OS Daily Monday 19th September 2011

mioliere

Uolypool - as difficult as it must be, I would do what others have said and leave her be for the moment. You know where she is and she knows that her home is really with you. She will soon realise, as Bitsy has said, that the grass is not greener anywhere else. I hope it works out.

KathyXX

donny-gal

Uolypool I feel for you but mioliere is right. She will want you to ring her daily to see how she is, and ask if she will return - on her terms of course.:eek:

Hurt though it will, do not phone her or try to contact her or her Dad. Unless he has another partner who is prepared to be her slave, or he is totally domesticated?? then she will have to come home from school and prepare her own meals, do the shopping, and wash and iron her clothes. You need to let her wait until she has run out of clean clothes, and the attitude will quickly change. As with her Dad's when he has a PITA with him all the time

You can check with school she is attending, and if not set them on them both.

This is make or break mate, and if you give in she has got you under her thumb for the rest of your life. (((hugs)))
DG

beemuzed

Uolypool - big hugs to you. I can only guess how you must be feeling. I suspect the others are right and she will be expecting you to be trying to contact her and beg her to return, so not doing that may be the best thing. You do know she is safe and you have told school where she is. If she fails to show up they will have to follow it up. This must be so hard for you. I've missed the reasons behind all this, but guess it's teenage angst. Try to concentrate on just getting through today - at least you know she's not wandering the streets.

beemuzed

Redruby thanks for your kind thoughts. Calm I'm not really - my avatar of the swan is paddling furiously just below the surface. Always wonder whether I should share what's going on, but easier to do so with virtual friends than with family and others living here, so am indulging my need to share. Well aware that many others also have hard roads to travel.

jaxx46

AAgh have just lost a long post :mad:
Uolypool, when my son did this at 14 I sent him 1 text saying that all I wanted was for him to be happy & if that meant being at his dad's so be it & that he would always be welcome to stay/visit maybe something along the lines of the arrangement he'd previously had with his dad. It wasn't all that I wanted to say IYKWIM, he didn't last long once he realised that being treated like an adult at weekends was not the same as being treated like an adult full time, i.e getting himself up for school a good hour or so earlier than he was used to because his dad was at work already, hopefully you to will have a speedy resolution.

OSwise, bedding washed & on line x 2. Chest freezer out on patio defrosting ready to go on freecycle & the meatball goulash that we didn't have on Friday is in the slowcooker. Have got a couple of phone calls & emails to sort out & then a peaceful afternoon of knitting is on the cards.

JG hugs & energy vibes for you x x

Hugs, spoons & hi5's all round x x

jaxx

Marber

Morning everyone

Uolypool I agree with what jaxx46 has said this will give her the opportunity to return when she needs to. Even if you have to text her every day or a couple of times a week it lets her know that you still care and that you are there for her even if she doesn't want to accept it yet.

My mum got me a panasonic breadmaker as an early birthday present on Friday and it is already well used! I have IBS and commercial bread makes me worse but I can tolerate home made bread but figured out fairly quickly I am not a natural baker. Only thing is No2S is still a growing teenager and can eat a loaf in one sitting!

The WM has been worked hard today loads 2 and 3 are on the line and load 1 is all put away. DW on overnight and unloaded and started reloading.

Just had an early lunch as I am off to the Gym in a couple of hours and can't work out on a full stomach.

Ps where can I find a list of the smilies?

NoahsPennilessMummy

Morning
not on much at the mo as trying to keep DS settled:o

Hugs to Ullypool...hope it gets sorted quickly..I agree with others, it will be hard but you musnt let her win x
Beemuzed hugs to you....surely they can section him and get him sorted? his state of mind needs to be dealt with and it isnt going to go away on its own. Hope he gets the help he needs and you get some peace x

JulieGeorgiana

Welcome Marber,

Which Panasonic did you get? I just got the SD-2501 and I love it, it's on everyday (I have dietary requirements and this cuts my costs dramatically, and the boys bread is a little cheaper too!) I made rolls at the weekend, and nearly married my machine... DH is very worried

Jx

Ps. when you type a reply, under the box is a 'go advanced' button... the smilies are in there x

Marber

Hi JG thanks for the welcome

I have the sd-2502. It was the same price as the 2501 in Makro and has a yeast dispenser which gives me even less chance of getting it wrong:D

No1S appetite has slowed down but No2S is still a teenager, over 6'3 and is still growing :eek: I am sure he eats his own weight in food daily.

And thank you I now have smilies :T

JulieGeorgiana

Marber my boys DH and DS9 go through a sandwich loaf a day, Give it a few more years when Baby Roo here is 9 (and hopefully another one) and the DS will be 18... I can see me making 2 or 3 loaves a day :cool:

I sympathise wholeheartedly

Right well, I am off to put on my 2nd loaf today (for me)