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mondello

Just to update...my date last night went really well :j And he rang me today so hopefully a second date is on the cards soon!

prudent_princess

mondello wrote: »

Just to update...my date last night went really well :j And he rang me today so hopefully a second date is on the cards soon!

That's great Mondello!!:j
Love is in the air....

prudent_princess

prudent_princess wrote: »

From the very first message, we hit it off.
Felt that amazing spark.....hadn't felt that with n e of the other guys I spoke to on POF!
We moved on to chatting on messenger and it was great.
On one occassion we said goodbye and neither of us wanted to go...so it took us an hour to finally log-off! LOL!
(Smiling now - thinking about that).
Another time I said "Bye honey, will miss you.."
He said "I am missing you already"
We met up for the first time and had a great time..just chatting and cuddling. We held hands as we walked down the street and it felt so natural.

After that the long chats continued...he even said he was falling in love with me. Really felt like I had met 'the one'

Second date..he was different. Went for a drink and he seemed to be in a hurry to leave the pub.
Got back to mine and he was all over me. I just wanted to chat and hold hands and cuddle, but wasn't ready for anything else.
He was pushing it though.
I felt pressurised and we ended up having a bit of a tiff over it.
He went home and thats the last I heard.
Apart from a quick text earlier to say he had just woken up and was on his way to work (he works nights). Still got xxx's on the text msg though.
Feel that he was just after one thing..

My lodger (also my friend) said "Sounds like he was just grooming you for sex"

I quoted my previous post cos by now I should think you'll all have forgotten my love story

But I received a message from him today......started off with the usual Hi how are you? Both making small talk...

Then he said " I do miss you like crazy and I am sorry if I upset things between us, I honestly didn't want to do any-thing wrong.
I was happy when we were together and now I'm not".

I also noticed he hasn't been on POF since he asked me out..
I actually thought he would be on the search for a new lady by now.

Don't know what to do now...heart says "go for it"! Head says "leave it be".

Luella-14_2

prudent_princess wrote: »

I quoted my previous post cos by now I should think you'll all have forgotten my love story

But I received a message from him today......started off with the usual Hi how are you? Both making small talk...

Then he said " I do miss you like crazy and I am sorry if I upset things between us, I honestly didn't want to do any-thing wrong.
I was happy when we were together and now I'm not".

I also noticed he hasn't been on POF since he asked me out..
I actually thought he would be on the search for a new lady by now.

Don't know what to do now...heart says "go for it"! Head says "leave it be".

Obviously I don't know how heated things got when he was trying it on: whether or not you felt threatened. However (assuming you didn't) he clearly realises he messed up and has apologised for it. Considering how much you clicked at first I'd say it's worthy of another date. It's only a short time and it may help you decide whether he can regain your trust. I wouldn't invite him to yours though, tbh I think it gives the impression that you do want more.

prudent_princess

Luella-14 wrote: »

Obviously I don't know how heated things got when he was trying it on: whether or not you felt threatened. However (assuming you didn't) he clearly realises he messed up and has apologised for it. Considering how much you clicked at first I'd say it's worthy of another date. It's only a short time and it may help you decide whether he can regain your trust. I wouldn't invite him to yours though, tbh I think it gives the impression that you do want more.

It never got heated and I didn't feel threatened tbh.
I felt uncomfortable, that's all.
In fact it was the next day we rowed about it.

I think your advice is very good...thank you!
Next time, I wont invite him home..not until i am sure about him or i want him to stay over! LOL!

Scotty1.7

hi all

I urm- Just got back from my date.

Met for dinner at 8 and had a great time- I think we are going to see each other again, hopefully- Not sure when though.

She did say she really liked me and that she wants to see me again though.

prudent_princess

Scotty1.7 wrote: »

hi all

I urm- Just got back from my date.

Met for dinner at 8 and had a great time- I think we are going to see each other again, hopefully- Not sure when though.

She did say she really liked me and that she wants to see me again though.

Great! Sounds promising!

prudent_princess

I read my stars today:

"Err on the side of an intimate relationship. Icing has to be spread thinly on a large cake".

What does that mean. Please can someone tell me!

Februarycat

Scotty1.7 wrote: »

hi all

I urm- Just got back from my date.

Met for dinner at 8 and had a great time- I think we are going to see each other again, hopefully- Not sure when though.

She did say she really liked me and that she wants to see me again though.

Glad it went well and you had a nice evening.

southoftheriver

Hello all,

Just out of interest, how to people split the bills when they first start dating someone? I've been seeing someone for about 6 weeks and everytime the bill comes he says "shall we split this?" Now i'm fine with sharing the bill but it would be nice to treat each other too. I've now started just paying the bill at times. Another thing is that he's asked me to meet his friends at a meal at a michelin starred restaurant. Lovely and all, but in the email he said "it will only be £30 plus wine and service (around £50), a bargain and i'd love to show you off." This made me feel really weird for a number of reasons. I have a well paid job but also have a loan to pay off which he is aware of, and i've never spent anything near that amount on dinner, I still find pizza express posh! It's a michelin starred restaurant so would be great food, but seems a very formal way to meet people for the first time. I have mentioned all of this and was told "well if its about the money you can pay me back." He has since mentioned the restaurant about six times even though I keep saying no! I'm not in the habit of borrowing money just so I can eat at a posh restaurant so I politely declined, but its left me wondering.

If the situation were reversed i'd want him to meet the people in my life in more casual surroundings but if it were a dinner, I would pay for it. In fact we are having a formal do at work with tickets and planned to buy him one (it is a similar price to the meal but a once a year thing). We aren't at the point of buying each other gifts or spending significant amounts on each other so realistically I probably wouldn't have gone to the meal anyway, but am I feel a bit weird about the whole thing and i'm not really sure why... maybe i'm making something of nothing?

Thank you for listening to my rambling. My friends mainly think that because he didn't pay in full on the first day I shouldn't even have gone on any more dates but in the main i've never had a problem splitting 50/50 before, its just this...