Stupid embarassing question alert

jakes-mum

im not sure why they are coming out subconciously now as we've been like this for 2 years, maybe the new money worries have made it bad enough, i mean we got to the stage on 29th last month we had £17 to last us till today. We got here but I really dont know how to be honest. Im hoping just having it put in context and the fact money went in today might be enough to send this dream away. I'll let you know tomorrow if it came back tonight

Thank you everyone

adamantine

this is a total stab in the dark but makes sense to me...

your DS is 10 and DD is 3. your DS has much more freedom than your DD, is old enough to walk to school alone (im assuming you dont live in the back of beyond lol) and goes out to play with friends etc and to me it screams that you are scared of something happening to him that you cannot control when he is away from you which is why this psycho is so easily able to take your son away but leaves your daughter safe with you as she is not going out alone and is much "safer" at home with you.

does this sound even close?

jakes-mum

He's been walking to school on his own since he was 8 as I couldnt take him anymore and its only other side of our horseshoe road (as in we are one side of horseshoe, school is other side with houses in middle) he's allowed alot of freedom as we live in a small town and ive recently let him start going up the skatepark with his mates. Maybe it is all to do with him getting older and I cant protect him anymore or keep him close to me, I know he's growing up but I have been letting go gradually for years (not as much as other mums, he still cant go into the town centre without a grown up) whats triggered it all of a sudden? Is it that next year he will be at secondary school and I know i'll have to let go completely and let him become . . well a man I suppose.

I think my main probelm is, why is he going off to be tortured? rather than why is he being taken . .

adamantine

has he been bullied at school at all and you are worried about him being bullied worse at secondary school?

jakes-mum

noope no bullying, but he has had a rough time with some teachers, so bad that he has been labeled 'a naughty boy'. We are trying to get him into a different secondary school than his catchment area as we have a feeling that some of his 'friends' are starting things and then leaving him to take the wrap. He's a very bright child, very gifted in maths and the school dont really give a monkeys he just plods along with everyone else and gets bored.

The school I want to put him into he will have to take a bus and as its not catchment we will have to pay for it. They do a spare seat plan where you apply each term to a seat, if they can give you one its £150 a term, not sure how im going to afford that at the minute and if he cant get a seat how will i get him there as im not allowed to drive further than our town centre.

DH is making noises about sending him to catchment school with everyone else, but im worried if we do then he will carry on with his tag from primary and we could have serious problems

DVardysShadow

NAR wrote: »

First port of call is your GP. He will hopefully prescribe something to help you sleep without anxiety.

I disagree. This is covering your eyes to make it go away.

Dreams are meaningful and serve a purpose. If you don't listen, they will only shout louder. Drug therapy may suppress the dreams for a while. But if they are not listened to and the underlying issue remains, they will shout louder, ultimately breaking through the drug therapy.

But if you believe dreams are random and meaningless, then drug therapy is the way to go.

chocolate.buttons

May sound like a random question, but were you bullied in secondary school or around your son's age? When I think about your dream, I take it to mean that you are worried that, because he is older than your daughter, he will be going through new experiences (would relate this to going to secondary school soon perhaps?) and you are worried that whilst you're not there to protect him as such, he will be victimised.
Or another interpretation could be that you are concerned that your son is secretly hurt/unhappy that you have been spending more time with your daughter than him (has she had any health issues, etc, that would require more of your attention?) and are feeling guilty about this.
Whatever the root cause of the nightmare, I hope you manage to get your sleep back to normal asap. If it's causing a real disturbance, I would echo other posters re going to your GP for help. Best wishes.

memelalou

I wonder how common recurring dream actually are?

I've had two. One i've had since i was a child, on and off over the years. The second was over two years, but much more frequent.

The first is more of a location, actually the the toilets at the town shopping center. It's actually very big and really grotty, i don't think it's been updated since it was built.
The use of the room and what happens always changes. It's been a school changing room, a basement of a strip club, a womens dorm room. It always is different.
What happens always changes too. I've had really happy moments there to being stalked, murdered and raped. Ofcourse the bad ones stand out more but i'm actually a little scared of the loo's in town now.

The second was much nicer, as i was 'in love'. Same man different situations. It was a movie type head over heals, true love. It made me actually really upset when i woke up:o.


Though i have no idea what my dreams mean. It's no wonder your having nightmares with so much on your plate right now. Though i know there can't be much done about the financial side right now. Would it help if you went over with your husband what would need to be done if your health declined or at least write it down just in case.
I don't know alot about your illness, so forgive me if i sound ignorant, but would you be able to get a carer to help you around the house and with your children.

Peakma

NAR wrote: »

First port of call is your GP. He will hopefully prescribe something to help you sleep without anxiety.

Is that actually a serious suggestion?! Have an uncomfortable dream= go and get prescribed drugs to surpress them?!!

I remember my dreams vividly most nights, and have practiced this since being a small child. I love dreaming, the intense feeling. Scary ones can really play on my mind for variable amounts of time.

I would interpret your dream as, the building= the world
The phsyco= the society and system we live in
Your son being taken=he's growing up, becoming more independent, and making steps towards growing up, and joining that society.

It is an anxious thing for a parent to face, the world is a scary place at times.
I would say the way to tackle this dream, is to talk to your son about the world, arm him with skills to deal with life, simple things like crossing roads, boiling the kettle, helping with tea, anything that gives him more skills for real life, or gives you more confidence towards him growing up and gaining independence.
It is a beautiful magnificent world we live in, teach him to treasure it.
Unfortunately there is bad in this world, war,polution, famine,corruption, junk food!etc. I think that is the pyschopath in your dream.
( the world where people have learnt to go to the gp for some crazy drugs, to surpress dreaming!! they aren't there to help you, they are there to make you addicted to them, to make more money for the greedy pharmaceutical companies, to dumb you down, to numb your brain, from processing thoughts, from seeing clearly..)
So arm you son with the skills to be a balanced adult, who can deal with real life, and hopefully next time that door opens ( lost my thread, not sure what to put now!!) hmm..
A) a friendly face could be there and you could all walk out together.
he could already have ninja skills,and kick that physcos butt!
C)don't wait for the psycho, it's a dream! sneak off through a different wall and fly off on a dragon!!
D) have a new dream!
I would also recommend you try meditation, so you have the skill to control your anxieties.

sashadesade

The mind is a funny thing, particularly the subconscious mind.

Dream interpretation is rarely as straightforward as just saying what you see. My guess would be that the dream isn't actually about your children at all, they're just being used to illustrate something.
Basically, it's a metaphor that your mind's helpfully conjured for you.

The dream implies helplessness and anxiety about not being in control of something (or things). This manifests itself in your dream as something terrible happening to one of the most important people in your life while you're helpless to do anything about it. You have to figure out what's causing you to feel this way and do something about it if you want to stop the dreams.