17 yr old pregnant girl

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nat21luv wrote: »

Im sorry, I dont mean to be rude but I really cant stand people who turn to abortion as an escape route. It should be available for rape victims and mothers of poorly babies.

For fear of sounding like Jeremy Kyle...he shouldn't of given his present if he doesnt know how to wrap it up.

Ah, the self-righteous one

I think your definition of abortion as "an escape route" is rather naive - but, do continue to base your values on the JK culture (that'll be the culture of holier-than-thou advice on a programme designed for shock and awe by exploiting those of low moral standards simply for their yearning of 5 minutes TV 'fame' in return for the entertainment of those who are enthralled simply so viewers can make themselves feel 'worthy' and superior? Car crash TV)

In this thread, it is not a case of "giving his present and not knowing how to wrap it" because the OP's son isn't in the league of JK's low life's who "present-unwrapped-and-scarper" - the OP's son is not only standing by his girlfriend, they are making joint decisions about their responsibility as a consequence of their actions. Commendable in my book! Likewise, the OP has presented them with choices and is clearly supportive of any decisions this young couple are making. Wow! The least likely contestants for the JK culture/show/exploitation if ever there was one! Mind you, under your criteria, those women on JK who are bringing up children without father's and existing on tax payers money (aka benefits) should be applauded simply for not having an abortion? Men probably should "wrap it" - but that is so sexist! Women have options too Stop blaming men alone! It takes two to tango. (No apologies, I meant to be rude).

Clearly you are not at all sorry for being "rude" - or you wouldn't have been.

The criteria for abortion is quite simple really: you need to be pregnant. No more; no less. Anything else is irrelevant, including your personal stance - this isn't a thread about the merits or de-merits of abortion; this thread is about a family trying to make the best of the situation they find themselves in despite best intentions and advice to the contrary. Failing to point out all options would have been negligent by the OP. She pointed out the options, the couple concerned made their decision. End of.

Jinx

If the sons partner is 'available for work' surely she should be able to claim job seekers allowance? This is what I claimed years back when I was 17 and pregnant. One point though, I was seriously ill and said that I could only do part time which wasnt acceptable to claim JSA, have to be available for full time. After a certain point I claimed Income support.

I can understand the OP asking them to have a termination - my mum did the same. It can be the right decision for some and not for others. But regardless I am quite sure the OP will be a lovely grandparent and they are worth their weight in gold. (My 19 year old adores her grandparents on my side who stood by me and her dad as teen parents and doesnt see his parents who said we 'had ruined our lives....')

JodieMasonMummy

Jinx wrote: »

If the sons partner is 'available for work' surely she should be able to claim job seekers allowance? This is what I claimed years back when I was 17 and pregnant. One point though, I was seriously ill and said that I could only do part time which wasnt acceptable to claim JSA, have to be available for full time. After a certain point I claimed Income support.

Job seekers in only for 18+ and she wouldn't be able to claim if she could claim untill 29 weeks of pregnancy

serious_saver

I_love_Harrison wrote: »

She had just got a job as a chamber maid before she found out she was pregnant although it was only a 0 contract one but we live 25 miles away so she had to give it up.

We only live in a small Town with a handful of shops mainly charity although we do have a Tesco & McDonalds they are not taking anyone on atm.

My son is doing 4 A Level subjects & with the amount of homework he has wouldn't really be able to work part time & study without it effecting his grades.

Hopefully she will be able to get a part time job soon as it will be difficult once she starts showing.

If there are charity shops then she should think about volunteering if she can't get a job. As long as she doesn't have to do any lifting she should be fine and she can keep looking for other jobs at the same time.

Crucially, it will help her build up some experience for future jobs and I'm sure they won't hesitate to take her on as they don't have to worry about maternity etc. Getting out and doing something with her time will probably serve her better than sitting around the house.

On a slightly cynical note, she can also get a look at donations when they come in. She might find that she can buy a few things cheap from the charity shop for both her and the baby before they go on the shop floor.

I think it's great that you are supporting your son and his girlfriend and you are doing the right thing by encouraging him to finish his education. In the long run it will be better for the whole family.

They don't normally pay jobseekers allowance for under 18s but they can do in exceptional circumstances so they might in her case. She should get in touch with the Job centre asap as they can occasionally back date payment to the day you apply but they can't go back further. I don't really know much about income support so I can't comment on that.

DCFC79

I_love_Harrison wrote: »

The plan was for her to get a job but she doesn't seem to do very well in interviews as she is very shy.

i was shy when i was at school but i managed to get my first job on my own accord so it can be done, maybe bit of practise and a couple of interviews(even if rejections) under her belt for experience.

Margey

That sounds liek a tricky situation to be in. She could get a job once her baby has grown up a little more to help. Because she is not your daughter and you have not legally adopted her you won't be able to get any help. It is just like if some friends came to stay.

Hope you get this sorted

flutterby_lil

I_love_Harrison wrote: »

The plan was for her to get a job but she doesn't seem to do very well in interviews as she is very shy.

Not that shy obviously!

chalkie99

Originally Posted by I love Harrison
The plan was for her to get a job but she doesn't seem to do very well in interviews as she is very shy.

flutterby_lil wrote: »

Not that shy obviously!

Maybe ask the interviewer to turn the light out

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flutterby_lil wrote: »

Not that shy obviously!

chalkie99 wrote: »

Maybe ask the interviewer to turn the light out

There's a wealth of difference in being "shy" in a social context and being "intimate".
Do grow up!
Neither comment is pertinent and I doubt either is appreciated by the OP!

chalkie99

Do lighten up a little.