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Sympathy Flowers - Help Needed
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I think at this point a card with a few words about what a great lad he was and asking if there is anything you can do for your friend to help with anything would be appropriate.
Wreaths are usually the remit of close family members, with others sendng sprays, unless it's the done thing in your community and/or culture for everyone not related to send wreaths.
It wasn't a wreath, it was flowers for the family. My husband came home and chose an Interflora bouquet which we have now ordered. He was close to the lad because he trained him up to be a plumber and knew him really well. We lived next door but one for 20 years, in and out of each others houses every day. We wanted to send them something special cos we love them.The forest would be very silent if no birds sang except for the birds that sang the best0 -
I just spoke to her on the phone and told her I would visit her after the funeral. I said I would go before that but she seemed overwhelmed by everything so we agreed on this. I am also sure I am saying all the wrong things. I seem to put my foot in it when I am trying to say words of comfort.I'm a widow. Just go and give your friend a big hug. You don't have to stay.The forest would be very silent if no birds sang except for the birds that sang the best0 -
NuttyFaggot wrote: »I understand what you are saying poppy_f1 but sometimes it is not about what the recipients like/dislike it is about the giver being able to express their feelings. Not everyone can write "a few nice words" but feel they can "say it with flowers". Hope that makes sense, probably not though
She does love flowers. I already sent a card with some nice words but I find it terribly difficult to say the right thing and it didn't seem adequate. What i want is to go round and talk to her and give her a hug. I might go tomorrow but I keep thinking its too soon.The forest would be very silent if no birds sang except for the birds that sang the best0 -
When a dear friend died recently, I ordered a lovely rose bush with a significant name to be delivered to her husband and family to plant in their garden. It was less expensive than a bouquet and I hope it will bloom for many years.. I'll bet your local garden centre would deliver locally for not much money and a rose bush would cost between £10-15 (David Austin's a bit dearer).0
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I know you've ordered flowers now but what about cooking a casserole or something similar ?2014 Target;
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mountainofdebt wrote: »I know you've ordered flowers now but what about cooking a casserole or something similar ?
She told me that they had cooked dinner and had sat down as a family talking about him. I had previously wondered if I should do that but they seem to have it all under control.
Right or wrong, we've gone and been and done it now.The forest would be very silent if no birds sang except for the birds that sang the best0 -
Mayflower10cat wrote: »When a dear friend died recently, I ordered a lovely rose bush with a significant name to be delivered to her husband and family to plant in their garden. It was less expensive than a bouquet and I hope it will bloom for many years.. I'll bet your local garden centre would deliver locally for not much money and a rose bush would cost between £10-15 (David Austin's a bit dearer).
Thats a lovely idea. Wish I'd thought of that.The forest would be very silent if no birds sang except for the birds that sang the best0 -
Do you think I'm being a bit cold not going round. She said neighbours had been visiting her all day and talking about him and she would like to see me. I wasn't sure if she meant right now. I'm beginning to wonder what sort of a friend I am.The forest would be very silent if no birds sang except for the birds that sang the best0
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She does love flowers. I already sent a card with some nice words but I find it terribly difficult to say the right thing and it didn't seem adequate. What i want is to go round and talk to her and give her a hug. I might go tomorrow but I keep thinking its too soon.
There is no right thing to say. Nothing will change what has happened, so be assured that nothing you can say can make your friend feel worse than she already does.
Incidentally, the best friends are the ones that understand 6 or 12 or even 18 months down the line you still get upset and miss someone, and are still there for you.0 -
Thank you, I just rang her and she said that I had got it right about giving her space as everything is overwhelming right now. I am aware she's going to need comfort in the future.There is no right thing to say. Nothing will change what has happened, so be assured that nothing you can say can make your friend feel worse than she already does.
Incidentally, the best friends are the ones that understand 6 or 12 or even 18 months down the line you still get upset and miss someone, and are still there for you.The forest would be very silent if no birds sang except for the birds that sang the best0
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