My friend is life weary

Lotus-eater

esuhl wrote: »

Ah well, at least if she "can't find the time" to resolve her weariness it obviously can't be that much of a problem. If she was really depressed she'd be eager to fix things by any means possible.

That's not true. When you are depressed you hardly realise it, you don't think there is anything to fix, it's just the way it is.

This is why I advise people to see the doctor. They can see it more clearly than the person themselves. You just have to be honest with them.
I wasn't sure, I wasn't sure even though I was told by all the health professionals that I was depressed, I wasn't sure right up to when the tablets started to work. And then by god I noticed the difference, realised what I had been before.

It is nothing to be embarrassed about, I was and now I'm not, I wished I hadn't been for so long.

beachbeth

She needs to see the doctor. It could be something that can be sorted out. How old is she? If she is approaching menopause then a decline in oestrogen can cause these type of symptoms. Its amazing what a rise or fall in hormones can do to you mood and feeling of wellbeing. A doctor could do the appropriate tests. Its a shame to feel so low if theres something that could be done about it.

victory

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brummiebabe

Agree about the hormone thing...my Mum has had anti-depressants for the first time ever, after hitting the menopause...it's worth her getting this checked out. Would agree with all the other advice...try to get her to make some small, different changes..to break the monotony.

I do think it's something we all go through at some point & I can certainly understand what she's feeling:o

victory

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hi victory
i have a friend like yours, she does not moan abut her life it just gets on top of her
she works comes home works in the house, looks after her children & back to work.
every few months she has a bit of a break down says shes going to change her ways start looking after herself more by going out, shopping, half hr in the bath, making her children do things around the house (they are teenagers) ect
yet she doesnt when she feels better & the cycle to burn out is back

im her friend & i will always be there for her i just think some people dont know how to help themselves & how to have a bit of me time !
i always offer her out with me, not just drinking lol, go see a show, go shopping with no children,spa day ! but she normally declines yet i think it would do her the world of good because shes just mammy & just **** who works her backside off
a case of all work & no play !
sorry victory not much help there, i suppose i just want to say its not always easy to help like you want to just be there when she needs you x

victory

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victory wrote: »

Coming up to 50

Sorry but that made me LOL (in appreciation of the context )

I'm certainly not qualified to say if she is depressed or not (although, I can understand why people believe that may be the case) only her GP would be able to guess.

50 - weary of confrontations (OH, kids, work); no money, working long hours, shopping demands, house demands, family demands, "thinks life should be easier", Christmas (g)looming, worried about children's future/how they'll turn out. Wow!!! While she may have much to be grateful for, I can't help but think: yeah, that's no barrel of laughs!:o

I think, you are being a good friend: you are listening, you are pro-active in trying to help her pull herself up. Keep suggesting ideas - there will be one that clicks with her. Keep being a listening ear (its priceless - especially when someone is world weary).

choille

Definately peri-meno knocks the joy out of life really rapidly for many. It can be the hormone upheaval - up & down can really exhaust you without you really 'noticing it creeping up on you'.
Sometimes it can be the perpetual pull on your time from others that ends up leaving you exhausted. Plus there's all sorts of changes happening that tire you out - like puberty to the power of 100! Tablets are a way, but often it needs a change in circumstances that are more worthwhile & lasting & that can be everyone under the same roof pulling together & not taking each other for granted.
Natural remedies help some as does a new interest - hobby. Could be a time of change for the better just very difficult to see the wood for the trees some times.

victory

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