The Ultimate Hard and Fast debt clearing mission

wendz86

That is rubbish about the pay Dinah :-(. Hope you manage to find a way to make up the shortfall.

How weird about your friend asking you to be bridesmaid and then not inviting you to the hen do or anything. I definately agree you could do without flaky friend like that.

The rings are gorgeous and a lovely way to celebrate the birth of Grace.

Tete - glad you had a great weekend. Getting more tempted to go to the harry potter studio tour especially as is only 6 miles from my flat! Gift shop sounds a bit expensive though eek.

Will have a peak at your diary in a min!

The centile thing is basically if you had 100 babies the same age where would they be height or weight wise. So there would be 96 babies bigger than Grace the same age and for Noah only 25 . Poppy has always been fairly small on the 25th centile for weight and 9th for height. Definately hasn't taken after her 6ft 4 dad yet.

My weekend has been ok. OH working at Notting hill carnival so been at home with Poppy all weekend. Have managed to do a good clean though which was needed to be done. Going over to a friends today so Poppy can play with her little friend.

Tete_en_l'Air

Ah Wendz I didn't know I was so close to you! How strange to think! You should definitely go if you have any interest in HP, but Poppy's a bit young for it.

Ah that explains it about the percentile thing - but as for Poppy, I was always a small baby but I'm 5'11" now (and MY Dad's only 6'1"!) - so she's got plenty of time

Dinah93

Best part is Grace is the 4th centile for babies born at 28 weeks and are now 21 weeks, not even all general babies, she does seem to be catching up at quite a rate though.

Off to read your diary now Tete. Glad you enjoyed HP world although that gift shop is madness - £8 for moulded chocolate?! Can we get a picture of the completed scarves please?

Still ill, Grace having to spend tomorrow with her Gran, hopefully be better by Wednesday? Going to docs tomorrow if not better.

Started writing about a cousin and wedding money which I'd read last night but no idea where I saw that now, feel like I'm loosing my marbles. Anyway advice was: Eeek, generous sister. I think we're giving my cousin £40, maybe £50, but we see her often (considering she lives in London, maybe twice a year?), she lent us her place for the weekend before we went to NYC, we went to her engagement party and hen party, we're invited to the whole day etc. Most people who came on the evening spent/gave us between £15-£30 for our wedding, two blokes gave us £100 each, but they both have their own very well paying businesses. My cousins and auntie's and uncles (who again are not badly off) all clubbed together to get something off the gift list (worth £140) - but that's between 7 people. Are you family all living near one another and you live apart? If so I'd just spend the money on a weekend to visit them.

Reassured to see the google follow is working on the blog, it's not showing up for NIM.

Siouxsie32

Dinah93 wrote: »

Started writing about a cousin and wedding money which I'd read last night but no idea where I saw that now, feel like I'm loosing my marbles. Anyway advice was: Eeek, generous sister. I think we're giving my cousin £40, maybe £50, but we see her often (considering she lives in London, maybe twice a year?), she lent us her place for the weekend before we went to NYC, we went to her engagement party and hen party, we're invited to the whole day etc. Most people who came on the evening spent/gave us between £15-£30 for our wedding, two blokes gave us £100 each, but they both have their own very well paying businesses. My cousins and auntie's and uncles (who again are not badly off) all clubbed together to get something off the gift list (worth £140) - but that's between 7 people. Are you family all living near one another and you live apart? If so I'd just spend the money on a weekend to visit them.

Ah, hands up - that would be me that is the cause of your marble loss I had a moment of keyboard diarrhoea when I was typing my above post about your blog. I then deleted the wedding part of it as I'm more of a lurker than a contributor...although I still stand by my (now deleted) comment that you all seem like a pretty smart bunch :beer:

Yes, I live apart from my family and they're all going to the full wedding. I'm (as an afterthought on the bride and groom's part) going to the evening along with my sister's children. My sister reckons I can't give less than £50 (and I think it would be pretty stingy to give less as well). Very interesting to hear you say that some people gave you less....and I know you'll not have thought any less of them. I currently live in a teeny tiny flat with very few mod cons (no telly for example) and it just doesn't seem right to give £50 (that will be redirected from my debt-busting mission) to a couple I don't know (and will probably never see again) to buy things that I consider a luxury while I sit on a sofa that feels like a plank of wood (used vouchers to buy the cheapest of sofas...there's a reason it was cheap!!) looking at the blank wall where the telly should be! That's probably all come out wrong, I actually love my life (don't love the sofa so much ) and it's totally my fault I have the debt I have and I have no problem with people buying whatever they want to buy and I hope the bride and groom are very happy together. I think the only reason I wanted to go was to see my family. Now, I've lined up two mystery shop visits in the airport before I fly :money: so cancelling the visit would mean cancelling the MSs which I don't want to do (I'm a reliable MSer and don't want to ruin my reputation!) so it looks as though I'm going to the wedding!

Knowing that I can give £30 has actually made me feel a lot better, thanks Dinah :A

Phew, there's a reason I lurk! See what happens when I post

Tete_en_l'Air

Susie I think £30 is more than enough for an evening invitation. I just gave that to my second cousin and I was there for the full day (but I was annoyed at being invited alone when the only other people I would know were part of the wedding party, I had to do a lot of walking up to people and making small talk just so that I wasn't standing about)!

I will be blogging the scarves soon and will link to that (they're nothing special!) but anyone who knows me on FB have a look at my profile pic

Argh. I've managed to do something to the display on the forum pages I'm zooming in and out of it now trying to get it right but if the main text looks right, the images and titles are too big, and if they're right the text is too small. Augh.

wendz86

For an evening do i would prob only give 20-30 max and only if it was someone i was quite close to so i wouldn't feel guilty susie.

Dinah93

84 pageviews since starting the blog including 40 unique clickthroughs from MSE - lurkers, I salute you x

clearmydebts

In Ireland it is at least €150 for a full day wedding and between €200-250 for a close friend. Afters is usually €50. For weddings I have been invited to, but couldn't go, I usuallu give €50 and a small present.

Siouxsie32

clearmydebts wrote: »

In Ireland it is at least €150 for a full day wedding and between €200-250 for a close friend. Afters is usually €50. For weddings I have been invited to, but couldn't go, I usuallu give €50 and a small present.

Interesting clearmydebts, the wedding is in Ireland. Up north, but same mentality My sister gave £100 and reckoned that's the absolute minimum her and her husband could get away with :eek:. I'm fine with £30 now though thanks to the lovelies on this thread. I may even go to £25 I'm going to have a nice night out with my mum and dad (and no doubt get asked by a million aunts why I'm not married yet :mad:) If they don't like my hard earned £30, well, I'll never see them again so I'll never know

N.I.M

clearmydebts wrote: »

In Ireland it is at least €150 for a full day wedding and between €200-250 for a close friend. Afters is usually €50. For weddings I have been invited to, but couldn't go, I usuallu give €50 and a small present.

Is that what its down to? Still crazy money mind but I remember people going to weddings giving €300 and family / close friends giving over €1000. Mind you that was 2005 / 2006