my 7 yr old son raising money for save the children.

mrshaz

hello thanks again people for your support

but liam8282 we get it, you dont think its right. this board is for threads that help charities, well that is what my son is doing regardless to what you may or may not think about it.

my son is doing a fantastic job off his own back, you know nothing about him. i am not using my son to shame people in donating to charity, its their choice.

i am not using him for him to make myself feel better, i am quite capable of raising money myself for charities i feel strongly about and i have done so in the past without help from my son. he has decided he wants to help too, there is nothing wrong with that. we were hoping the article would help to sell tickets not just highlight how wonderful my son is (which he is of course)

i feel that up until now i have been pretty polite excepted your opinion but i'm starting to feel that your posts are getting a little mean.

again as i would like to say this board (as stated in one of the stickys) is for threads that directly benefit charities, we are doing nothing illegal, or immoral its just something you dont agree with and we excepted that in your first post. so i'd appreciate it, that if it annoys and you dont have anything nice (or constructive to say) please dont say anything at all.

liam8282

mrshaz wrote: »

hello thanks again people for your support

but liam8282 we get it, you dont think its right. this board is for threads that help charities, well that is what my son is doing regardless to what you may or may not think about it.

This board is a public forum, where everyone can post their opinion whether it agrees with your own or not.

mrshaz wrote: »

my son is doing a fantastic job off his own back, you know nothing about him. i am not using my son to shame people in donating to charity, its their choice.

I was making the point that people were very quick to criticise me for not exactly agreeing with your fundraising ideas, but on the other hand they are not exactly supporting you either.

In my opinion hypocritical, at least me making such comments may have the desired effect and help your son raise more money, if only to prove me wrong.

mrshaz wrote: »

i am not using him for him to make myself feel better, i am quite capable of raising money myself for charities i feel strongly about and i have done so in the past without help from my son. he has decided he wants to help too, there is nothing wrong with that. we were hoping the article would help to sell tickets not just highlight how wonderful my son is (which he is of course)

Yes but as I said previously, you doing your bit and raising money for charity doesn't quite have the same effect as using a 7 year old child does it?

I did say how many people would be interested if it was just you who came on and told us about you making buns or doing a walk for charity.

I also read the newspaper article, and the one point that jumped straight of the page for me was where the child was asked why he wanted to raise money and he simply did not know.

I have explained why I think he wants to do it.

mrshaz wrote: »

i feel that up until now i have been pretty polite excepted your opinion but i'm starting to feel that your posts are getting a little mean.

I feel I have been polite too, and also accepted your opinion.

I feel that at first you were polite, but you are now pandering to other comments that have been made and you may need to go back and read my posts again, I have not made a single personal remark about you or your son. If I have, the lines have been blurred, I am talking about this type of fund raising in general, you are not the first story I have heard like this and you will not be the last.

mrshaz wrote: »

again as i would like to say this board (as stated in one of the stickys) is for threads that directly benefit charities, we are doing nothing illegal, or immoral its just something you dont agree with and we excepted that in your first post. so i'd appreciate it, that if it annoys and you dont have anything nice (or constructive to say) please dont say anything at all.

I am posting a reply on a public internet forum. You need to accept other peoples opinions, if you cannot do that, as I suggested to another comment, maybe it is you who needs to be looking elsewhere?

If you want constructive advice I would suggest that if your son wants to do his bit for charity, he does it by not approaching adults or local business and putting them into a position where by the feel they cannot say no to a 7 year old child, if he does want to approach them, he should do it in writing, but even so I do not think this is the moral sort of thing for a child to be doing in the first place, I believe this is an adult form of fundraising just using the child, say as the pdsa use cuddly animals.

I would suggest that if eating is his main love in life (per the newspaper), he makes a sacrifice himself and gives up sweets for say a month and you give that money to charity for him.

Katiehound

and shall I tell you what jumped out the page for me? The fact that this lad has been diagnosed with ADHD and has difficulty concentrating- which may well be why he doesn't remember the name of the charity. In which case doubly well done.

I seem to remember that the very first post asked for our ideas- it did not ask for money. I am very happy to give those and to provide positive messages. I already have my 'pet' charities and fund raise myself so I know how hard it can be. Support in this case does not always need to be of a monetary nature.

As far as local businesses go, I have been there done that and it is up to the business to say 'sorry. no' which happened frequently. I agree they might find it harder to say no to a child. A couple of things that I always did was to make sure the business got a public thank-you- some advertsing on the programme, poster, whatever and they always received a thank you letter, even if it was duplicated with their name hand written in (This was before I had a computer.)

Please can you just stop picking holes in what other people are doing? There is enough doom and gloom around already.

And as a last comment giving up sweets for a month is fine but perhaps the lad would like the charity to have a little more cash than that!

spadoosh

Liam go and argue with someone on youtube, you will find a more suitable audience for your anger and maturity levels.

liam8282

Katiehound wrote: »

and shall I tell you what jumped out the page for me? The fact that this lad has been diagnosed with ADHD and has difficulty concentrating- which may well be why he doesn't remember the name of the charity. In which case doubly well done.

I seem to remember that the very first post asked for our ideas- it did not ask for money. I am very happy to give those and to provide positive messages. I already have my 'pet' charities and fund raise myself so I know how hard it can be. Support in this case does not always need to be of a monetary nature.

As far as local businesses go, I have been there done that and it is up to the business to say 'sorry. no' which happened frequently. I agree they might find it harder to say no to a child. A couple of things that I always did was to make sure the business got a public thank-you- some advertsing on the programme, poster, whatever and they always received a thank you letter, even if it was duplicated with their name hand written in (This was before I had a computer.)

Please can you just stop picking holes in what other people are doing? There is enough doom and gloom around already.

I am not trying to pick holes or anything, I posted my opinion and was happy to leave it at that.

Now several people have left what I find to be provocative messages aimed at me, which I have simply replied to. It is no skin off my nose.

Katiehound wrote: »

And as a last comment giving up sweets for a month is fine but perhaps the lad would like the charity to have a little more cash than that!

Why pick holes in my suggestion?

This was simply one suggestion, I think a better lesson in charity for a 7 yo would be self sacrifice, rather than being used as a tool in an adult fund raising scheme.

Even if it was say £5 a month, if he then rolled out this suggestion to his school friends, say £5 x 30, it would soon add up.

I would find this a more "ethical", (for want of a better word), way for a child to raise money.

But again, that is simply my opinion, take it as you will.

spadoosh wrote: »

Liam go and argue with someone on youtube, you will find a more suitable audience for your anger and maturity levels.

It is not me arguing, I have said what I wanted to on the matter.

I am merely replying to comments that have been specifically aimed at me.

barak

liam8282 wrote: »

Have all you people saying how brilliant this child is, or how much they want to help, or how much you would like to go to this party (but it's too far, wrong time, etc.), bothered to donate on the link that was provided?

4 donations in all, so I guess that answer that question.....

Although I don't agree with most of what liam8282 says, I am surprised that there haven't been many more contributions to Caleb's Justgiving site in aid of Save the Children.

Come on! Those £5 donations plus Gift Aid soon add up!

http://www.justgiving.com/caleb-haze

liam8282

barak wrote: »

Although I don't agree with most of what liam8282 says, I am surprised that there haven't been many more contributions to Caleb's Justgiving site in aid of Save the Children.

Come on! Those £5 donations plus Gift Aid soon add up!

http://www.justgiving.com/caleb-haze

See, my reverse psychology worked. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I await the thanks.......

Sophh

I love this.. What a sweet little boy. Let's hope that more and more children start doing things little your little boy

mrshaz

hello everyone.

just thought i'd let you know how caleb is getting on. its his half term this week so he's getting really excited as its only a week and half till the fundraiser. we are making attempts to sell tickets which seems to be going fairly well
we are off to tescos and morrisons to see if they might help with food and decorations.

he hopes to raise a fair amount for save the children,

loobylou232

How did the party go? I've just read this thread and need to have an update!!