Trying for a Baby Part 7

codemonkey

mrsj28 wrote: »

I suggested to DH that we could try going for every other day instead of me temping and using OPKs, his response: but I like it when you temp, it means we get to stop having sex once you've ovulated. :mad: I also said it would be good if we could try every day for three days in a row when I get a positive OPK. Response: 'we'll see how it goes'. Brilliant!

I know there's a lot of pressure on them to perform so we shouldn't be too mean, but really, all I'm asking for is regular sex - I am taking folic acid, on a high protein/low carb diet, drinking grapefruit juice every day, cutting down on caffeine and alcohol, weeing on sticks, shoving a thermometer in my mouth every morning, sticking my finger up my ***** to see what my cm is like.......... If all I had to do was have sex, I'd be quite happy!!!

Know exactly what you mean. I do everything possible to stop it being mechanical, I take vitamins and supplements until I rattle, I work out, weeing on the sticks (and trying to bin them without OH seeing in case it freaks him out), checking the cm, worrying about my cycle being crazy, apply hormone cream twice a day after ovulation and spoonfeed him his vitamin.

All he has to do is BD. Apparently that's difficult. So on top of everything above, I have to cope with feeling ugly and undesirable. :(

clearing_out_my_pockets

Sorry you got a BFN, QQ.

I'll read back later but could you update me to 4dpo please which means we have no chance this month - wasn't expecting it on cd9!

QQuaver

mrsj28 wrote: »

If all I had to do was have sex, I'd be quite happy!!!

DH moans about doing it into a pot for IVF too:mad:

I mean, would he like to change places with me re IVF? Meds 5 times a day, injections, getting stuffed down there to get the egg out and back inside? Reorganising work, side effects, cutting out alcohol, sugar, doing sit ups, regular blood tests etc etc

He does know our main issue is male infertility
Doctor said my eggs are good, tubes open, lining fine, uterus fine, had natural mc so we know implantation is possible.

tea_lover

mrsj28 wrote: »

I know there's a lot of pressure on them to perform so we shouldn't be too mean, but really, all I'm asking for is regular sex - I am taking folic acid, on a high protein/low carb diet, drinking grapefruit juice every day, cutting down on caffeine and alcohol, weeing on sticks, shoving a thermometer in my mouth every morning, sticking my finger up my ***** to see what my cm is like.......... If all I had to do was have sex, I'd be quite happy!!!

OMG exactly! As I pointed out (rather vehemently) to OH yesterday. I'm doing all of this and he can't even cut down the beer. :mad:

QQuaver

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

I'll read back later but could you update me to 4dpo please which means we have no chance this month - wasn't expecting it on cd9!

Are you sure?:shocked:

tea_lover

I really am so glad I found this thread. The last few posts have been exactly what I've been trying to get across to OH this weekend. He just will not accept that he needs to improve his diet, drink less, sleep more, take the flaming vitamins etc. I'm doing everything I can to improve our chances. I won't even have a cup of normal tea as I need to know I'm doing everything I can.

Then all I get from him in response is moaning about the SA (he wants to try a hycosy or yet another lap if he thinks his tests are hard work) and being made to feel like some sex-crazed maniac just for wanting us to stick to BDing every other day.

I swear sometimes I could quite happily just find a sperm donor on the internet and then he can b*gger off and have his midlife crisis somewhere else. I've got too much going on to worry about a 40yr old man behaving like a 17yr old with no responsibilities. At least with an actual 17yr old I'd stand some chance of getting a decent amount of sex.

:mad::mad::mad:

Ok... and breath. I feel a lot better for that!

TTC40

Hugs Q. Will read back fully later but just popped on to find out how you had got on.

Birdie85

Oh ladies, think we all need a hug (and/or a virile young man!) Maybe our OHs need to read this thread to realise how easy it is for them!

It doesn't really make me feel any chirpier when in the last few books I've read the women have gotten PG first time they tried/by accident! :eek:

I know what you mean about feeling undesirable too Code, I don't *think* that's how OH feels, but when I'm the one initiating it 90% of the time I can't help but feel like there's something wrong with me otherwise he'd be the one wanting to BD more often!

fannyanna

Hi Ladies,

Been a while since I last popped on and said hello.

Hope you’re all well.

Tattoo – many congratulations and what a fab fathers day gift for your OH :j

Tea lover – Hugs.

Vesper – Happy birthday _party_

Mrsj28 – Ahhh that’s lovely news.

Emsbet – How are you keeping? How far along are you now?

Birdie85 – The holiday sounds lovely. Here’s to tempting fate :beer:

QQ – Sorry about the BFN. Sending you hugs. The thing that I really like about you QQ is that you are always positive. I find that quite inspiring. Any chance of bottling some of it up and sharing it.

Codemonkey – I hate when people start fishing about when you’re going to have a baby. I’m working on it – leave me alone.

Nikolacarter – Wow :shocked:


I’ve just seen that I’m on CD70 :eek:. I need to get back into things and starting taking my Metformin regularly. I also need to lose weight as I've put on about 7lbs.

TTC kind of got side tracked for me. It was really, really stressful selling our property and now we're in the process of buying somewhere. The excitement of having a house and needing to do a fair bit of work to it has taken my mind of TTC a bit - which was well needed as I'd started to go a bit loopy loo

Still really want a baby though but the main thing I need to do is shift all this weight. Does anyone have a magic wand I could borrow

mrsj28

Can anybody advise me on using the clear blue digi ovulation tests? Mine just arrived! (I ordered some on eBay) :j

Can you use them with FMU? I am so bad at storing up my wee for three hours and not drinking water... but I will if I have to!

Thank you in advance