What time would you knock on....

JC9297

They probably don't realise how loud it is in your house, however different people have different perceptions of loud i.e where one person would say we can hear next door's music another would say it's deafening us. Also I would just say it's disturbing us rather than expect them to turn it down earlier because you have kids.

System

I would say 10/11pm for weeknights is when the music should be turned off entirely (i.e. completely inaudible for you). Having said that, if the music is really loud thumping, it's worth going round just to explain that you have kids and would really appreciate it if they could turn the music down a bit after 8pm. I would suggest going round early evening, rather than once it's already started. In my limited experience (from both sides of the issue!), if you complain to someone about their current behaviour they're more likely to go on the defensive than if you mention it at another time. Also, it's really important that you do something about this now rather than wait for ages and let it fester. We live in a block of flats, and didn't realise we were making much noise at all (around 9pm on a weeknight) until the people downstairs came hammering on the door and shouting at us. It had obviously been getting to them for ages, and they'd finally decided to do something about it. If only they'd come up the first time and asked us to keep it down, we'd have done so - they wouldn't have had to deal with it any more, and we wouldn't have had the very upsetting experience of getting completely battered for something we hadn't realised we were doing!

ali-t

same as the others, around 11pm during the week and much later at the weekend. They have as much right to listen to their music in the evenings as you do to have children that may be up early disturbing their attempts at a long lie.

Rather than asking them to turn the music down you may have more success in asking them to turn the bass down off it which won't affect the volume but will make quite a difference to what you hear in your house. It may not actually be that loud but the bass makes it sound that way from your house.

The other option is to move your children's bedroom so they are not in a room that adjoins the neighbours house i.e. maybe swap rooms with yours.

Gavin83

It's a tough one and I think a lot depends on just how loud it is. If it's beyond stupid then by all means ask them if they are willing to turn it down just a little. However you can't expect them to turn it off completely, they shouldn't be expected to live their lives by what time your children go to bed.

My only advice is to be extremely polite about it. Legally they don't have to even keep quiet until after 11 so if you upset them you could have this fairly late into the evening every night until they move out and the police won't bother to touch them.

tescobabe69

You probably wont get any help at any time really , so just have a friendly word, if that does no good crank your music up as early in the morning as possible, especially after they've had a late night.
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victory

During the week 10/11pm but at weekends maybe 11/12 def not at 8pm to tell them the kids need to go to bed because I reckon I would be laughed off their door step....if you know them/see them about you could mention to them that the music really travels and it thuds thuds and maybe they will consider the volume next time but 8pm is not really their concern:D

Person_one

ali-t wrote: »

Rather than asking them to turn the music down you may have more success in asking them to turn the bass down off it which won't affect the volume but will make quite a difference to what you hear in your house. It may not actually be that loud but the bass makes it sound that way from your house.

Seconded. Its the bass that really carries, that rattles the walls and gets into your brain to the point where you want to rip your hair out.

It also sounds like a much more reasonable request and it would be good to keep the peace in case they end up living there for years and your children take up the tuba/drums/become heavy metals fans/want a dog as they get older.

My neighbour plays incredibly irritating music till late (if I lived next door to someone with taste it might not be so bad) but I just grin and bear it and don't stress out too much when the dogs decide to bark at 7am. :cool:

lovecrafting

I had the same issue with my next door neighbour at our previous house, on one side was an old lady, bless her she was deaf as a doornob but her tv was so loud we knew what channel she was watching and what was happening on that program, to be honest that didnt bother us because she went to bed around 9pm and you couldnt really hear it upstairs.. then her grandson and his girlfriend moved in, and since gran was deaf they could get away with allsorts of noise before she would even notice, until one morning our kids accidently woke up at the crack of dawn and accidently i didnt look at the clock and let them play with there piano's and drums ouside in the back garden. when they asked them to be quiet they replied with, can you ask your gilfriend to stop screaming when i am trying to sleep then.. i would have been more diplomatic but sometimes you cant beat a sleepy seven year old. strangley they wee quiet after that

Poppy9

Try getting to talk to the them and ask them if the children disturb them with their running around, screaming etc.

You may not notice it but young children can be noisy be it in the house or garden.

When my DD was young our old neighbours were fab. I would take keep an eye if DD bothering neighbours in garden in summer etc. They in turn asked if DD bothered by their teenage son's guitar playing. When I said DD went to bed at 7pm but was asleep in 10 mins and would sleep though me hoovering her bedroom they said they would tell their son not to start playing till 7.30pm so everyone happy.

Our current neighbours a pain in the !!!!. They've removed all carperts and play piano loudly at 7am or their DD practices her singing. Piano playing, singing and happy clappy music play periodically throughout the day till about 10pm. At least they have no walls left to put shelves up on so we no longer have the constant drilling!

postingalwaysposting

I agree with everyone else, weekends not before 11pm and week nights maybe 10pm.

I must say in our last house we had this problem but I got so used to it that I slept through the noise. When I moved to this house I found it hard to sleep at first as its deadly silent, we have older couples all around us One time however I was a little shocked, went to bed at 10pm on Sat night while a neighbour down the road was having a housewarming.... Woke up at 5am to go to work and the party was still in full swing :eek: That shocked me a bit but has only been a one off, no partys since :T