of 1 day tried to put him down to sleep in his cot but he wasnt having it we did try for a few nights but had to get some sleep and he ended up with us in our bed and was there for the next 3 years!! But to be honest it did give us peace of mind and we did get some sleep.
Second child DD went straight into her moses basket and I did the worst thing possible - let her cry for some time - but she did go to sleep and from the 3rd night went straight to sleep. But I wouldnt do that again. When I think of what I did I cringe. Course shes 43 now.

QuackQuackOops

dantheman2010 wrote: »

During the day she is going 3-4 hours. And apart from last night and the night before she was going 2.5-3 hours.

No we didnt.

See my above post about this!!
Sir, you are truly going to be tearing your hair out very soon if you dont calm down and except that babies cry a lot and wake you up throughout the night. Why do you think people say that they have no sleep when a newborn is around?
Your little one is quite likely to get colic and that is a rough time to get through as they are unable to be settled at all.

You need to let your wife follow her instincts. Not do what other people say. Not follow books or videos. Not even do what you tell her to do. If she feels its right to take baby into bed with her, let her.

Waffle_On

Rule one of newborns - they cry and want feeding or cuddles ALL the time! The sooner you resign yourselves to being awake half the night, the easier you will find it.

Did I read that you're bottle feeding? If so, you could try what I did. When our son was a newborn, my husband and I found that taking shifts overnight left us getting the most sleep. One of us went to bed early, generally in the spare room. The other would take the baby and look after him in our room, attempting to get some sleep too. At an agreed time in the night, we'd then swap over. Because DH was working and I was staying home, he got to choose his shift (except at the weekend). If breastfeeding it's a bit more complicated, but you can agree to do certain parts some of the time - winding and cuddles spring to mind -making it fairer to have a bit of a break sleeping in another room.

There are lots of things you can try that will help your baby to settle, but none will help as much as time. Just do what feels right in the meantime.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Just to confuse things - both mine detested swaddling and would screech as though they were being murdered - even to the point of the midwives coming in and unwrapping them after spending ten minutes telling me why it was essential I should do it from the day they were born.

Make-it-3

I think our expectations of newborns are often way out of kilter with reality. We think its just feed, change, sleep but I've heard that the average newborn cries for 3 hours a day. Its the only way they can communicate their needs.

Every baby is different you will hear parents boasting of angelic babies who follow a pattern, but others won't be parted from mum (or at least some human comfort) no matter what tricks you try. 9 nine days in the big wide world is nothing compared to the 9 months cossetted inside mummy. You can't spoil them at this age, so if you need to co-sleep or cuddle them constantly so be it. A sling really helps too, so you can get things done during the day.

I'm a firm believer in the 4th trimester theory. Besides you will never have this time again when they want so many cuddles.