Depression

Sazbo

blinky wrote:

Morning all,

Hope everyone is well.

I'm okay. Overall my weekend was good but I did spend quite a lot of it with 'R'. :kisses2:

Thinking of you all, but in particularly Tiff, Ethel and her DD.

Big hugs to all

Hiya blinky :wave:

Glad you had a good weekend with R and that your tummy is on the mend. Get it checked if it doesn't clear up tho. Big hugs back to you Sazxxx

Sazbo

CarolnMalky wrote:

Morning everyone :wave:

Its a lovely sunny day here today, cold but that doesnt bother me to be honest. I am going to venture out today, I am soooo looking forward to it!!

Tiff...thanks for the kind words, you are an angel.

Badgie boy...hope you had a good day yesterday.

Ethel...Hope you are not too bad, sending caring thoughts to you and your daughter xx

Blinky...glad you had a good weekend

Singlehouseholder...take care, and keep talking about it..I found talking really helped.

Saz..hope you are ok today.

Feely...((((((hugs)))))))))

To anyone I have missed....(((((hugs))))

Lots of fairy dust to all
Carol

Thanks for the fairy dust Carol. Don't overdo it today hun! Take it easy, love Sazxxx

Sazbo

feelinggood wrote:

I don't work - but OH is very well paid so we'd likely have to stump up alot I'll look in to the sorts of costs, it depends. My mum offered to get me a few sessions last time I stayed with her, but I declined - I didn't want her to pay for something that didn't work. Waiting ain't a problem really, time passes anyways, I don't 'need' to do anything really, I'm doing more than enough by getting through each day sober. Thats enough for now.

Depending on where you go, you still shouldn't have to pay that much. But as you say, down to you. Sx

Sazbo

Morning lovely peeps. Sazzy needs a cuppa! Wishing you all a good Monday... or at least, a bearable one:)

Much love to you all,
Sazx

Alex_Galt

Hugs to everyone who needs them today

Tiff_2

feelinggood wrote:

I don't work - but OH is very well paid so we'd likely have to stump up alot I'll look in to the sorts of costs, it depends. My mum offered to get me a few sessions last time I stayed with her, but I declined - I didn't want her to pay for something that didn't work. Waiting ain't a problem really, time passes anyways, I don't 'need' to do anything really, I'm doing more than enough by getting through each day sober. Thats enough for now.

Hi feelie!:hello:
How are you hun? Just got time for a quickie (shut up!) - you have a couple of options here hun...

-You can wait until you've had your assessment to see what they recommend before you spend any [STRIKE]hat fund money[/STRIKE] errr, money on therapy. That way you'll have an idea of what you're looking for.

- You can return to gp and say you need to be brought forward if you need help and you're not coping.

- You may find that there are some charities listed in the fromt of your phone book, who give specialised counselling for free.

Also, a charity called Sycamore gives free counselling; from what I hear, they are church-connected but that doesn't play a part of your counselling. I've not tried them myself but have heard positives. Other places like MIND etc. have local drop in centres - coffee mornings etc and while this isn't counselling at the time, who knows what they offer plus they would have their pulse on all the possibilities in your area.
Hope this gives you some options angel.
Well done on the drinking too hun!
Back later guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

feelinggood_2

Tiff wrote:

Hi feelie!:hello:
How are you hun? Just got time for a quickie (shut up!) - you have a couple of options here hun...

-You can wait until you've had your assessment to see what they recommend before you spend any [STRIKE]hat fund money[/STRIKE] errr, money on therapy. That way you'll have an idea of what you're looking for.

- You can return to gp and say you need to be brought forward if you need help and you're not coping.

- You may find that there are some charities listed in the fromt of your phone book, who give specialised counselling for free.

Also, a charity called Sycamore gives free counselling; from what I hear, they are church-connected but that doesn't play a part of your counselling. I've not tried them myself but have heard positives. Other places like MIND etc. have local drop in centres - coffee mornings etc and while this isn't counselling at the time, who knows what they offer plus they would have their pulse on all the possibilities in your area.
Hope this gives you some options angel.
Well done on the drinking too hun!
Back later guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

I dunno, I just thing this isn't really worth the effort - I don't even know if it is depression or not. Good idea about waiting to see what they say at the assessment, see what they say. Ideally I'd like a diagnosis, but I can't really push any more with my doctor, I can't really handle it if they think I'm making a fuss. Struggling to write this, I talked to my mum about it, just in passing, and she just thought I was being difficult. So I'm not gonna be difficult - I ain't going to make a fuss. I'll take the pills they give me, turn up to any appointments they give me, but I ain't going to do anything else.

learning_to_drive

Hi, just had a txt from ex, when I saw 2 messages received on my phone I sorta knew one would be from her before I picked up the phone.

And it was, just wishing me all the best, I just said, look, we need to move on and get on with our lives, wished her all the best, shes replied saying that she knows that, personally I think she wasnt prepared for me to say that to her.

Hasnt knocked me as such, im pleased i managed to tell her where to go! She messed me about too much and when I needed support, she wasnt really there, looking back I made excuses for her which was wrong. . . As we know, the depressed mind doesnt think rationally or long term.

No real issues at the minute, should be able to pay car off tomorrow, then once that clears I will own it, then I can make steps to sell it. Expecting to do that tomorrow, plus hopefully hear from one of my jobs Ive gone in for.

ASDA has been great for my recovery, to show that I can settle in places when Im rational and well in mind, but, im now getting frustrated because its not a long term thing, Im disappointed that depression got me into a situation where I was happy to let working on nights at ASDA be acceptable. Im a drive n, motivated guy and im disappointed, Ive lost 3 months of my life to depression, job swapping and general disasters in my life (g/f troubles etc) and Its been terrible. ASDA is great but now Im better (not cured but better) Im thinking about retail, I didnt like it before, and I just think that im letting myself down by accepting it. Nights are taking over my life, all I seem to do is sleep and miss out on the various football matches that are taking place.

I am not going to jump in to anything, but nights are great for thinking time, and I feel a bit embarassed that Ive let my situation get to me so bad, especially with money / car / job / ex etc. I used to be in control all the time, now i dont feel like im in control of anything, im terrified of getting stuck in a rut and stuck on nights, used to the extra money, stuck in retail etc.

In a way im chuffed I feel like this because it shows that the old me is returning to the fore once again. Surely life is about enjoying yourself? Taking chances and risks? Having depression (3 months from hell as our kid puts it) has made me realise that things can get a lot worse than they are now, but at the same time I realise that I've gotta make up those 3 months and live a bit. I had to split down my problems because I had that many (money, g/f, job change etc) until I found the source of the problem, which I have. My mate suffers and has been to counselling about his split up wi his ex, he says he admires me because I approached him (through a 3rd party) about the issues we suffer with, and that I did really well to cope with all the change I've had since he had to go to counselling about just his break up.

Which made me feel good, Ive had a hellish time recently, I want to get back on track, this isnt designed to sound arrogant or anything, not at all, nothing against ASDA or anything, I studied for A levels at school, I got into University last year, my lifetime aim is to become a teacher (watching Waterloo Road has inspired me again!!) but I never ever get any further than requesting prospectuses / tda guides, or requesting information on teaching, or applying and getting in and then not going.

Random ramblings, in a nutshell, I need out of ASDA and into a job where I have a work / life balance, get some money together and then uni for teaching dream, its something I've always wanted to do. We get one chance on earth, thats it. Whether me thinking that way merely adds to my stresses and the need to get on and succeed I dont know, but I dont want to get to 30 and decide that I should have gone to uni.

learning_to_drive

I hope that doesnt sound too arrogant that post, i really hope it doesnt, after what ive been through im determined to follow my dream, i think what ive been through will make me a much better person and able to provide advice.

My one ambition as a teacher is to be a super-head, or even to stop bullying for one child, we all know how bad bullying can be, makes life utter hell, if I could stop it for one child, I would have succeeded.

CarolnMalky

Evening, how is everyone tonight?

Hope today has been a managable day for everyone.
C x