Before or after

Mrs_Moore_To_Be

Hollie84 wrote: »

I think i have decided that my BM's will go first.there my 2 youngest daughters anyway.i dont have a massive long train on my dress so wont need anyone to sort it out

Just check your vicar isnt a strict as mine otherewise you could be dissapointed!! :rotfl:

Also have you asked your OH what he thinks? He may want to see you first?

neilcrook

I'm going for three bridesmaids first by height with my chief behind me - mainly so she can make sure my train is out when im at the front and so that the attention can be moved from me to her pretty much as soon as i've moved

lisajane8482

I was thinking either:

Flowergirls (my daughter and step-daughter), me and my dad, my matron of honour or
my flower girls, matron of honour, me and dad
matron of honour, flower girls, me and my dad.

aaaarrrrgggghhhh!!! It's 20 months away and I'm already panicking about the finer details lol

lollyb84

My bridesmaids went first. We only had a relatively short aisle, so I waited with my Dad at the back, until they had got to their places, and then just as the music hit the crescendo, I walked in!

It meant hubby got an unobstructed view of me, but that I was the 'main' event.

Sorry to those of you that have lost your dad's, I faced the possibility of my dad not being at my wedding and I was heartbroken. Hadley, I know it's easy for me to say, but as the bride it's your day and you should have what you want. Could you not sit your brother and/or SIL down and explain that as dad can't be there, you'd like mum to take his place? Or (completely random thought and it may not be practical) have mum and brother give you away? Also, perhaps you could wear the whistle as a necklace - quirky, but a lovely way to show everyone your dad is there? (Caveat - I have no idea how big the whistle is! )

wanchai_2

KatieJane wrote: »

Thank you to those of you who expressed kind words and I'm also sorry to hear of your loss.

I didn't really think of doing anything as I just don't know what to do. I like the idea of a candle for him but if i mention my dad or anyone else does - I think I will just burst into tears so it may be better to have a little tear before my makeup.

I like the idea of the bridesmaids walking first creating a build up, but I am pretty nervous about everyone looking at me!!!:o

Same here on both counts!!! It is going to be a very difficult day, I am planning on having a good old cry the day before and trying my best not to break down completely on the day. Am welling up here just typing this xx

TamVilla80 wrote: »

Sorry for your loss, both of you, I know how you feel I had my mum give me away - and my brother was on stand by incase Mum wasn't up to it on the day. Me and my brother had a pear cider for my dad on the day, it was all he wanted in hospital and he wasn't allowed it! Mum also had a a locket with a picture of my dad in it

Aw, how lovely. My mum is very nervous about giving me away too, as she is really shy, so will maybe ask my brother to step in if she changes her mind. I don't want her to feel that she has to do it iykwim.

Hadley1 wrote: »

Hi Thanks so much for kind words. I really want my mum to give me away, but she is now under pressure from my SIL that it should be my brother. Sorry to say, but I don't want my brother to do it. But hey I'm just the bride.

What a beautiful idea - the pear cider and locket. I will get my thinking cap on. At the moment I am toying with the idea of asking my florist to attach his whistle (an old beaten up silver thing that was kept on his keys) to my bouquet - but would be heartbroken if anything happened to it.

What a beautiful idea, so touching!!! Get it really well attached and then it won't fall off. My florist has offered to incorporate something of my dad's into my bouquet, even a tiny photo that he will laminate and wire into it. I loved the idea, and will be looking for other ways in which to keep him a part of the day. For example, I am having one of his favourite pieces of music in the church.

As for your SIL, she should mind her own business! You have your mum if you want my dear, it is your day. Don't let your SIL talk you into having your brother if it's not what you want xxxxx

wanchai_2

lollyb84 wrote: »

My bridesmaids went first. We only had a relatively short aisle, so I waited with my Dad at the back, until they had got to their places, and then just as the music hit the crescendo, I walked in!

It meant hubby got an unobstructed view of me, but that I was the 'main' event.

Sorry to those of you that have lost your dad's, I faced the possibility of my dad not being at my wedding and I was heartbroken. Hadley, I know it's easy for me to say, but as the bride it's your day and you should have what you want. Could you not sit your brother and/or SIL down and explain that as dad can't be there, you'd like mum to take his place? Or (completely random thought and it may not be practical) have mum and brother give you away? Also, perhaps you could wear the whistle as a necklace - quirky, but a lovely way to show everyone your dad is there? (Caveat - I have no idea how big the whistle is! )

Fab idea! If it's small enough...

Our church is quite big and the aisle is long, I am kind of glad as it makes for a proper entrance! But I am scared of being on show too lol!

I am thinking of having candles in jars all the way up both sides of the aisle, I just love candles...

Hadley1

lollyb84 wrote: »

Sorry to those of you that have lost your dad's, I faced the possibility of my dad not being at my wedding and I was heartbroken. Hadley, I know it's easy for me to say, but as the bride it's your day and you should have what you want. Could you not sit your brother and/or SIL down and explain that as dad can't be there, you'd like mum to take his place? Or (completely random thought and it may not be practical) have mum and brother give you away? Also, perhaps you could wear the whistle as a necklace - quirky, but a lovely way to show everyone your dad is there? (Caveat - I have no idea how big the whistle is! )

Thanks for that idea. Its only a small whistle, but something he just carried around with him for years and years (ever since I can remember). We loved it as kids.

Its a bad thing perhaps to admit, but there is some baggage with my brother and his actions after my dad passed away earlier this year (and also whilst he was ill) so this is the reason I don't want him to be involved too much in the wedding.

But thanks so much for your kind words and interesting idea about the whistle.

ebayqueen_2

its your big day....go down the aisle first :):)

Gemma010912

We are having 2 flowergirls & they will be going down the asile before me & scattering the flower petals

ClaireBetteridge

i have 1 adult bridesmaid, 2 child bridesmaids, and 2 page boys, all coming behind me, my train is long enough they wont be too close to me so everyone gets a good view of me lol, and then the adult bm can guide the others to their seats when we're all down the isle