Trying for a Baby Part 7

tinkwings

fannyanna wrote: »

I know I haven't posted in a while but I feel like I've just been hit by a truck......

Just got a text from my best friend announcing her pregnancy. Whilst I am happy for her I just want to cry (but I can't because I'm at my desk at work).

Hugs Hugs Hugs xxx :A

fannyanna

I just called my Mum and told her. I know it's silly but I just wanted a bit of sympathy and to be told that it's all ok and that my time would eventually come.

Instead when I started crying she said in a really stand-offish way "well, you should be happy for her really".

So now I feel like a child who's just been told off too.

mrsj28

fannyanna wrote: »

I just called my Mum and told her. I know it's silly but I just wanted a bit of sympathy and to be told that it's all ok and that my time would eventually come.

Instead when I started crying she said in a really stand-offish way "well, you should be happy for her really".

So now I feel like a child who's just been told off too.

big big (((hugs))) xxx

I find it's completely possible to feel very happy for somebody and at the same time have the hit-by-a-truck feeling. Totally normal to feel the way you do. Sending lots of cyber sympathy to you... xxx

lilymay1

fannyanna wrote: »

I know I haven't posted in a while but I feel like I've just been hit by a truck......

Just got a text from my best friend announcing her pregnancy. Whilst I am happy for her I just want to cry (but I can't because I'm at my desk at work).

Massive massive hugs for you. :A:A:A:A

My best friend found out she was pregnant a few weeks before my newborn daughter died and in the end avoided telling me until she was nearly full term. At the time I wondered why she was ignoring me, not returning my calls, even missing the fitting for her bridesmaid dress for my wedding I remember she eventually sent me a text whilst I was in Tesco and I just sat down and burst into tears in the middle of the isle. I look back now and it must have been so hard for her to find the courage to send that message.

There isn't anything that can be said to make it better. I cried about it to my husband for ages and I went through all the emotions - jealously, resentment, anger....particularly when I found out she was having a girl too. But I also (eventually) felt happy for her and I now love my God-Daughter as much as I love my own son. She is named after me too

I got EXACTLY the same response from my mum but, with hindsight, she was right. I also got the "it must have been really hard for Jasmine to tell you... blah blah blah" Still, a bit of sympathy would have been nice eh?

Rant to us all you want. Sending big massive hugs your way xxxx

lilymay1

Though that deserved a post of it's own. Anyway...

Squirrel - That royally sucks. I have no experience of PCOS and know nothing about it, but it must be gutting to be messed about like that. I know it's easier to justify problems if you know the reason but then to be told the opposite is a real mess

Big hugs, and I hope you get some answers soon xx

TTC40

Q- Argh! Sorry it hasn't happened.

fannyanna - I would have hoped for more than a text from my BF with that kind of news. Does she know you're trying?

fannyanna

TTC40 wrote: »

Q- Argh! Sorry it hasn't happened.

fannyanna - I would have hoped for more than a text from my BF with that kind of news. Does she know you're trying?

Yes and she knows we've had problems.

I am happy for her - genuinely.

But there's then a part of me that is green with envy, another part that is angry it's happened so quick for her and then the remainder which is just heartbroken

Which then of course results in the part that feels guilty for feeling like this.

lilymay1

fannyanna wrote: »

But there's then a part of me that is green with envy, another part that is angry it's happened so quick for her and then the remainder which is just heartbroken

All totally normal. How did she 'announce' it to you? I suppose that makes a big difference.

I tried to remind myself that my friend shouldn't have to feel guilty for having a baby just because I did not. Although it did take a while for me to genuinely feel like that.

babymonster2

Sorry QQ am on cd7 today
Rubbish about your progesterone levels
Fannyanna, my best friend told me a couple of weeks after me having 2nd mc. At the time came on here and got huge amounts of sympathy for being the ultimate green eyed monster! Luckily was able to calm down before I saw her a month later but it was still hard. !Your mum obviously goes for the practial response !which is what my OH does when sometimes all tou want is the hugs, choc and sympathy!!Hugs, Choc and sympathy! X x
Sorry been rubbish at posting recently, was really hoping we'd have some luck last month but not to be :-(!

Metranil_Vavin

Sorry to hear about the pesky progesterone levels Q, but great to hear you are going for it next cycle

I'm CD1 today too.