17 yr old pregnant girl

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I_love_Harrison wrote: »

If they have a boy they can have all my baby clothes etc but i'll still be using my pram/cot etc.

If she isn't entitled to anything until 29 weeks i'll have to buy her some cheap leggings & t shirts as she is a skinny little thing usually & her clothes are already getting tight.

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Any chance that the girl can go back to college, as this would enable you to claim Child Benefit for her? i believe there is also a programme run by Connexions that she can join that would extend the right to claim CB. If her parents have any sort of money you could also claim CSA from them whilst she lives with you.

And get both of them to start looking at www.freegle.co.uk or freecycle to start getting stuff together for the baby. I would suggest that they both try to get clothes for themselves as well (plus anything else that your son would buy) as that would mean more money was available for things like food.

Nara

lol, i remember a girl at my school got pregnant at 14!!! was shocking all round, she was the last person you would have guessed who would have ended up in that situation. Anyhoo turned out one of her parents friends got her that way, he was 40 odd she 14....so yeah it can happen to anyone i guess!

Babies don't have to be expensive, i planned for mine but i bought all second hand stuff from ebay and accepted any free stuff offered to me. The baby grows so quickly its not worth buying anything tbh.

Oldernotwiser

flutterby_lil wrote: »

Not that shy obviously!

I beat you to it at the start of the thread - I expect yours will be removed as well!

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Margey wrote: »

That sounds liek a tricky situation to be in. She could get a job once her baby has grown up a little more to help. Because she is not your daughter and you have not legally adopted her you won't be able to get any help. It is just like if some friends came to stay.

Hope you get this sorted

Slightly different, but when my DD's partner came to live with us, he was 16. I claimed CB & CTC for him for a short time. His parents willingly gave up their entitlement to it because I was looking after him. It's nothing to do with "legally adopting" the child - it is being "responsible for" However, if the girlfriend is not in education the OP will not be able to get CB for her. I suggest that she registers with Connexions then CB and CTC will be payable.

If applicable, you can make a claim for CB and on the form it asks if someone else is currently getting it for the child. If you put yes, they contact the other parent and get their consent to give up the money. If they will not give it up, you can inform them that the child is no longer living with their parent and it will be stopped for them anyway.

Nara wrote: »

lol, i remember a girl at my school got pregnant at 14!!! was shocking all round, she was the last person you would have guessed who would have ended up in that situation. Anyhoo turned out one of her parents friends got her that way, he was 40 odd she 14....so yeah it can happen to anyone i guess! My DD was 15 (9 days before 16) and the last person you would expect this to happen to as well!!! My other DD was 13 and 14 when she had hers (6 weeks early). She cannot claim anything apart from CB until she is 16.

Babies don't have to be expensive, i planned for mine but i bought all second hand stuff from ebay and accepted any free stuff offered to me. The baby grows so quickly its not worth buying anything tbh.

My DD1 claimed CTC, CB and IS in her own right when the baby was born. I claimed the £500 before birth in order to get equipment for the baby. In her case, there was nothing she could claim before birth because she was still in education. As soon as she turned 16 she could claim in her own right.

I would suggest the the girl either registers for agency work or registers with Connexions. It might also be an idea to make an appointment with the U18 advisor at the Job Centre Plus.

After the baby is born, it would be a worth encouraging her to return to education if she can. She can get Care To Learn payments of £160/week to pay for a nursery or child minder, and gain extra qualifications.

Good luck. It's hard for teenagers to be parents because of the stigma attached that they are all scroungers or slAgs.

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