The Tougher Thread continues.....

redlady_1

I am having "there's a ghost in my house" at my funeral! The OH's wife had YMCA as we left the crem Now that sounds like my kind of gal even though I never knew her.

Oh and for the noobs, the OH and I used to work together so were friends for some years before we became an item.

Jerusalem is my fav :T

7_week_wonder

Phew! Another intermittent poster reporting in after finally catching up with all those posts.

I'm another one definitely in favour of letting everyone know your wishes for your funeral. It really helped us when my dad died a few months ago. My nephew suggested something I'd never come across before, but I'm glad we did - he took photos before the funeral service, and then during the get together afterwards. It sounded a bit weird at first, but now everyone, including mum, is really pleased we've got the photos, and we can look but with affection at all the people who made an effort to get there.

My poor hens appear to have given up laying, I'm hardly suprised as their run is like mud bath at the moment: any suggestions how I could tempt them back into laying for a bit longer?

Have a good weekend all.

mrsmuggy

I must admit i don't really like talking about funerals. My dad is 93 and still going strong and sometimes brings it up but i don't like the thought of him not being here and its too upsetting.
i know though it is a subject that has to be talked about but when the subject has been brought up in the past i have horrible dreams and wake myself up sobbing

schoolhouse

Hello to you all,I did delurk about two threads ago then..ermmm, not quite sure what happened. Anyways,I am here again and hoping to stay..hopefully.

On an OS front,I have been shaking my cranberry vodka and damson gin.The colours are just lush! Will hold out a bit longer before trying. Anybody know how long I should wait before I strain the fruit out?

taurusgb- I have been following your story( just a friendly lurker not a stalker I promise), and wanted to say hope you get some good news on Monday.

oldtractor

I had Jerusalem at my wedding.

ceridwen

katieowl wrote: »

Re funeral costs...there was a programme on BBC Wales last week about the number of people who are now having to have a 'paupers funeral' i.e. one that the local council has to pick up the tab for. I didn't watch the actual programme, but here is a link to the news item http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-15261414

I lost my dear elderly friend in London, a year ago today actually, (*waves to H. on the other side*) ...and when she went into a care home, and I took over dealing with her affairs, I asked her if she would please, for me, take out a funeral plan, as I was so worried that if anything happened to her, that the distant relatives such as they were, wouldn't organise a funeral for her, and I knew I'd be distraught.

We bought a funeral plan outright for around £2500 but when the time came to use the plan, there was another £800 to be paid for dispersement that were not covered by the plan. Fortunately as executor of her will I was in a position to stick it on my CC until such time as we'd sorted everything out, and I could reclaim from the estate. I said to OH at the time, that had the other people who organised the funeral with me (her friends) needed to pay that out, they simply would not have been able to do so!

Kate

You wouldnt believe JUST how pragmatic my family are about such issues - ie VERY VERY pragmatic indeed in comparison to most and I know "I'm the one" everything falls on if/when/etc/etc and I accept that thats fair enough and that I will do exactly what my parents require come the time down to the minutest detail and am seriously not looking forward to having to do things so differently to how I would - but their choice entirely and I'll do whatever they want - but the one darn thing I cannot seem to persuade them of is that I'm scared stiff "whatever they want" will take money I simply havent got available to "lend out". I'm poorer than they are - so dont begrudge them a thing - and will do as required - but I dont think they appreciate the fact that I worry that I will plan out all as they want and then have "forty fits" as to where the money would come from. I've explained that I will obviously be upset anyway and don't want to have "how the heck do I pay for all this?" worries on my plate as well...but I'm pretty resigned, by now, to just "winging it and hoping"...

It is one of the reasons I'm panicking that I dont have much in the way of savings yet - as I know that, once I have a decent amount of savings, then I have the money available to "lend out" if need be for this and wouldnt have to resort to a loan or anything.

I won't take it amiss there - as I dont honestly think they grasp - STILL - just how much poorer I am than them...so cashflow is still an issue even at my age.

What do other people do in this situation?

Draagonfly

Evening all :hello: Mine's a large rum & cola please

Ahhh...my working week is done...& I have a week off work to look forward to:j

Planning on "pottering" about for the week doing a bit of what takes my fancy, hopefully some NSD's & maybe getting some Christmas prep done

My OS plan for the w/end is pot-roast brisket in the slow cooker for the first time....now I'm a rare beef cooking/noshing kinda gal whereas hubby, step-d & the in-laws all like theirs incinerated & like boot leather so I usually refuse to cook beef for a family get together...however I'm hoping that the slow-cooked pot roast will bring a compromise that will make us ALL happy

I may also do some batch cooking & baking over the w/end & coming week too.

ceridwen

Softstuff wrote: »

Ceridwen, I don't think the current idea to offer funerals for those willing to donate is a push to harvest parts from the poor, rather it's a case that when organ donation is completely insufficient to meet demand and save lives, they're looking for any legal incentive they can offer to encourage it. Whilst I can understand why people want to hang on to their bits after death, for religious or spiritual beliefs, I feel more strongly myself that if I could save a life or two when mine is ended (in the case of organ donation) or improve someones life by helping to find new treatments and cures (in parts or brain donation), then at least my death has brought some good.

I did bethink myself "Hope no-one takes my own personal intention to 'hang onto my bits' come the time the wrong way and sure SoftStuff knows me well enough by now that she won't". I do think its commendable if someone goes in for organ donation. I just aint planning to do so myself - not directly for that reason - but because I've read one too many stories of other people making a slight error of judgement as to whether the "owner" of the body had quite firmly vacated it before deciding to "dispose thereof" (you'll excuse my black sense of humour coming to the fore again....ahem...) and a few snippets of things from a Tibetan Buddhist and Christian direction which have led me to wonder whether peeps need 3 days (or so) to be sure they have "fully vacated the premises" iyswim. Hence my own personal take - on "No they aint gonna do so - and I'll try to arrange that no-one finds my body until some days later" so I can be quite quite sure I've emigrated over to my new "abode" iyswim. Thats just me - and each to their own on that my lass...

Hobsons_Choice

mrsmuggy wrote: »

Peep poh, another lurker popping out of the MSE world. Read this thread every day and it never ceases to amaze me.
I have learned such alot and now do everything from scratch,own baking,won't throw anything away and never say no if someone gives me something. If i don't want it i know someone else who does.
A quick question please,does anyone have an OS way of whitening clothes once they're starting to go grey?
I'll try and post more but being a stay at home wife and don't very often have a lot to tell

If the clothes are a poly mix, try the curtain net whitening stuff, not too expensive.
And don't be daft about not having a lot to tell - have you SEEN the rubbish we talk about here :rotfl:

mardatha

I'm a Spiritualist and had a Spiritualist minister for my dad's funeral, was lovely. My take on death is probably a bit different to most folk so I will keep quiet on it I can, sometimes!
Re hens - Ginnyknits told me to try cod liver oil, and since I got it mine have started laying again. A capful in their mash every second day, and a couple spoonfuls of cat food every other second day. If that makes sense
The cookery book that somebody recommended and that sounded really good is megabucks on Amazon. I will wait lol.
Tonight's tea was even more gruesome than usual... I make truly hellish cauliflower that tastes of sewage, so tonight I pulled all the stops out and decided it was going to be GOOD and that we were going to EAT VEG OR DIE...
Cooked cauli in pressure cooker and stank the house out. Had to open windows to stop ourselves heaving.
Drained it and slopped a pkt of white sauce onnit then grated cheese over.
Used a week's supply of gas to get the bloody thing to go brown & crispy.
Tasted like sewage with cheese on. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: