Mum not coming to Hen Night!!!

Oldernotwiser

If it isn't costing your mother anything, why has she had to pay a deposit?

Presumably she doesn't think it's going to be the sedate, non alcoholic affair that you describe if she feels she can't come because she has to be at work the next morning?

Isn't ranting at her for 20 minutes pretty brattish behaviour, whatever the circumstances?

PrincessDonna2009

sorry I am not arguing with anyone, all I am saying is people automatically assume when you post something, if you thought my post was not very clear or came across something different, then why out of consideration say something along the lines of something else instead of jumping in and assuming things. Post's can come across a bit on the nasty side sometimes, but I am in a bad and upset mood, which clearly you would think that by reading the post.

I don't know what it is with forums now days, they all seem to be so nasty and spiteful at times! What is the cyber world coming to!

Sorry but I am not carrying on arguing with anyone now, you have had your say, so I will leave it at that, to avoid any further conflict, in which I am not on this forum to do and have never has been. Just a normal person trying to get advice from other people, but instead you get your head ripped off!

Thanks for all your comments, I do appreciate them

aliasojo

Perhaps you should re-read the thread when you are calm. You might be able to see it differently then. I think your feelings are clouding your judgement.

I hope your night goes well whether Mum is there or not.

shellsuit

My Mum came to mine, but then again it was only a meal and a few drinks in an Italian restaurant.

If my Mum told me she was coming to mine (like the Op's Mum has told her), then she said she wasn't and was trying to pin it on not being able to afford it or not get the time off work (when she's known for 5 months and there is nothing further to pay, like the OP's situ), then I'd be as angry and upset as the OP.

It's one night, for her daughter. Would it really hurt for her to go?

Hollie84

My mum is older being 60 even if she was 35/40 i still wouldnt ask her to come on my hen night i always see hen nights as a friends and younger sisters/nieces night out whether it be a meal or a clubbing night.i have friends from all over and as far as i can remember there mum never went on there hen night either ive just never heard of it before.

i think if she couldnt make your wedding then id be upset but a hen night no,all it is is a night out where your friends take advantage and dress u up etc surely u can have a another night out with your mum,i personally just cannot see the big deal with her not wanting to go,its a normal night that can be done any time just without the label of you being a miss and being a mrs instead

PrincessDonna2009

shellsuit wrote: »

It's one night, for her daughter. Would it really hurt for her to go?

exactly! Especially when I want her, she's my mum.

QueenieB

Planning a wedding is a hugely emotional experience and I can remember that things which really didn't matter at all seemed really important when I was planning mine. Now it must seem awful, and like your mum is rejecting you, but it really isn't worth casting a cloud over your wedding for.
And old as I am, if I'd spent 20 minutes ranting at my mother for any reason at all, what I'd be doing now was making sure she knew how sorry I am.

globetraveller

QueenieB wrote: »

Planning a wedding is a hugely emotional experience and I can remember that things which really didn't matter at all seemed really important when I was planning mine. Now it must seem awful, and like your mum is rejecting you, but it really isn't worth casting a cloud over your wedding for.
And old as I am, if I'd spent 20 minutes ranting at my mother for any reason at all, what I'd be doing now was making sure she knew how sorry I am.

Good post! I did say earlier that there may be more to the story. Rightly or wrongly you don't come across great in the thread and I'm wondering if stress has made you the same in the real world.
Honestly- I don't know why we need wedding diet threads- the whole lead up to most weddings is so stressful that the weight probably falls off anyway:rotfl:
Once you feel calmer have a think through and see if there is any truth in that at all. Unless in general you don't get on your mum then there must be a reason why she is suddenly saying no to the henshine, and you don't seem to believe it is about money. I hope you get it all sorted.

trinity_enigma

I might have missed something when reading the thread but have you suggested to your mum that she come just for the meal and then leave early and explained its important to you. Unless you live quite a way from where your goingthis might be a solution to all problems?

Hope this works out for you.

donnap83

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Who on earth takes their mother on their hen night?

Not me, thats for certain!