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Horns of a Dilemma
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Let your daughter learn how to cook, tell her if she's not happy in halls to look for a flat share. Use the money to secure all your futures not just her's. I know she's your daughter, you'd do anything to make her life easier and there is nothing wrong with helping her out but she won't learn at all if you hand everything to her on a plate, you will only make her life harder in the long term.[FONT="]“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ~ Maya Angelou[/FONT][FONT="][/FONT]0
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Let your daughter learn how to cook, tell her if she's not happy in halls to look for a flat share. Use the money to secure all your futures not just her's. I know she's your daughter, you'd do anything to make her life easier and there is nothing wrong with helping her out but she won't learn at all if you hand everything to her on a plate, you will only make her life harder in the long term.
I don't think you are correct there. If you could easily afford to give your children a lift on to the property market then I would find it hard to envisage their life being harder in the long term. Fact is that the OP can' really otherwise I would be saying she should give her this start in life.
As a matter of interest, no offence intended, do you have a daughter?0 -
I don't think you are correct there. If you could easily afford to give your children a lift on to the property market then I would find it hard to envisage their life being harder in the long term.
Unless said daughter buys a flat with mum's deposit then house prices fall and she goes into negative equity. Then she WOULD be worse off.0 -
Oh and my kitchen is falling to pieces:o
Is there anyone in the family that can fix it for you? save that expense?
Wageslave, I think that your attitude is perfect. BUT I also agree that this is your very loved girl's time to ''learn''. If the money is earmarked for invest it someway for her now, but perhaps don't let her know just yet.....she'll be better off than most of her peers at the moment by virtue of not having a loan and presumably not having to work. At 18/20 £40k can seem like a life changing amount that risks nipping endeavour and independance in the bud, leading to trouble later....in her mid twenties it really could be a real boost to the lifs she's making herself. Invest it for a longer term but for her.0 -
IMO, it's your job to parent her, which may or may not mean paying for things. She'll have to learn to cook eventually, won't she?
I am going to buy her a cook book and a slow cooker.
She sounds spoiled doesnt she.
Trust me she isn't. Her life has been anything but easy.
I worked hard, she spent her formative years clutching a latchkey and things got better.
She is the best of girls. Really. She never complained, until she could.
I want to secure her short term future. Give her a decent start.
I just dont know what to do for the bestRetail is the only therapy that works0 -
The brat at uni spent the first year in halls (food included, I didn't trust her to cook). It cost a kings ransom and she hated it. Room too small, en suite shower/bathroom ditto. Food disgusting. Internet access too slow. Ad bliddy nauseum.
What I would really like to do is buy a flat in Edinburgh for the brat, sell it when she graduates, and hand her the dosh to start her off in life.
That's only another 3 years - less by the time you actually buy somewhere. A very short-term investment for property, surely?
Why not just give her a bit extra, rather than hand it all over? After all, one day you won't be a dynamic young man, but an old codger who needs his comforts.
And complaining about an en suite - I didn't know halls had them!...much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0 -
Unless said daughter buys a flat with mum's deposit then house prices fall and she goes into negative equity. Then she WOULD be worse off.
Not in the long term she won't be. If she buys a house AND it goes into negative equity AND she can't afford to pay the mortgage she will be worse off - you need to ask yourself how likely that is (especially if it is two bed flat and she could rent one out to pay the mortgage).0 -
neverdespairgirl wrote: »That's only another 3 years - less by the time you actually buy somewhere. A very short-term investment for property, surely?
Why not just give her a bit extra, rather than hand it all over? After all, one day you won't be a dynamic young man, but an old codger who needs his comforts.
And complaining about an en suite - I didn't know halls had them!
Ha ha. I don't think Wageslave is any kind of man!0 -
neverdespairgirl wrote: »After all, one day you won't be a dynamic young man, but an old codger who needs his comforts.
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Or even a woman!;)0
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