Before or after

sammy_wheeler

my bridesmaids went before me

becca0417

I'm sending my bms down first, I've spent an age sorting their outfits, they will be noticed. lol!

Torry_Quine

I'm really surprised that so many brides are using the American model and having the bridemaids first. It didn't cross my mind that my bridesmaid wouldn't be behind me. Don't understand why people are saying if the bride goes first she has to stand at the front for a while as the bridesmaid(s) are right behind surely.

KatieJane

I don't know what I will do - my dad has passed away and I'm not sure that I will be having anyone else give me away (no one else could compare tbh) so I will be walking down with just my 2 teenage bridesmaids - however not sure if before or after. Is it weird to walk down alone without someone giving me away?

Tiara_2

My bridesmaid will be behind me, as I need her to help with my train

elliebobs

KatieJane wrote: »

I don't know what I will do - my dad has passed away and I'm not sure that I will be having anyone else give me away (no one else could compare tbh) so I will be walking down with just my 2 teenage bridesmaids - however not sure if before or after. Is it weird to walk down alone without someone giving me away?

Sorry to hear about your dad:(

For what it's worth I don't think it's weird that you'll walk down alone; presumably people will know your reasons for it. It's your day and if you'd feel uncomfortable having someone other than your dad walk you down then that is entirely up to you.

trying_2_b_good

KatieJane - my Mum walked me down the aisle as my Dad passed away. It doesn't need to be a man! She was super proud but really nervous - it really made her day. Do what you want, and don't worry about tradition! My chief bridesmaid did my "Father of the Bride" speech and it was so special.

My bridesmaids went down first - I didn't have a train or anything to be carried and didn't want people to be distracted away from me! I remember Pippa Middleton's bum all too well!!! But it truly is whatever YOU want!

wiggychick

KatieJane wrote: »

I don't know what I will do - my dad has passed away and I'm not sure that I will be having anyone else give me away (no one else could compare tbh) so I will be walking down with just my 2 teenage bridesmaids - however not sure if before or after. Is it weird to walk down alone without someone giving me away?

Not at all.
I'm really sorry to hear about your dad. I'm sure he'd have loved to have been the one to walk you down the aisle and can completely understand not wanting to ask anyone else to do it.
If you still want to include him somehow, you could put a candle and photo at the front of church (memory candle? some of the fancy candles even have a photo printed on them) or take something of his with you down the aisle.

Are you looking forward to being the centre of attention?

If you are dreading it, then if you bring your BMs after you then the walk down the aisle will be relatively quick and once you are past the congregation the BMs will take some of the focus. Also good if you think you might need some last minute adjustment.

If you can't wait to show off your dress and make sure there won't be a dry eye in the house then BMs first will help build atmosphere and draw out the proccession. Also great if you have a long piece of music you want to play.

My parents had a messy divorce and I don't see much of my dad any more. It was going to be my dad or nobody and I had to decide whether to ask him or not because it would be difficult for my mum. Everyone knew the situation and was willing to support me whatever I decided.
Funny now I look back on it - it was all over in a couple of minutes!

Hope you have a fantastic day

Wiggy xx

Hadley1

KatieJane wrote: »

I don't know what I will do - my dad has passed away and I'm not sure that I will be having anyone else give me away (no one else could compare tbh) so I will be walking down with just my 2 teenage bridesmaids - however not sure if before or after. Is it weird to walk down alone without someone giving me away?

Hi

Sadly my dad has also passed away. So sorry for you.

I have asked my mum to give me away as I feel comfortable with that adn am too scared to walk by myself.

But I think its entirely up to you... as others have said its your day.

Can I ask if you are doing anything to incorporate your dad into your special day? I know they will be there anyway, but am trying to think of some thing special to do for him... hope that makes sense.

Hadley1

Tiara wrote: »

My bridesmaid will be behind me, as I need her to help with my train

Ah the IS I really don't know what to do. I have 4 bridesmaids and only a very short walk into the room where we are marrying. So on that front would like to send them in 1st, but then not sure whether I will need bits sorted on my dress/veil etc.

So many dilemas eh ladies???:rotfl: