Do you have a spare cig please?

victory

claire16c wrote: »

Yes and also they land at Brize Norton and normally get picked up by someone so its very unlikely theyd be a random train somewhere with nothing! Also you could tell as theyd be in uniform.

He wasn't in uniform no.

My OH says that if he sees a begger and he asks for '50p for a cup of tea' he will go and buy them one yes or he always gave half his sandwich to this spefic one that was near his work but he never gave them money.

He did the sandwich thing all the time until once the beggar was a different one and he gave him the cheese sandwich and the beggar went 'chesse, yuck I hate f*&*&(( cheese, I like ham':rotfl::rotfl:and threw it on the floor.

j.e.j.

You shouldn't have to a) give them a cigarette or b) feel you have to make up some convoluted reason as to why you don't want to.

I guess if they see you on your own, OP, they'll see you as an easy target..

I don't smoke but in the city close to where we are there are a lot of street drinkers and druggies and I found that you can't even sit outside and eat a sandwich without someone coming up to you begging for money/food. If they're on drugs (which some of them clearly are) you never quite know how they're going to behave or react.

I've since moved and I rarely go into that city these days, if I can help it!!

victory

That is just it, the fear of what they are on, how they will react, they control the situation if you are alone and feel vulnerable and they play on that and I play right into their hands, it is a real shame.

It has brought back though in reverse how I defend the kids but seem powerless to do it for myself...the kids were playing out the front, lots of them, my back door open, one kid comes in and says that there is a man out there offering us football tickets to see the local team if we go with him........

You have never seen me move so quick, I went out shouted and screamed at him, got all the kids in, made all the kids ring their parents, rang the police and slowly one by one the kids parents came to collect their kids and the police came and looked for him but he had gone.

Amazing what fear does to you but me to them I just go 'there you go':D

claire16c

victory wrote: »

He wasn't in uniform no.

My OH says that if he sees a begger and he asks for '50p for a cup of tea' he will go and buy them one yes or he always gave half his sandwich to this spefic one that was near his work but he never gave them money.

He did the sandwich thing all the time until once the beggar was a different one and he gave him the cheese sandwich and the beggar went 'chesse, yuck I hate f*&*&(( cheese, I like ham':rotfl::rotfl:and threw it on the floor.

Definitely wasnt in the military then.

Thats reminds me of when I was in San diego and my and my DH kept going in this 7-11 store to buy our lunch and dinner (we were travelling so on a budget ) and this guy who was either an alchie or on drugs would sit outside and ask us for money every time we went in or out. Which was about twice a day for 4 days! Anyway one time this older American couple went inside and bought him a hot meal, even though its like a convinience store they do hot stuff too which actually tastes ok.

They came out and handed it to him, and it was a huge portion being the typical american serving size, and the only thing I heard him say was 'What is it?'. I mean seriously!!

victory

Ok thanks.....................................................

newcook

Melonade wrote: »

Last week OH was walking down our road, just been to the shop and some random says "Hey got any spare money so I can buy some beer?" OH told him were to go... starting in F and ending in OFF!!

lol! at least the random was being honest about it!!

RadoJo

When I smoked and people asked for a 'spare' cigarette, I would just say 'there's no such thing'. That way it's not really confrontation as you aren't saying 'no' outright, just pointing out that you probably weren't going to give up smoking 19 cigarettes into a pack! It generally didn't cause confrontation like an outright refusal and would catch them off their guard enough to walk away while they were still thinking about it.

bravobeastie

I was in town a few weeks ago and there was a guy that was picking up all the fag ends off the street, presumably to nick whatever dregs of tobacco were left on them. I always use the cigarette disposal bins (of which there are a few outside our shop) so he's not getting my dog ends lol

missprice

they must be a better class of beggar round where i live
cos they always ask if they can 'buy a cig love'

and i always reply yeah sure that'll be £4.20

and they give me a funny look and i say f you have £4.20 you can have one if not beggar off.

have had one bloke take me seriously and give me the money sad git
he could have bought 10 for that money

and the other one i love to say is sorry i dont smoke
yes thats with a cig in me hand

by the time they have realised what i have said i have walked off

dont think in the middle of downtown people will do much if you say no, but in a little used alley i would probably give em a 'spare'

missprice

bravobeastie wrote: »

I was in town a few weeks ago and there was a guy that was picking up all the fag ends off the street, presumably to nick whatever dregs of tobacco were left on them. I always use the cigarette disposal bins (of which there are a few outside our shop) so he's not getting my dog ends lol

oh one of my neighbours does this
when i wont give her a cig (always)
she says can i pick up your dog ends thanks
eeuuuucchhhh
and she wanders round my garden looking for the dogs