Trying for a Baby Part 7

twigglet35

morning,

Big congrats to the 2 BFP x wishing u both a H&H 9 months xx :j:j

CD3 for me today.

Off to have me first blood test after work.

Big hugs to all CD 1 xx

cleofish

I Think i figured out the multi quote thing that last cup of tea must have worked! :j

Birdie85 wrote: »

I'm feeling really blue today. My brother rang me yesterday afternoon to tell me that his wife is PG, which has left me feeling both and . They'd been trying for a whole 2 weeks, and despite my SIL knowing that we're TTC and have been for a few months now, she rambled on about how easy it was and how she just knew last week that she was PG and all of her symptoms and I just wanted to say, 'I'm happy for you but please go away so I can have a cry now!' OH was really clingy after that, claimed he was comforting me but I think he needed just as many cuddles as I did. What sucks is that I've got no-one to talk to about it, I can't tell my best friends as they're friendly with SIL and they don't want anyone to know until the 12 weeks has passed, I can't talk about it at work as they don't know I'm TTC, I'd normally talk to mum but she's going to be over the moon excited so I can't say anything and I know that I'm just being petty and jealous! I had a feeling that she'd get PG before me but the reality has hit me quite hard.

sorry to hear that birdie, i know what you mean, throughtout the last 3/4 years ive been pregnant twice, one molar and second one was a mc and while i was going through treatment with the first which took over a year it was hard to hear about people/relatives getting pregnant, you want to be happy for them and i was happy for them but it did also feel like you took a dagger to the heart at the same time. What feels weird and hurts is that people who got pregnant after me when i had found out i had a molar are already onto their second child and it sometimes feels like ive been left behind.

With the mc we only told close family in case the molar came back, but even after the d and c and how upset i become afterwards, for some reason my mum would tell me who in the neighbourhood, friends/relatives were pregnant and perhpas i should have said something to her at the time, but inside i would be thinking 'do you really think after everything ive been through i really care or want to know about this?' i think people dont think half the time and they also probably dont realise how long or how affected we get by going through things.
One thing that always sticks in my head that ive read on another website is ' a pregnancy doesnt always mean a baby' and i sometimes feel like that, getting pregnant for me isnt a sure thing that i will have a baby, whereas if i hear someone has got pregnant on the radio or someone i know it, it just seems to always seem to work out, but that could be my perspective on things. Sorry for hijacking and rambling on!

Secretdebts wrote: »

Congrats kittycat.

Cd1 for me please.

really sorry to hear that secretdebts, hugs for you.

emsbet

Secretdebts wrote: »

Congrats kittycat.

Cd1 for me please.

Big ((hugs))

xx

mrsj28

Morning all

Congratulations to Kittycat! :j Lots of BFPs at the moment, brilliant!

((hugs)) to all who need them - have just skim read posts, thinking of Kitten, Birdie, Secretdebts and all others who I haven't mentioned.

I have a quick question - are short periods anything to worry about? I only came off the pill at the end of October, but since then (not counting withdrawal bleed) I've had a 31 day cycle followed by a three day period, and now a 30 day cycle followed by a two day bleed (less than 48 hours).

Before I was on the pill I'm sure my period always lasted at least four days.

Thanks in advance for replies.

Nicki

mrsj28 wrote: »

I have a quick question - are short periods anything to worry about? I only came off the pill at the end of October, but since then (not counting withdrawal bleed) I've had a 31 day cycle followed by a three day period, and now a 30 day cycle followed by a two day bleed (less than 48 hours).

Before I was on the pill I'm sure my period always lasted at least four days.

Thanks in advance for replies.

I don't think so. Mine are really short now, about a day and a half of very light flow usually compared to 4/5 days of moderate to heavy. The first one I had which was like this was the one before I conceived my son, and they have stayed like that, even after his birth, and again after my recent miscarriage.

I googled at the time and everything I found said it wasn't a problem.

sexymouse

mrsj it may take a while for your periods to settle - my cycle length can vary by 2 or 3 days (normal), and I don't tend to measure the length of my AF, but I'm sure that varies too (I get spotting either end so that lengthens or shortens it). I'm sure it isn't anything to worry about. Was it a full flow bleed this time? If it was just spotting, it could be breakthrough bleeding. Have you tested?

mrsj28

Nicki wrote: »

I don't think so. Mine are really short now, about a day and a half of very light flow usually compared to 4/5 days of moderate to heavy. The first one I had which was like this was the one before I conceived my son, and they have stayed like that, even after his birth, and again after my recent miscarriage.

I googled at the time and everything I found said it wasn't a problem.

Hi Nicki - thanks so much, that's really helpful.

mrsj28

sexymouse wrote: »

mrsj it may take a while for your periods to settle - my cycle length can vary by 2 or 3 days (normal), and I don't tend to measure the length of my AF, but I'm sure that varies too (I get spotting either end so that lengthens or shortens it). I'm sure it isn't anything to worry about. Was it a full flow bleed this time? If it was just spotting, it could be breakthrough bleeding. Have you tested?

Thanks - yes, it was full flow so definitely AF, and I tested negative at 14DPO. As you say, things are probably just settling down after coming off the pill.

Thanks for reassurance ladies - I knew I'd find that here!

Birdie85

Thanks for the sympathy girls I know I'm being silly, I should be delighted that I'm about to be an auntie... but we all know that when it comes to TTC not everything is as clear cut as that! Last night OH said that he didn't want to go to a family gathering until we're PG as he doesn't want to have to enthuse about SIL's baby knowing that we don't have one on board yet, I have to say I feel the same which is awful.

Everyone I know who is/has been PG concieved fairly quickly and everything went well from start to finish; I can't help but worry that the odds are against me since the statistics have to come from somewhere and if I know a lot of people with textbook pregnancies and peerfect babies then I must be the exception... but I'm just having a bad day and over-thinking!

Focussing on the positive; I've just started my new diet today and so far have managed to avoid coffee, normally I'd have had at least 2 cups by now so feeling virtuous... and gagging for caffiene! Got a bet with OH that I can lose 12lbs in 6 weeks or I have to pay for a night in a hotel so the pressure is on! :eek:

emsbet

mrsj28 wrote: »

I have a quick question - are short periods anything to worry about? I only came off the pill at the end of October, but since then (not counting withdrawal bleed) I've had a 31 day cycle followed by a three day period, and now a 30 day cycle followed by a two day bleed (less than 48 hours).

Mine have only been one or two days of full flow (light to medium) since coming off the pill and it doesn't seem to have been a problem

xx