PMT & Relationship Advice

delain

anguk wrote: »

In my experience I've found that male doctors can often be more understanding than female ones when it comes to women's issues.

Same here, although my current (lady) doctor is very very good with everything. I think I'd cry if she moved away

blondy24

Morning,

I feel better today apart from a splitting headache. I am feeling positive about getting my issues addressed with the doctor's next week. Spoke to OH last night and he is 100% supportive and I am so glad he is understanding.

Thanks to all who posted, I will keep you updated on how I get on, I will ask about that cream that's been mentioned.

x

blondy24

Have just managed to book an app't for Thursday this week, by then I will be on so might be able to talk without crying. Will keep you posted on any developments. Thanks for all the support.

sibles

I'm with you on the bad PMT front (I think) I've been on anti depressants for the last 4-5 years and recently have been able to come off them completely. However, the downside of this is that I'm now rediscovering hormonal ups and downs, each month I feel like my depression is back and I want to hide from the world. I can't stop crying and I'm so angry.

I don't have much advice, but a lot of empathy.

kazwookie

blondy24 wrote: »

Have just managed to book an app't for Thursday this week, by then I will be on so might be able to talk without crying. Will keep you posted on any developments. Thanks for all the support.

Write down today in bullet points, what you do want to talk about, so if you should start to cry, (but you won't will you) at least you have list to refer to so you don't miss anything out.

I did this with my dr, over another matter, at the end he said he wished all his patients did and it would mean less waffle :rotfl:from them, and for him a better chance to find out want was actually wrong.

Good luck

blondy24

Thanks kazwookie I will write down the things I want to mention later, I am going to see the same lady doc I saw a couple of months ago with a different issue and she seemed nice. It was the earliest app't I could get this week. I am not going to give up trying this time and if things don't get sorted out with one doc I willl see another etc. I need to get it sorted, I know there is no cure but to make the symptoms a bit easier to deal with would be a plus point. My OH is 100% supportive of me and will go with me to the doc's. I am very very lucky to have such a nice guy, he is definitely my soul mate.

Sibles - Perhaps you need to go to the doc's if you feel like that. I can understand how you feel and it isn't nice to go through. Some people say things are all in your head as no physical symptoms but a load of rubbish. Take care and we are here to talk if you need us.

blondy24

Hello, just a quick update on how I got on at the doc's yesterday. The answer was to give me anti-depressants which I wasn't 100% sure of as even though they will help in the short term it won't be long term. I will give them a go, I have to go back in 3/4 weeks for another chat. I just wish the pharmaceuticals would do research into this but they won't as not big bucks. I think there are far more people suffering than the doc's etc realise.

fannyanna

Hi OP,

Gosh I can really empathise with your post.

I haven't read all the posts but saw your last post that you have now been prescribed anti-depressants. I understand your hesitation and in my opinion this will just mask the symptoms and not deal with the cause of your emotions.

Don't get me wrong in the short term I think these will probably be good for you although agree that you need to deal with the source of the problems. This is likely to be a mixture of phsyiological problems (either PMT or as someone else suggested PCOS - I have this and can completely understand how messed up hormones can play havoc with your mood) and the psychological issues which perhaps a counsellor or cognitive behavioural therapist would be able to help with.

So my suggestion is that you really push this with your GP when you see them next and ask them to test you for PCOS or PMT.

With regards to your feelings about your partner and his previous life once again I can totally sympathise and I for one would not critiscise you (although as I'm sure you already know a lot of other people will be quick to judge you).

I've married a man who has two children from two previous relationships and like you I find it a complete struggle. In all honesty I really, really wish that I'd never got involved with him because sometimes I find his past really difficult to deal with and I get sooo upset. However I did get involved with him and unfortunately the reality of him having children did not set in until I was absoltely head over heels in love with him and there was no way that I could walk away at that point.

We're currently trying for a baby and because of my PCOS we're struggling and this has made things even more difficult. The fact that he's got two children already when both were accidents and not planned. The fact that we're married (I'm his first wife) and actually PLANNING to have a child and it's not working just makes me feel awful.

I'm waffling now but I was just trying to say I know what you mean. I know that when we do evenutally get pregnant (I can't even contemplate that it wont happen as I don't know how I'll cope with that) I too will have great issue with the fact that he's been through it all and for him it will be the third time and I'll feel like those special firsts will have already been taken by someone else. Waffling again lol.

Ultimately you and I both know that the main problem is our thought processes (with a good old dose of messed up hormones) and not the actual situation. There are plenty of other people going through the exact same situations who don't have any issues. But it's one thing appreciating that you can control your own happiness to actually being able to do something about it. That's where professional help comes in and that's why I suggest trying to see a counsellor or someone to help you resolve these issues.

Once again I'm sorry if that didn't make sense in most places. My mind went into overdrive and I've probably come across as a completely mental woman

blondy24

Hello All,

Just a quick update, since watching the food hospital about 4 months ago I have been drinking a lot of milk each day as calcium is supposed to help with PMT. I can say that atm I have not had another episode since late last year (touch wood!!) so hoping this is working. Not on the anti-depressants didn't feel this was the right route to go down for me.

Thanks for all your help x