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  • Cat72
    Cat72 Posts: 2,398 Forumite
    Hiya
    Seems like yesterday was a pit off a day for a lot of people.
    ETHELLBLOGGS- I can sympathise how you feel my bank used to do this all the time and it alwyas comed when you are at your finacial breaking point and really have NO money- like some sick joke .The the bank seems to march in ready to suck everything out of you. The only thing I could think of is do you recieve ANY benefits at all because its illegal for banks to take money for charges from your account if you get any benefits paid into your account. What age is your daughter ? Its tough being a single mother and having to do it all alone and funnily enoguh men rarely contribute financially or physically.

    CCSTAR- Hi your from scotland too- i live outside Glasgow , in the sticks !
    I have read a few of your bloggs and really feel the situation you have to put up for isnt tolerable. I watched my mother in a very abusive relationship- both mentally & physically and how it ruined her. Eventually she literally ran away one day with me when he left for work. We went to a womens refuge where we stayed for years. It was the best thing for us and it let my mother get support, safety & time to rebuild herself again .
    You have one life and it should be happy , I know its hard but you can be happy- you deserve better and if YOU change things you will feel a weight lift and stronger .So please think seriousily about leaving- leave him to stew in the life he has chosen but you deserve a better one and are capable of making it happen- you know that .Good luck x
  • Sugar_Coated_Owl
    Sugar_Coated_Owl Posts: 12,379 Forumite
    :hello:

    flis21 Have a lovely time at the theatre. What are you going to see? It's lovely that your OH has some time off over the next few days. Make the most of it :)

    Ethel How are you? How is your daughter? Thinking of you hun xxx

    Gillette Hope you managed to get the house clean :) Hope you're day has been OK.

    To everyone else, I hope you're all OK (((HUGS))) to all.
    -->♥<-- Sugar Coated Owl -->♥<--

    If you believe, you will survive - Katie Piper

    Woohoo! I'm normal! Gotta go tell the cat.
  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
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    blinky wrote: »
    Huge hugs to all, but especially to CCStar and Ethel who both deserve extra big ones.

    CCStar - my parents are in a similar position, trying to sell the house but not getting any viewings. It is tough

    hug2.gifhug2.gifhug2.gifhug2.gif

    I've given up on this month - I bet it picks up at Easter. This happened three years ago when we were selling.
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    Cat72 wrote: »
    Hiya
    Seems like yesterday was a pit off a day for a lot of people.
    ETHELLBLOGGS- I can sympathise how you feel my bank used to do this all the time and it alwyas comed when you are at your finacial breaking point and really have NO money- like some sick joke .The the bank seems to march in ready to suck everything out of you. The only thing I could think of is do you recieve ANY benefits at all because its illegal for banks to take money for charges from your account if you get any benefits paid into your account. What age is your daughter ? Its tough being a single mother and having to do it all alone and funnily enoguh men rarely contribute financially or physically.

    CCSTAR- Hi your from scotland too- i live outside Glasgow , in the sticks !
    I have read a few of your bloggs and really feel the situation you have to put up for isnt tolerable. I watched my mother in a very abusive relationship- both mentally & physically and how it ruined her. Eventually she literally ran away one day with me when he left for work. We went to a womens refuge where we stayed for years. It was the best thing for us and it let my mother get support, safety & time to rebuild herself again .
    You have one life and it should be happy , I know its hard but you can be happy- you deserve better and if YOU change things you will feel a weight lift and stronger .So please think seriousily about leaving- leave him to stew in the life he has chosen but you deserve a better one and are capable of making it happen- you know that .Good luck x

    In the sticks - you are lucky, I so don't want to live next door to any more neighbours. I feel I am suffocating here, and the place not selling is making it worse. I am dreading the weather being nice and the neighbours being in their gardens :mad:
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • EthelBloggs
    EthelBloggs Posts: 2,740 Forumite
    Hiya folks.. I'm home finally

    Interesting meeting... daughter has now said she doesn't want to live with me anymore, so they're gonna work towards her being ready for independent living. No weekends home for the foreseeable future either. They've also recommended that she spends at least 6 months in the secure unit :eek:

    At the moment she isn't allowed out without a member of staff escorting her.. she has to earn back the right to go out on her own..

    There's another meeting on monday now to discuss her care plan and thats when I'll really find out properly whats going on.

    I'm bloody knackered!
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  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
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    EthelBloggs wrote: »
    Hiya folks.. I'm home finally

    Interesting meeting... daughter has now said she doesn't want to live with me anymore, so they're gonna work towards her being ready for independent living. No weekends home for the foreseeable future either. They've also recommended that she spends at least 6 months in the secure unit :eek:

    At the moment she isn't allowed out without a member of staff escorting her.. she has to earn back the right to go out on her own..

    There's another meeting on monday now to discuss her care plan and thats when I'll really find out properly whats going on.

    I'm bloody knackered!

    I bet you are - (((extra big hugs)))

    It must be so upsetting to hear this but I feel in the long run, it will hopefully sort things out. You could not go on the way you did.

    Here is hoping her careplan is going to work for you both.
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • EthelBloggs
    EthelBloggs Posts: 2,740 Forumite
    Thanks CC.. to be fair, they were a lot more concerned about the impact she has at home so.. it seems the tiffy letter did a lot of good. I told them that I really dont feel physically or mentally able to cope with her at home right now and they were very understanding of that..

    Daughter announced that she doens't think it would ever work out with her living with me and that she'd sooner not come home.. not sure if that was a reaction to me saying i can't cope atm or if she was being honest but it did feel a bit like a punch in the gut.

    I'm worried that her eating disorder is creeping back cos we went out to tea afterwards (with a staff member sitting by the door just in case) and she woudnt have anything to eat at all.. they are monitoring her very closely for that.

    gonna try and visit her on sunday but it's an awful hike to get there and then again on monday.. *sigh*
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    12 stone down! :j
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  • EthelBloggs
    EthelBloggs Posts: 2,740 Forumite
    razorbladekisses wrote: »
    Hang in there Ethel. You're such a strong person who can overcome this. *HUGS*

    Thanks RBK.. everyone comments on how strong I am.. but I'm not.. I just do what I have to, I don't have any alternative do I?

    Hows you today? is that pain gone?
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    12 stone down! :j
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  • Sugar_Coated_Owl
    Sugar_Coated_Owl Posts: 12,379 Forumite
    Oh Ethel I'm sorry to hear about what your daughter said (((HUGS)))

    At least it looks like she is going to be staying there for the time being, in a place that is well equipped to meet her needs.

    I suppose on the other hand it may be seen as a relief to you and your family. It seems like you had a truly awful time when your daughter was at home. No one should have to put up with that. At least now she is in a safe place and being looked after.

    I admire you for all what you have gone through and overcome.

    I'm OK. No the pain is still there :( really quite painful tbh.
    -->♥<-- Sugar Coated Owl -->♥<--

    If you believe, you will survive - Katie Piper

    Woohoo! I'm normal! Gotta go tell the cat.
  • EthelBloggs
    EthelBloggs Posts: 2,740 Forumite
    hmmm... not sure what that pain can be.. could you have twisted it or anything?
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    Murphys no more pies club Member #41 :dance:
    12 stone down! :j
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