Before or after

Hollie84

Are u having the bridesmaids/flower girls etc go down the aisle before or after you? i was going to have after but have seen lots of weddings where they go down first??

Jewelleryfan

I've been wondering this too, someone said that the American way is before but the bridesmaid should help puff out your train etc so maybe they go after you? Or before so as you arrive they are there to hand your bouquet to? Hmmm not sure :rotfl:

abis21

Mine went first, 2 adult ones went down together, then my daughter (5) and then me and my dad.

I think the bridesmaids get more attention if they go first, as a lot of people just look at the bride once she walks down the aisle.

xxjojo1986xx

i was wondering this i am thinking my moh followed by my 2 bridesmaid with my son holding hands then me and my dad i like the idea that once the bridesmaids start walking down the aisle everyone will be like ooooo shes coming, as i imagined that in my head i felt sick i actualy dont like all eyes on me :undecided xxx

Claireabell

I'm having bridesmaids first... registry office aisle is not very long and my entrance music is 2 min! so figured bridesmaids go first after the music intro, then me and dad. Should be better timed that way- or we'd be stood at the front for what would feel like ages!

TamVilla80

My niece went first for me. The excellent person at the venue had a good point, if she went after me then she would have trouble getting past the train on my dress to sit in her seat and it would look awkward. Made sure she wasn't too close in front of me though, she is only 13 but nearly as tall as me, so no-one would have seen me, lol. I think just do what's best for you.

tryingtobetheperfectHW

It is the American way for bridesmaid to go down first, however I am definitely having it that way, no way I am letting my super cute daughter and god daughter walk down after me and steal the show!!! lol

continualdiamond

I just had my sister as my bridesmaid and she went 1st.

We got married in a venue that didn't have a long walk until you were at the front, so decided to have a bit of the music play 1st, then my sister walked down, then me and my dad. That way it felt like I had more of the music to enjoy, as weird as that sounds.

Otherwise it would of seemed strange everyone waiting for my sister to walk down.

Impet_Limpet

I had my bridesmaids and pageboy walk down first thrn me and my step dad, we only decided this about 3 mins before. I wanted people to pay attention to them first. I couldn't bear to be first and spend an age standing at the front with my back to everyone!

Hollie84

Im unsure now was going to have them after,i know its personal choice.when my mum got married me and my sisters went after her and we stood through the whole ceremony, nowadays they go first and then the BM's sit down at the front then in goes the bride and her dad etc id also picked a certain part of the music to walk into which isnt far in from when it starts,but there is another part i could go in to,going to have to see how it pans out when it comes to rehearsels

elliebobs

I'm not having bridesmaids but if I were I would have them going down first. I think it sets the scene for the bride coming and gets everyone ready with their camera's. It also means that all eyes are on the bride (unless you really don't feel comfortable with this). I just remember the Royal Wedding; all the world's eyes were on the bridesmaid (and her perfectly toned bottom!) as that was all you could see.
Obviously, if you have a large complicated train that needs carrying then it would make sense to have a bridesmaid coming down after you.