Teenagers - why do they not want to walk or go anywhere?

17lbp

Been a relief to read this thread. I too have a 14 yr old daughter - love her to bits and she is my world but this last 6 months or so I swear someone has come in and stamped 666 on her head. We used to get on so well but nowadays we can barely look at each other without it turning into a screaming match - everything i say/do/wear is wrong and I think she just tries to push me to see how far she can get.
She is generally a good kid compred to others I've heard horror stories about but the mood swings and attitude that comes with her at times is awful - I often wonder where my "little" girl went.
Anyway no good advice I'm afraid but nice to know I'm not alone

crazyguy

Most teenagers are lazy gits and dont like do over excert to much, get used to it the majority of them are content to sit there glued to some form of an electronic device and even walking down stairs can be a bit traumatic for there little legs.

Annisele

Butterfliesarepretty wrote: »

And she suffers when she is on her period.

When you say she "suffers", do you just mean she generally feels a bit meh, or are you using the word literally? If she really is suffering, please send her to your GP - it's possible there's something the GP can do about it (for me there was, and it made a huge difference to my teenage years!).

donquine

As a general rule, teenagers have highly developed brains, a reasonably large physical size, good motor skills and a network of contacts. They are capable of doing many complicated things such as washing themselves, cleaning their native environment, harnessing the skills of other people to help collectively solve a problem, etc.

Teenagers are capable of so much on the face of it that I think it's all the more disappointing when you realise that all of their natural skills are trumped by copious amounts of apathy and a loathing of the hand that feeds.

Being smelly, lazy and/or obnoxious is normal teenager behaviour. Acting like a normal human being comes much later down the line - do not expect too much of your teenage child and wait it out. I dare anyone here to say they were sweetness and light as a teenager - I was ruddy awful and I bet you all were too.:p

loracan1

Mine's just turned 15, the not-bathing-unless-threatened turned into daily showering about a year ago and he can iron (not my doing, he has to do his shirts for ATC). Nowadays I'm allowed to give a sort of hug round the shoulders, but I still never quite know what reaction a 'good morning' will get...one back/grunt/scowl. We've now got a situation where anything he is asked to do he 'forgets', not through any malice just plain bloomin' head full of other things I think.


ETA: I was a bit shocked to find that him and his mates walk into town (at least 2 miles) to save busfare, impressed but shocked.

System

13 is a bit young for it but at 14/15 i started noticing boys, and my hygiene and taking pride in my appearence improved overnight! She'll get better as she gets older, 13 is a weird age, you're growing up but still young too.

SingleSue

donquine wrote: »

As a general rule, teenagers have highly developed brains, a reasonably large physical size, good motor skills and a network of contacts. They are capable of doing many complicated things such as washing themselves, cleaning their native environment, harnessing the skills of other people to help collectively solve a problem, etc.

Teenagers are capable of so much on the face of it that I think it's all the more disappointing when you realise that all of their natural skills are trumped by copious amounts of apathy and a loathing of the hand that feeds.

Being smelly, lazy and/or obnoxious is normal teenager behaviour. Acting like a normal human being comes much later down the line - do not expect too much of your teenage child and wait it out. I dare anyone here to say they were sweetness and light as a teenager - I was ruddy awful and I bet you all were too.:p

I was a weird one, I walked for miles, worked 5 part time jobs and altered my own clothes (which I also purchased myself).

Mind you, my parents would tell you that my incredibly fiercely independent streak was an absolute nightmare....I would not allow them to do anything for me and would get very eekk when they tried! :rotfl:

My near 18 year old son also walks everywhere, more surprising because he has dislocating joints caused by his EDS, he also has a part time job which fits around his A level studies..and he, like I was at the age, is obsessed with earning as much money as he can, he likes the power having money buys you...and the treats.

My nigh on 15 year old has no personal care skills and it is a constant battle to get him to change his clothes, wash etc but he is helpful in other ways (think the personal care issues are more down to his Aspergers and memory problems, put plainly, he forgets). He has been great in my recent move into a wheelchair for longer walking journeys and will push me for miles. He also likes clean surroundings and will not touch anything dirty (even dirty washing of his own making)

My 13 year old is obsessed with being clean and would have a bath several times a day if he could, he will also push me in the wheelchair for ages.

However, on our holiday, trying to get them to go anywhere was a nightmare...they didn't want to go to the beach, didn't want to go out to any of the places I mentioned (of which there were lots and were designed for their age group), they just wanted to lounge around the caravan or go shopping....and I absolutely detest shopping.

We came to an agreement, I went out on a shopping trip with them and they came to the beach with me! Oh and they loved it........

mintymoneysaver

Took my two to Alton Towers yesterday. The 17 year old was a pleasure to be around ( well, almost!) The 14 year old, who until now, I would almost have guaranteed would be the more pleasant one on a day out, was a grumpy, stroppy couldn't be bothered doing anything type.:mad:

onetomany

ha ha this sounds like my soon to be 15 year old i have a trick i use i turn the elcetric of upstairs and say oh dear i thinkwe have problems with it within a hour hes so bored hes willing to go somewhere, i also do this when hes playing up as a punishment

shellsuit

My 2 teens (boy 15, girl 13) will only come somewhere with me if they are getting something out of it.

Mind you, saying that, the 2 little loves did come with us on a UK holiday last week when I know they didn't want to and they were really bored, so they're in my good books now

I have the opposite trouble though when it comes to washing, they are never out of the bloody shower/bathroom, and No, it's not because of a BF or GF, they've always been like that.

Their rooms are tips though and I do have to force them to tidy them!

Thinking back to when I was their age, I would have rather stuck pins in my eyes than be seen out with my parents.

It's normal, don't worry and don't take it to heart, she will grow out of it!