Before or after

wanchai_2

KatieJane - my dad is no longer with us either, I will really miss him on the day (don't know how I'm going to get through it tbh). I would be too scared to walk down the aisle alone, so I have asked my mum to give me away and she is delighted to do it, if a bit nervous! Big hugs to you xx

OP - my BM will go before me!!

sharpee

My parents are divorced and I don't get on with my Dad anymore. So my Brother is giving me away. Only now am I thinking this might have been the wrong decision as he is 6ft 5 and I'm 5ft2!!!!:eek:

I am having my step son go first followed by by bridesmaid. We have quite a large staricase to walk down and I want to go down it as a particular part of the music we're having so will give me time to get the right stage of the piece.:)

I don't think there is a right or wrong answer to this it's all down to what you want

SoyaBunny

I would like to have my bridesmaids go first, I want them to be the opening act for me walking down the aisle!

Is it weird that I want a gap between them and me so when they walk down and stand in their places I will starting walking down with my father? I really want to be walking down to see my groom's face, also don't want his view to be obscured by bridesmaids.

Also hoping I don't trip!

Mrs_Moore_To_Be

I reallyt really wanted my BM's to go first. Kinda save the best till last theory!

Anyway our vicar outright refused to allow this (dont even get me started on him) and I had to have them 3 adults and a FG and PB all go behind me.

Fast forward 5 months and my brother got married at a different church. I was a BM and my now SIL had us go 1st. My OH and my Brother both said that it was better to have them after.

My husband said that it meant he got to see me clearly and not have others 'blocking the view' (plus it meant that mine could sort my train) and my brother also said that too, that he wished he could have seen his wife walking down the aisle with BM's behind.

So there is my 10p worth! x

KatieJane

Thank you to those of you who expressed kind words and I'm also sorry to hear of your loss.

Hadley1 wrote: »

Hi

Can I ask if you are doing anything to incorporate your dad into your special day? I know they will be there anyway, but am trying to think of some thing special to do for him... hope that makes sense.

I didn't really think of doing anything as I just don't know what to do. I like the idea of a candle for him but if i mention my dad or anyone else does - I think I will just burst into tears so it may be better to have a little tear before my makeup.

I like the idea of the bridesmaids walking first creating a build up, but I am pretty nervous about everyone looking at me!!!:o

Torry_Quine

Surely you are walking up together albeit one behind the other. No-one is going up alone and waiting.

TamVilla80

Hadley1 wrote: »

Hi

Sadly my dad has also passed away. So sorry for you.

I have asked my mum to give me away as I feel comfortable with that adn am too scared to walk by myself.

But I think its entirely up to you... as others have said its your day.

Can I ask if you are doing anything to incorporate your dad into your special day? I know they will be there anyway, but am trying to think of some thing special to do for him... hope that makes sense.

Sorry for your loss, both of you, I know how you feel I had my mum give me away - and my brother was on stand by incase Mum wasn't up to it on the day. Me and my brother had a pear cider for my dad on the day, it was all he wanted in hospital and he wasn't allowed it! Mum also had a a locket with a picture of my dad in it

Hollie84

Sorry to those of you who have lost your dad,cant be easy.

I think i have decided that my BM's will go first.there my 2 youngest daughters anyway.i dont have a massive long train on my dress so wont need anyone to sort it out

wiggychick

SoyaBunny wrote: »

I would like to have my bridesmaids go first, I want them to be the opening act for me walking down the aisle!

Is it weird that I want a gap between them and me so when they walk down and stand in their places I will starting walking down with my father? I really want to be walking down to see my groom's face, also don't want his view to be obscured by bridesmaids.

Also hoping I don't trip!

This is how I did it too. I had some beautiful music playing and each of the 3 BMs walked down the aisle individually.

Once they were at the front and the music built up I came in with my dad.

I quite enjoyed being the main event

Just after the last BM headed down the aisle (around 30sec before I went in) the photographer lifted my veil and put it behind me! :eek: It was a windy day and he thought that the wind had caught it and that he was fixing things. Eek no BM to help put it right again! Sorted it myself in time, but there are some funny "moody" photos of me holding tightly onto my veil in the last few seconds before I go inside. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Wiggy xxx

Hadley1

TamVilla80 wrote: »

Sorry for your loss, both of you, I know how you feel I had my mum give me away - and my brother was on stand by incase Mum wasn't up to it on the day. Me and my brother had a pear cider for my dad on the day, it was all he wanted in hospital and he wasn't allowed it! Mum also had a a locket with a picture of my dad in it

Hi Thanks so much for kind words. I really want my mum to give me away, but she is now under pressure from my SIL that it should be my brother. Sorry to say, but I don't want my brother to do it. But hey I'm just the bride.

What a beautiful idea - the pear cider and locket. I will get my thinking cap on. At the moment I am toying with the idea of asking my florist to attach his whistle (an old beaten up silver thing that was kept on his keys) to my bouquet - but would be heartbroken if anything happened to it.