University ups and downs

studentphil

pinkfluffybabe wrote:

If you need support, ask for it, and then when it is made available, utilise it.

I have asked for help many times and I am just told to read it again- which does not work- or I am passed onto someone else who then passes me back the first person. So I think I am rightfully a bit put out that I can not get anywhere.

studentphil

I am not sure how to explain but three years of continous failure and having everything you do ripped to pieces has a very negative effect on you. It knocks out of you all motivation and self worth you have and you just know that what ever you do will be picked to pieces. To get no reward from your work and to find find your whole life rewardless does take it out of you a bit.

pboae

Stopping being so melodramatic, if you are truly finding the work that unfathomable perhaps you are on the wrong course. Lecturers, tutors, whoever they are, are only there to facilitate your own work, they cannot understand it on your behalf.

studentphil

pboae wrote:

Stopping being so melodramatic, if you are truly finding the work that unfathomable perhaps you are on the wrong course. Lecturers, tutors, whoever they are, are only there to facilitate your own work, they cannot understand it on your behalf.

They are the ones that rip your work to bits though and never hardly say a positive word and they are there to teach you which is a little bit more than facilitating in my book. They are the ones that when I said I want to leave they said dont as things would improve.

pboae

studentphil wrote:

They are the ones that rip your work to bits though and never hardly say a positive word...

Get over it, you've made mistakes they've told you what they are. That's the purpose of marking. Praise is nice, but you should be self sufficient enough to survive without it. If you still need gold stars and red ticks on your work, you should've stopped studying after primary school.

studentphil wrote:

...and they are there to teach you which is a little bit more than facilitating in my book.

Then you seem to have a fundamental misunderstanding about HE. Your 'teachers' in what ever form, are there to provide you with information, and help you to identify what you need to know, it's up to you to learn it. Perhaps you have noticed they are called lecturers and tutors not teachers. If you are incapable of understanding the topic, there is only so much anyone can do to help you with that.

studentphil wrote:

They are the ones that when I said I want to leave they said dont as things would improve.

They gave you advice, their opinion, you chose to take it. That's how being an adult works. You can spend the rest of your life blaming other people for your unhappiness, or you can make the decision to do something about it. Once again that's no-one's responsibility but yours.

aurora_borealis_2

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Learn from that post. no 36.

That's how you show comprehension, critically analyse and extend an argument.

studentphil

Okay so everyone else is perfect and I am useless and not mature enough to cope with the world. Maybe I am completely at fault but I dont think I am because I have tried to make things better but with little success.

aurora_borealis_2

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That is a circular argument

melancholly

studentphil wrote:

Okay so everyone else is perfect and I am useless and not mature enough to cope with the world. Maybe I am completely at fault but I dont think I am because I have tried to make things better but with little success.

phil, it's not that anyone's saying you're useless, you just seem to be very adept at picking faults in other people without any self-awareness or introspection on how YOU can address the problem! everyone's trying to help you - i don't know how to give you a big slap of a reality check because having such a negative attitude can only impact badly on your work. it will also come across in your dealings with staff which will make them less likely to help you. please please please listen to the advice!!

pboae

Both a circular argument and a childish temper tantrum. Once again it is everyone else's fault (this time by being perfect :rolleyes: ).

Yes you are being immature, but being unable to cope with a particular subject doesn't mean you are useless. Instead of waiting for someone else to fix that for you, learn from it and move on.

If you have genuinely tried to fix things, and have been unable to do so, then you either need to try harder, try something different, or stop trying and do something else instead.

There are some things that I can do exceptionally well, other things that I am terrible at, and lots of stuff in the middle. Finding which is which is often trial and error, but that's the thrill of life. There's no shame in saying something's not for you, as long as you use it as a positive learning experience and move onto to bigger and better things.

If you just use it as an excuse to wallow in self pity, that's where you'll stay. No-one can fix your life for you.