What time would you knock on....

Caroline73_2

The houses are obviously not well sound proofed if your children could hear them talking so maybe there is a significant problem on both sides. It maybe worth mentioning to them, ask them if your children disturb them in the mornings and go from there.

onlyroz

At the weekend I would say that around 1 AM was acceptable. Weekdays around 11 PM. But I also agree that it's likely to be the bass that's the problem - and they'd probably be more likely to turn that down for you rather than turn off the whole thing.

heretolearn_2

I'd start off with a nice chat and then just ask them where they put their stereo speakers. I had a new neighbour whose music came through the wall horribly, turns out the speakers were against the party wall, they moved them to the other side of the room and problem was solved. They could play music whenever they wanted and we didn't hear it. A much better solution all round than just trying to get them to stop early.

balancelife

I would make a point of chatting to them when you're both outside if that ever happens. I say hi to my neighbours if I'm putting the bin out or getting in the car, mowing the grass etc, or collecting post from them when theyve taken it in. We are in a detached house but we have 2 under 5s, and no one else on our road had little ones, they are all older. I always wondered what they thought when we moved in, toddler and bump in tow!but theyve always all been nice. One did say the previous owners had v noisy boys who played football and shouted lots!I took as a warning Anyway. When I see them it can give them a chance to say if anything is bothering them, or I say "hope these two aren't being too noisy in the garden" etc.
So you could start by saying hi and something about your kids. If they say no we never hear them you could say "that's good. I wondered if you might since they have said they can hear you talking and the music through the wall". That might be enough if they haven't realised how noisy it is.

Although it would be great if they didn't play music when your kids are trying to get to sleep its probably unrealistic to expect that, they might not get home til 7 and as long as its not party every night its prob more of a case of thin walls and the type of music. Is it waking the kids up?

pmlindyloo

These things can escalate so quickly that you really need to do something now.

I second the friendly approach. Not knocking on the door but being proactive when you see them outside at any time and approaching them. I think it is always better to use the 'I hope we don't disturb you when..................... The walls are sooooo thin - have you noticed?''

With a bit of luck (fingers crossed) this should make them more aware and might even lead to...'please knock if we disturb you' (from each of you).

I believe this is a problem that affects many people and can often escalate to really horrendous situations quite quickly so nip it in the bud asap.

Compromise has to be the first solution.

duchy

Would you like to swop houses

My neighbours are the neighbours from hell .
He's nice enough when things are going well-she's a needy drug user with a colourful past. She will do anything to get his attention so we're often treated to his screaming abuse at her after she's disappeared all night or spent the rent money on drugs. They've taken up the carpet as their dogs ruined it -they leave the dogs alone in the house and they whine and howl (Oh and the dogs have wrecked my fence ) . Friday night they got home at midnight and the music went off at 4am. We've had them fighting in the street and the police are round on a regular basis. Their landlord doesn't want to know so long as he gets the rent despite most of the neighbours complaining. He thinks because everyone owns they won't want a neighbours dispute to declare if selling. I think we're fast getting to the point that we won't care about that though. Pity as their last two sets of tenents were lovely -and despite kids and dogs-we didn't hear a thing.

So your situation could be worse !!!

burnoutbabe

i went to the flat upstairs at 7.30 last night. It was only the base, they must be either new neighbours or got a new stereo, as all we can hear is base and no music. Didn't see the harm in letting them know that the base was sounding very loud downstairs, rather than any music as such. they said sorry and it went down. All sorted.

DUKE

I saw a programme on TV a few years ago with regards to noisy neighbours, it said if you can hear the words to the song then it's too loud. Have a friendly word with them & explain that you have kids .... They may not realize that they're making that much noise. I don't think you should be expected to listen to it for hours, just tell them as soon as you can hear it, they're invading your space.

City_Girl_2

Thanks for your replies...... fortunately as soon as I posted the music went off.... maybe they read my post:rotfl::rotfl:

It was always my intention to be friendly in my approach and to just ask if they could turn it down a little, it was always going to be this never a comlpaint as such and it was definately not my intention to go all guns blazing.

I actually never mentioned the fact that my children could hear them talking...... it was the Bruno Mars CD/song "I think I want to marry you"........ that my 4 year old sons could hear word for word through the wall when they were in bed.

Because of the way our our houses are positioned we never see them we live basically at the side of our house which is the last house on the street so we use one way in and out of the street so never past their house or see them.

A couple of months ago I did bang and shout through the wall at gone 4am and they stopped straight away but nonetheless we are by that popint awake and it is very annoying.

I am also fully aware of the child noise that comes from my sons but also think that in a fews years time when they may have a young family they would like peace at times. We also have rules on times of loud toys etc being played with, having consideration for them, our neighbours, when making such rules.

Maybe at 36 I am getting old but the noise coming through the wall is defeinately NOT, in my opinion, music it is just a thudding noise.

Think I will have to go and have a word and just take it from there.

Thanks again
CITY:)

crazyguy

I think I would just go and ask to join the party,