My friend is life weary

gratefulforhelp_2

I really recognise where she is coming from.

I often feel this way, like I am all out of resources.

Exercise and music, preferably both together, really help.

Lotus-eater

I had this and thought it was a midlife crisis. I was diagnosed with depression and didn't think that it would make that much difference to me. But it did, a massive difference.
I would suggest her going to the doctors. All the symptoms, I think are depression, it doesn't have to automatically be tablets, there are other options, but the tablets can do amazing things.

Sometimes you can work it out for yourself, I think I've had depression since I was a kid and was able to pull myself out of it sometimes, doesn't matter how I did it, through love, or holiday, or other new things, but sometimes you need some help.

kelloggs36

I thought that actually it sounded like she IS depressed - can't be bothered, tired, lethargic, etc are classic signs of depression. I would advise her to go to the Dr and see what they say.

mountainofdebt

tbh I often feel that life is unfair and wonder what I did in a former existance!

I think the way that I get over it is to accept when life throws you a curve ball, its ok to wallow in some self pity but only you can pull yourself up out it - abit of a put up or shut up menality. Sometimes I get pulled up of it by events that happen to other people which makes me realise that I haven't got it so bad after all.

If she hates exercise (and I do ) then there's no way would that cheer me up. perhaps she needs to do soemthing which she would never normally consider doing - perhaps an evening class in a really weird subject - or go somewhere different (perhaps somewhere like bingo if she's never been !) just to open up her horizons.

3v3

I think we have all experienced that life weary feeling at some point or another (and a recession, the prices going up, same old-same old really can make you feel defeated if there is nothing new/different/inspiring to alter perspectives). Money issues will also add to her feelings of being thwarted by life because, generally, to do something different or fun tends to cost money and if she is fed up of the same faces/four walls/workplace, it does sound like she needs a change of scene.

Getting a dog may be a good idea, if the costs of purchasing/feeding/insurance isn't prohibitive for her (and, she would need to *like* dogs )

When I was last like that (life ground!) a number of years back, a friend offered me one of her ex-bat hens ... that way I did get a little "return" for the feed investment Learning about an animal I had never had any real encounters with before was both fascinating and very entertaining! I wasn't sure I'd like keeping chickens but fast forward to now and I still keep chickens (I currently have 10) They all have their own personalities and if I have had a particularly stressful day, I sit in the garden with them while they free range and they can soon pull me out of my doldrums with their antics. One of my better investments in time and money over the years I think

esuhl

victory wrote: »

did say about exercise, she just laughed and said she has not got the time:D

Ah well, at least if she "can't find the time" to resolve her weariness it obviously can't be that much of a problem. If she was really depressed she'd be eager to fix things by any means possible. And at least you got her to laugh!

victory wrote: »

I go swimming so will ask her to come with me.

That counts as excercise! Perfect!

Keeping_Positive

esuhl wrote: »

Ah well, at least if she "can't find the time" to resolve her weariness it obviously can't be that much of a problem. If she was really depressed she'd be eager to fix things by any means possible. And at least you got her to laugh!



That counts as excercise! Perfect!

If she were depressed then there would be no eagerness at all. I do think she could have a mild case of depression that could probably be self treated but watch out for any deteroration.

I have suffered on and off for years and thought I knew all the signs but even I didnt spot the onset this time. Thought I was just having a tough time and i was handling it ok but others including Councellor advised it was depression.

She has a good friend in you OP

victory

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Mr_Falling_Star

Why not suggest she looks after the spiritual side of life and spend some time looking at that? If that is her bag of course

victory

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