Trying for a Baby Part 7

mishkanorman

Tryingforathird wrote: »

I know I know!! Its naughty but true - they are really sore and feel massive!

I will hold off until the end of the week to test though - I read that some have had positive tests as earlier as 8 or 9 days dpo - is that actually true in the real world?!

Ive had faint positives from 10DPO, they got stronger each day quite obviously. I was testing from around 8 DPO as i was getting cramps and very sore boobs, no other symptoms though good luck !!

divorcingjack

Stupid stupid body

CD1. So gutted.

This will be our 9th cycle coming up and we did everything right this noe - loads of BD'ing, great CM, really consistent temps, sore bl***dy bo*bs etc etc etc.

I'm so scared that I'm going to be the same as my mum - what can I do to stay relaxed? I can't relax, I'm too worried! But I know that I won't get pregnant while I'm stressed, but that MAKES me stressed!! :mad:

we should have started she I was younger - my career hasn't even turned out to be worth the wait and the house is a disaster zone and we can't buy the land we need to build our own house.

I'm sorry ladies, but I'm so upset just now.

Tryingforathird

So sorry divorcingJack sometimes things just get on top of you and you feel like everything is a disaster -
xx

divorcingjack

Thanks tryingforathird - that's exactly how I feel right now. I need a hug.

Tryingforathird

divorcingjack wrote: »

Thanks tryingforathird - that's exactly how I feel right now. I need a hug.

Well look after yourself and get your OH to look after you too -
Once Ive got over that initial feeling of mega frustration and upset on days like that I try to break down things that are out of my control and rationalise by doing something about the things I can address like the tip in the loft (lol) or the washing but then this baby making stuff, for example, is out of our hands really - you do all you can to help it along but you can only go so far so stressing about it will only make it worse - I completely and totally know this is easier said than done - Im sat here thinking £100 quid for a blood test could possible be justified (when it cant - and if I hang on 5 days I can do a £4 superdrug test!) but thats just life I suppose -

Hugs!
xx

sexymouse

Hugs for divorcingjack - I sort of know how you feel - this is month 8 of us trying, and I was devastated when AF turned up last month as found out a friend was pregnant on the same day. I'm keeping my fingers tightly crossed that this month is your month and mine too, as I think we've been cycle buddies in the past too. I think the trouble I had was the feeling that I was putting my life on hold constantly as I didn't want to do things like apply for a new job etc in case I got pregnant. It has helped save me some money on clothes though, which is a bonus (not bought new ones for the same reason). Make sure you cry, scream, talk to OH and acknowledge your feelings rather than trying to supress them. It is ok to feel upset - it is almost like a monthly greiving process in a way, which is why TTC can be so stressful. Send me a PM if you like, and treat yourself kindly. Do something that's just for you - for me, it's taking myself to Starbucks and having a lovely coffee and chill-out with a magazine or just having a pyjama day (if possible).

Tryingforathird - that test sounds very expensive! I also don't understand how they'd be able to detect the levels of HCG that early if the egg hasn't implanted yet, cos doesn't HCG only get released after implantation? Correct me if I'm wrong here. I hope that it is a BFP for you. It sounds to me like you ovulated on CD17 as you had a smiley then and not on CD18.

threemuttleys

divorcingjack wrote: »

Stupid stupid body

CD1. So gutted.

This will be our 9th cycle coming up and we did everything right this noe - loads of BD'ing, great CM, really consistent temps, sore bl***dy bo*bs etc etc etc.

I'm so scared that I'm going to be the same as my mum - what can I do to stay relaxed? I can't relax, I'm too worried! But I know that I won't get pregnant while I'm stressed, but that MAKES me stressed!! :mad:

we should have started she I was younger - my career hasn't even turned out to be worth the wait and the house is a disaster zone and we can't buy the land we need to build our own house.

I'm sorry ladies, but I'm so upset just now.

((hugs))

I know its very easy for me to say this..but chill. Stress will not help you, your Oh nor any baby.

What a friend suggested to me, is that if you are struggling to (as she put it, up the duff) then stop thinking of it as trying for a baby. Put all your energies into something like painting the house, or landscaping the garden,,,and just have some "proper" sex...you know the sex you have for the fun and pleasure, the naughty kind...not just missionary "cos its the best way for sperm to meet egg" and not just with one aim in mind.

Or the other option (apparently) is to book a holiday!

Tryingforathird

sexymouse wrote: »

Hugs for divorcingjack - I sort of know how you feel - this is month 8 of us trying, and I was devastated when AF turned up last month as found out a friend was pregnant on the same day. I'm keeping my fingers tightly crossed that this month is your month and mine too, as I think we've been cycle buddies in the past too. I think the trouble I had was the feeling that I was putting my life on hold constantly as I didn't want to do things like apply for a new job etc in case I got pregnant. It has helped save me some money on clothes though, which is a bonus (not bought new ones for the same reason). Make sure you cry, scream, talk to OH and acknowledge your feelings rather than trying to supress them. It is ok to feel upset - it is almost like a monthly greiving process in a way, which is why TTC can be so stressful. Send me a PM if you like, and treat yourself kindly. Do something that's just for you - for me, it's taking myself to Starbucks and having a lovely coffee and chill-out with a magazine or just having a pyjama day (if possible).

Tryingforathird - that test sounds very expensive! I also don't understand how they'd be able to detect the levels of HCG that early if the egg hasn't implanted yet, cos doesn't HCG only get released after implantation? Correct me if I'm wrong here. I hope that it is a BFP for you. It sounds to me like you ovulated on CD17 as you had a smiley then and not on CD18.

Thanks - I am never sure if you ovulate on the day of the smiley or day after - I had two - one on day 16 and 17!!! I wont be getting that test but its all so tempting when you're waiting!

emsbet

((hugs)) Mishka and Divorcingjack

Thanks for all the messages. I'm just on my lunch. Eveything seems to be going ok so far, just quite busy which is probably a good thing

Still got spotting/light flow here :mad: Starting to bet a bit annoyed now. I just feel so helpless at the moment. I really want to start trying again but over three weeks later and my body has still not got the message. No chance of me being pg again by the end of the year at the rate I'm going Going to call doctors tomorrow if they haven't left a message on the answerphone when I get home.

xx

sexymouse

Hi emsbet - glad everything is going ok. Fingers crossed there is a message on your answerphone when you get home. What time do you finish work? Sending spotting go away vibes in your direction. ((Hugs))