church or civil service?

nikinooo

What is the better option with more meaning church or civil service ? I have to say im not overly religious but im torn between the two help!!!

sammy_wheeler

for me it was always a civil for our wedding- neither of us are very religious and i am completly against ppl getting married in church if they just want the 'pretty pictures'- or because its 'what the family want' etc etc (my pictures were amazing and its hotel/gardens)

both weddings (civil and church) obviously have meaning though!- it just depends on the couples belevies (sp)


do pro and cons of each venue and u will work out what you want (although for me- when you say u not religious- then u shud have a civil---- but thats my opinion!)

MrsDrink

'Meaning'... what counts as 'meaning'?
For some it will be making a commitment to each other in the eyes of god - in which case it's obvious - the church ceremony would be more meaningful.
For some it will be making a commitment to each other in front of loved ones (I fall in this camp) - in which case either ceremony can be just as meaningful.

sammy_wheeler

agreed with mrsdrink

ellay864

Agree with sammy...I think it's sad many people want a church just for the pretty pictures. The meaning will depent on the couple and the ceremony itself. I've been to church weddings where it felt a bit conveyor-belt IYKWIM...the declarations were done, the vows were said, they were pronounced man and wife...all very 'cold'. I've been to civil ceremonies where there's been readings given by people close to the couple, where the bride and groom have written their own vows, their music has reflected them as people...that to me is much more meaningful than a church one for the sake of it

Hollie84

Agreed with Mrsdrink

PolishBigSpender

If you're not religious, than why do you even consider church wedding?

sammy_wheeler

PolishBigSpender wrote: »

If you're not religious, than why do you even consider church wedding?

agreed- this is what really annoys me- if you have to question whether you should get married in a church coz u dont really believe- then you shouldnt get married in a church!

my wedding pics were much nicer than a church haha

Torry_Quine

If you aren't Christians then it really shouldn't even be an issue. I agree with others that a civil ceremony is appropriate in this case.

74jax

I 100% agree with mrsdrink (although as the weeks go on, I feel I'm morphing into mrsdrink - honest we are two different people)

If you are religious and want to make that commitment in front of God in a church, then opt for the church.
If you are religious and want to make that commitment in front of God but would like a civil ceremony, then I'm sure God won't not 'watch' just because you're not in a church (if this is a concern of yours?)
If you're not bothered about the religious side of things and just can't wait to marry the bloke with a huge grin on your face then opt for the civil ceremony.

I think you need to express your idea of 'meaning' a little bit more. 'Meaning' to you or to others?

MrsDrink

74jax wrote: »

I 100% agree with mrsdrink (although as the weeks go on, I feel I'm morphing into mrsdrink - honest we are two different people)

ha!! :rotfl:
There are a few MSErs that I seem to agree with on nearly everything - it's a scary feeling!