Where there's muck there's brass

RubySewSew

Just got off phone. Haven't been able to talk to my dad for 4 months so a massive catch up. Exhausted now so gonna have to carry over until tomorrow.

RubySewSew

Home alone with nothing but endless form filling to keep me company. I relish the day when I no longer have forms stacked up waiting to be filled.

This week has been really, really stressful. I'm alright. I've let off steam but heck. It's been hard. It is hard. But I have been working through the divorce papers. And the closer they get to being finished the closer it is to being over. And that day can't come soon enough. I can't wait. I'm so exhausted.

And if you don't mind until that day comes I am going to console myself with wine. Which I did not buy because I can't afford it but I do have some leftover because the ex-bf came over last night to cook, ply me with wine and offer moral and practical support. Thank goodness for fantastic friends.

Eager_Elephant

Well done on making a start with your forms and an even bigger yah to the divorce forms - I think they have to be the most important :j:j:j:j

And have as much wine as you like :rotfl:

RubySewSew

Mixed bag of a weekend. Stressful drive up to Essex on Friday - me being disorganised! Had a fab spa day with my Mum and sister (Mum paid as treat for her birthday). Really enjoyed it - felt myself unwinding and relaxing and took absolute pleasure in doing absolutely nothing. One of the best bits was snuggling up in the zen garden under big chenille blankets on enormous bean bags, ooh and falling asleep on a water bed! It really inspired me because it could so easily be achieved at home. It was completely blissful and totally needed. Unfortunately, day ended with my sister in hospital. She was covered in hives when we arrived but she just got more and more swollen and sicker and sicker infront of our very eyes. Called emergency doctor and she had to go to community hospital and then to next big town to 24 hour pharmacy. She's really poorly - she will have to go to Addenbrookes for tests. Poor thing. She has been having such a hard time recently.

Ok, I'm going to review all of my statements and papers etc for divorce and then fire them off to solicitor. Would like to start seeing some resolution soon.

RubySewSew

Sat down trying to complete divorce Form E which is a financial disclosure. It is the biggest, thickest, scariest, most grown up document I have ever had to complete. Am going to have a quick break and make some flapjack before tackling self employed income for last financial year (2 birds with one stone!). Am hoping to get it completed and submitted today.

Car in garage - £534 to get it through MOT - not really much I can do other than suck it up. Will phone mortgage company to discuss options re payment this month.

RubySewSew

Right. STRESSFUL but productive day. If I just find my tax credits form then I have completed the financial disclosure - at least to a stage where I can submit it to the solicitor. I have submitted my self assessment for 2010/2011 and calculations show I have overpaid tax. I think I may have already had the rebate so am not going to get excited but am going to set aside half an hour to go through all self assessment and pay slips and see if I can work it out. I feel like my tax contributions have been pretty high in relation to what I earn. It would be really nice to have some kind of rebate because if I don't get some kind of windfall I have no idea how I am going to pay for Christmas for the kids.

Car is back home and paid for.

Dinner was lovely and have got ahead of myself by making tomato sauce for tomorrow's spag bol. Boys have got jobs done in kitchen so I just need to go in and clean up an wipe down. If I'm feeling energetic I might even make tomorrow's lunches. Washing is hung up to dry but house is freezing so might need to put on heating for an hour which I know is not very economical but not sure what choice I have.

I've made the decision not to give myself a hard time about the state of the house etc. So much energy goes into keeping it clean and tidy but 1 adult to 3 children = fighting a losing battle unless I can really give it a significant amount of time and attention. So, I am resigning myself to a mess whilst I concentrate on prioritising the paperwork. Divorce first. Benefits and grants review next. Then a clear up, declutter and sell off of anything that might make me a few quid for Christmas. Then, then I can have a think about spivving and sparkling the house.

Seeing my sister so poorly (back to hospital last night for IV) is a timely reminder that none of us can do everything all the time and sometimes you should concentrate on juggling just 1 or 2 balls. That and I have been so grumpy with the kids. Really not fair, especially as I am doing all of this for them.

Right. Cup of tea, sit down and story time with my babies and then kitchen and collapse. In the nicest possible way

RubySewSew

Um, a tiny little kitten has just walked into my house, curled up and gone to sleep...

Eager_Elephant

RubySewSew wrote: »

Um, a tiny little kitten has just walked into my house, curled up and gone to sleep...

Of course I think it is a sign from the Universe, I think you should keep it :rotfl:

RubySewSew

I finished my financial disclosure and a kitten arrived on my doorstep! It must be a sign from the universe! I have put her back out and tried to ignore her pitiful mewling. If she is still mooching around tomorrow will try vets. She doesn't have a collar and doesn't seem to be chipped but she did seem well fed and well looked after. She just came in and curled up with one of my cats. Too cute! Perhaps I should call her Martin?

Am feeling proud, elated and relieved to have forms in the post! Yay me!! I'm absolutely knackered now though!

Lemon_Tree

RubySewSew wrote: »

Um, a tiny little kitten has just walked into my house, curled up and gone to sleep...

sounds like you need to give it a name and fall in love with it....