Trying for a Baby Part 7

TeamLowe

It's funny, my big long rep,y was saying about how I realised that I had to accept the miscarriage as part of the story of me, I'd been trying to keep it as a separate book somewhere else but it's not, it happened to me and is now a part of me just like everything else that happens to me.

I realise that sounds mental, but it makes sense in my head x x

mishkanorman

couldnt agree more ladies, it wasnt until a recent check up that I realised when people asked if this was my first pregnancy I replied "no, my third" when in actual fact its more like my 6th !!

I have 2 children and was ignoring my early miscarriages and last years 2nd trimester termination probably as its easier to pretend they didnt happen rather than have to go through it all with someone again.

I found in my early days of grieving I was either talking about it too much or not enough, as with most things though it gets easier with time - but only once you've acknowledged what you've been through

Aida_2

TeamLowe wrote: »

It's funny, my big long rep,y was saying about how I realised that I had to accept the miscarriage as part of the story of me, I'd been trying to keep it as a separate book somewhere else but it's not, it happened to me and is now a part of me just like everything else that happens to me.

I realise that sounds mental, but it makes sense in my head x x

It makes sense to me too TeamLowe. Thank you for your posts!

Aida_2

mishkanorman wrote: »

I found in my early days of grieving I was either talking about it too much or not enough, as with most things though it gets easier with time - but only once you've acknowledged what you've been through

Thanks Mishkanorman.

lilymay1

mishkanorman wrote: »

I realised when people asked if this was my first pregnancy I replied "no, my third" when in actual fact its more like my 6th !!

I couldn't agree more. I always tell people I have 2 children (3 pregnancies - I don't count my m/c as a child but that's just a personal choice). I always get some funny looks and no doubt some people think I've had a child taken into care, but I always tell people I have a son and a daughter. I've just had to bury my little girl.

time2deal

Hi all,

I have been lurking for a while after the disappointment of last month, but thought I would quickly check in. I bought a digital ovulation kit today, and gave it a quick test today - and got a smiley face!

Does that mean ovulation tonight or tomorrow? I will test again over the next few days to make sure it goes away. Minimal other symptoms, but if I can convince the OH's we'll BD tonight, and start the 2ww again. I'm not actually sure if I can face the rollercoaster again... last month was tough. Short cycles are good in that we get to 'go' again quickly, but at the same time I am not really sure if I am ready for it. It's starting to feel like my whole life is revolving around ttc.

Congrats to the BFP's, and hugs to those who are struggling with memories of lost kids. We will all get there in the end!

vesper

Aida wrote: »

...or all three at the same time :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:.

Thanks I've got an image of the Jim'll Fix It rollercoaster one, but instead of scouts or whatever they are, it's all the TTC ladies eating cheese and pate and drinking champagne.


Think I've got some serious apologising to do to OH. I'm just finding it hard with this ttc-ing and the realisation that we probably will get refused for adoption as I have had a couple of bouts of depression in my younger years, but not young enough to be blaimed on teenage angst. Everything is just getting to me at the moment, and it ended up in a giant meltdown earlier. The thing is I can feel the depression looming again, and that will defintely put pay to any chance of adoption.

I also don't want to stop ttc, but they say if you are trying to adopt you have to stop trying and accept that you won't have a bio child for several years. I can't accept that, but in my mind I also have wanted to adopt for longer than I've wanted a natural child. How on earth can someone chose between two things they want equally?

lilymay1

Vesper - I don't know anything about the adoption process but from what you have just said it sounds like a total shambles.

A few bouts of depression mean you are deemed 'unsuitable' to adopt? How utterly !!!!!!! ridiculous. What are the figures these days; 1/4 people will suffer from mental illness in their life. Does that mean 25% of the population are 'unsuitable to have kids' for that reason?
And they want potential adoptees to stop trying for biological children? For what reason exactly?!

I find it so sad that such a flawed and broken system is stopping children and adults finding loving homes together.

Time2deal - My cycles used to be 25 days, without fail. Since the birth of my little boy they are 31 . I have really started to notice the extra 5 or 6 days every month! I almost wish I wasn't trying and could enjoy AF staying away for a little longer!

Aida_2

Morning,

FF thinks I OV 3 days ago and not yesterday.I'm 90% it happened yesterday. GRRR.

Hugs Vesper.

tinkwings

TeamLowe wrote: »

It's funny, my big long rep,y was saying about how I realised that I had to accept the miscarriage as part of the story of me, I'd been trying to keep it as a separate book somewhere else but it's not, it happened to me and is now a part of me just like everything else that happens to me.

I realise that sounds mental, but it makes sense in my head x x

Makes sense to me. :A